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  • An Evolving Man Podcast looks at men's psychology, healing trauma, boarding school syndrome, spirituality and healing. Every few weeks there will be an interview around men's topics ranging from self-development, relationships, spirituality, archetypes, and men's work featuring authors and leaders in this field.
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  • AEM# 26 Dick Moore - Mental Health in Schools & Boarding Schools - What Can We Do To Help The Young People?

    Jan 11 2022

    Today I am speaking with Dick Moore on my podcast. We talk about with the current mental health crisis in schools and with young people. We talk about suicide, self-harming and the pressure that young people are under. What can we do?

    Dick Moore has worked as an English teacher, rugby coach, boarding school housemaster and, for over twenty years, the headmaster of a co-educational day and boarding school.

    He has a passionate interest in adolescent development and emotional wellbeing. He qualified as a Youth Mental Health First Aid Instructor in 2012 and joined the Charlie Waller Trust in 2012. He has also attended an ASIST Suicide Intervention course.

    Dick now travels the country giving talks to teachers, young people and parents to help raise awareness of mental health issues.


    I  would like for you to talk further about some of the following subjects:



    1. Can you share a little about your own journey? What drew you into doing the work that you now do regarding mental health?
    2. I would be really interested to hear you speak about suicide and suicide ideation. Why is this such a problem at the moment especially with young people? And especially young males?
    3. The pressure young people are under. Do you feel that young people are under more pressure now than in our day, especially after the last 2 years? Why is this? What can we as adults support them? What can young people do to manage and handle this pressure better? 
    4. I would love for you to speak a little about mental health in boarding schools. In your opinion, is there more pressure in a boarding school environment than a day school? One of my friends committed suicide while I was at boarding school. I saw the amount of pressure the boy was under and the lack of support. Has this changed since our day at boarding school?
    5. Could you speak a little on male and female emotional honesty please? Do you feel that this has developed over the years or not?
    6. I would love you to speak on the whole area of discrimination - in all walks of life…families, schools, friendships, businesses, race, creed, gender etc. etc.
    7. How do we better support the young people? Especially in boarding schools where the houseparents are often under so much pressure. Is there something that we can set up in schools? In your experience what do you feel would work?
    8. How do people learn more about what you do or reach out to you?



    #mentalhealth #mentalhealthchildren #boardingschool



    For more information about Dick's work and to invite him to speak at your school please visit:https://www.dickmoore.org/



    To find out more about the Charlie Waller Trust: https://charliewaller.org/



    A PDF spreadsheet about mental health: https://docs.wixstatic.com/ugd/b5791d_58764f25627b4275a3c925206b3e8a74.pdf



    Mental Health Qualifications: https://mentalhealthlearning.co.uk/courses/asist/

    or: https://mhfaengland.org/individuals/youth/



    Papyrus Mental Health Charity: https://www.papyrus-uk.org/

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    1 hr and 18 mins
  • AEM Podcast #25 - Theuns Opperman - Headteacher Talks About Duty of Care in Boarding Schools

    Dec 24 2021



    AEM Podcast #25 - Theuns Opperman - Headteacher Talks About Duty of Care, 'Breaking Children Down To Build Them Up' and Abuse in Boarding Schools 

    Today I am speaking with Theuns Opperman who is a headteacher based in South Africa. 

    He has been in teaching for 20 years and has worked in several boarding schools. 

    Today we explore his take on why elite schools and especially boarding schools seem to put the institutions first rather than the children. 

    He goes on to explore what we can start to do to change the system and stop the abuse and sexual grooming which goes on in some of these schools. 

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    Theuns Opperman is a headteacher in South Africa. He set up the Teach! Conferences which support teacher development in 2012. He has been a teacher for over 20 years and has worked in boarding schools both as a teacher and on a senior level. He now works as a principal in a secondary school in Johannesburg.

    Here are some of the questions that he answers: 

    1. I would love for you to begin by sharing some of your own journey. What inspired you to get into teaching? What was the inspiration behind speaking up about some of the high profile suicide and sexual abuse cases in South Africa, especially in boarding schools?
    2. Could you explain a little bit about Thomas Kruger please? What happened? W
    3. Why, in your opinion, do schools cover up any negative press, especially around sexual abuse? Why is it that it is school first, children second? Has it changed?
    4. You mention in your article that in some boarding schools they want to break the child down in order to build them up. I know from my boarding experience that this approach didn't work for me. What is your feeling about this? What should schools be doing instead?
    5. Having worked in a boarding school do you feel that the load placed on the teachers and houseparents is too much? For this reason is this why they miss the abuse? What can be done? 
    6. Many schools in South Africa and across the UK have had military style discipline. And most of the discipline has been meted out by the children. Does this work? 
    7. What is the importance of having teachers that have emotional intelligence? How do they cultivate this?
    8. What in your opinion are the “layers of experience in a boarding environment?” 
    9. In your opinion as a headteacher how do we start to change the system? How do we make it so that it is children first, schools second? What needs to happen?

    Some of Theuns' quotes:


     “If schools cannot meet the needs of the students that they serve, they need to stop existing.”

     “My theory is that - because of our romanticization of the suffering - we look past the real harm. We justify the bullying and dehumanisation as part of a process of growing up and “becoming a man”.”

    To read his article on Duty of Care: https://theunsjan.blogspot.com/2021/10/my-only-story-and-our-duty-of-care.html#comment-form

    For his blog: https://theunsjan.blogspot.com/

    On News 24 (trigger warning for the Podcast): https://www.news24.com/news24/columnists/guestcolumn/opinion-theuns-opperman-david-mackenzie-saga-the-importance-of-duty-of-care-to-our-pupils-20211014

     --- Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. 

    He also runs online men's groups, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. 

    For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic 
    For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community 

    Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/ 

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    1 hr and 2 mins
  • AEM Podcast #24 - Laurence Johns - Mankind Project - Toxic Masculinity, Men's Groups & Community

    Dec 7 2021

    Today I am speaking with Laurence Johns from The ManKind Project, MKP. Laurence is the Development and Outreach Director at The ManKind Project UK and Ireland. The MKP is a men's charity that helps "to nurture a global community of men who have the strength of character to show love, support healthy relationships, and make the world a kinder place."


    Some of the questions I ask him:

    1. I'd love you to speak about some of your own fascinating journey. What drew you into men's work?
    2. You work as the Development and Outreach Director at the MKP. Could you share more about the MKP's mission, what it does
    3. I'd love you to speak about masculinity and both toxic masculinity and benevolent masculinity
    4. I am fascinated by the power of community. You mention on your website that “the only real currency left, is community”. Can you speak more on this please?
    5. In the work that you are doing with the Mankind project what is the current state of men's mental health? What have you found has really helped men with their mental health?
    6. Could you speak about the power and importance of positive initiation please? Why is it so important and what happens to men when we don't have it in our lives?
    7. I would love to honour Robert Bly who passed away 10 days ago. Are there any bits of wisdom from Robert that you could share? Any stories? Anything that you have learned?
    8. How do people get in touch with you and learn more about the ManKind Project?


    To learn more about the Mankind Project UK and Ireland please visit: https://mankindprojectuki.org/

    To learn more about the Mankind Project globally: https://mankindproject.org/

    For the female version, Women In Power please visit: https://womeninpoweruk.com/

    Or Women Within: https://womanwithin.org.uk/

    Or Celebration of Being which hosts gatherings for both men, women and mixed: https://www.celebrationofbeing.co.uk/

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    Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. 

    He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 

    For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross 
    For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic 
    For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community 

    Many blessings, 

    Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/ 

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    1 hr and 2 mins

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