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From a woman who has been there and back, the first inside look at the devastating effects evangelical Christianity’s purity culture has had on a generation of young women - in a potent combination of journalism, cultural commentary, and memoir. 

In the 1990s, a “purity industry” emerged out of the white evangelical Christian culture. Purity rings, purity pledges, and purity balls came with a dangerous message: girls are potential sexual “stumbling blocks” for boys and men, and any expression of a girl’s sexuality could reflect the corruption of her character. This message traumatized many girls - resulting in anxiety, fear, and experiences that mimicked the symptoms of post-traumatic stress disorder - and trapped them in a cycle of shame. 

This is the sex education Linda Kay Klein grew up with. 

Fearing being marked a Jezebel, Klein broke up with her high school boyfriend because she thought God told her to, and took pregnancy tests though she was a virgin, terrified that any sexual activity would be punished with an out-of-wedlock pregnancy. When the youth pastor of her church was convicted of sexual enticement of a 12-year-old girl, Klein began to question the purity-based sexual ethic. She contacted young women she knew, asking if they were coping with the same shame-induced issues she was. These intimate conversations developed into a 12-year quest that took her across the country and into the lives of women raised in similar religious communities - a journey that facilitated her own healing and led her to churches that are seeking a new way to reconcile sexuality and spirituality. 

Sexual shame is by no means confined to evangelical culture; Pure is a powerful wake-up call about our society’s subjugation of women.

©2018 Linda Kay Klein (P)2018 Simon & Schuster

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Where has this book been my whole life?

This book is a must read for anyone who was raised in purity culture or is thinking about raising their children and purity culture. I understand myself better after reading this book.

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Her story, our stories

This book is an essential for anyone who has be affected by the church purity culture, or anyone who is trying to understand a loved one who grew up in that world.

It's personal, thoughtful, and intelligently written. This book is painful, but it is freeing. Thank you, Linda Kay Klein, and thank you to everyone who shared their stories.

It makes sense that this book was narrated by the author, and she does it well.

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great

so helpful for christians who grew up in purity culture to reimagine a new more loving mode of faith. thankyou .

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Wanted to hear more!

I grew up in this church and had similar experiences. I no longer go to church but maintain a relationship with God. I realized a lot about myself by listening to this book.

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Story of my life

Passing this around to all 4 of my sister. It is helping me heal and I’m sure it will do the same for them. AND probably a free of my brothers too!

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Hard to read, hard not to

Narration was essential to the story. Well done. I’ll be recommending it to my former youth group friends.

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Powerful exposition of sexual shaming in the church

This book resonated with me deeply and matched my experience in so many ways. As I work toward an understanding of my own shame and internalized messages, this book made me cry, laugh, and nod with recognition. This book is beautifully written with so many honest stories. It is peppered with humor and personality that keeps the shame and trauma from feeling too heavy.

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life changing

life changing, for those who the purity movement has done wring, this book can help you grapple with the many conflicting emotions you might be dealing with.

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Oh. My. God. This book is my life!

As a woman who grew up in the evangelical purity culture, I was nodding my head with nearly every story within this book. I'm just starting to realize, at age 33, how much of this culture seeped into my mind and informs attitudes and behaviors I have even now, 15+ years later. I think every ex-evangelist should read this book! It's very well-written and straightforward. I might start handing out copies at my high school reunions.

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Thank you, thank you, thank you

I can’t tell you how desperately I needed to read this book. Wow. I can’t recommend it enough to anyone. I connected with everything in here so strongly. Please read this if you lived in or through purity culture.