Today's topic is one that a lot of people find intimidating, yet so many are curious about. We're talking all things KINK and I can't wait to share this expansive conversation with all of you.

Here's a bit about my guest:

Katherine Friedman (she/her) is a psychotherapist and intimacy consultant living and working in New York City and the Hudson Valley. She is a New York Licensed Mental Health Counselor, an Oregon Licensed Professional Counselor, and an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. She uses her mindful, embodied approach to assist people in all areas of sex therapy and exploration, with a particular enthusiasm for working with people from marginalized communities and those pursuing alternative sexualities and relationship styles to meet their unique desires. As a teacher, Katherine provides classes on mindfulness, embodiment, kink, empowerment, and trauma in an array of venues. As a provider, she provides both long-term therapy and short-term consulting based on the needs and locations of clients.

Katherine also happens to be OG Nothing Confidential Alum! And I am SO EXCITED to welcome her back on the show! You can listen to our first conversation here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/nothing-confidential-the-podcast/id1490318058?i=1000472980657

In THIS sit-down, we're venturing into the world of kink and exploring:

• The evolution of Katherine's trauma adaptations
• Healing trauma through kink
• Bondage & Why you need to know what a Non-collapsing single column tie is ;)

• Why everyone is confused about kink

• What NOT to do when getting into kink

• What NOT to do when getting into kink

• The biggest problem with the 50 shades franchise

• Tips for getting better at dirty talk

• And Katherine's Car Wash Kink (trust, you do not want to miss it!)

Resources/Links

Work with Katherine!

www.articulatedesire.com

E-mail Katherine:

hello@articulatedesire.com

Read Katherine's Writings & Follow Her on IG:

https://www.instagram.com/articulatedesire/

Kink Books:

The New Bottoming Book

The New Topping Book

Playing Well with Others

Educators:

https://www.avgisaketopoulou.com/

https://www.instagram.com/mollena_lee_williams_haas/

https://www.instagram.com/stellaharriserotica/?hl=en

https://planetmidori.com/

**PART 2**

Former party boy turned podcast host, Dustin Rybka hosts Sex Party, a show where he talks about all things sex and relationships with a different guest each and every Wednesday. As with any good party though, sometimes things get messy...

Like this 2-part conversation you're about to hear!

In today's episode(s), my pal Dustin and I will be taking you on a journey through the many twists and turns of his reluctant quest for self-betterment.

I went in with some expectations (which almost got me in trouble)... But when I dropped those (20-30 minutes in), what got to happen instead was an incredibly layered, multi-dimensional, textured conversation that wreaks with humanity, honesty, and innate goodness.

A few things we're excavating are:

• Exploring the pain threshold: Self-punishing or healing?

• How terrifying vulnerability can be+Vulnerability with boundaries.

• Trusting the consistency/predictability of painful experiences over the vulnerability of hopefulness...

• What happens when we believe that our pain and struggle are the most interesting things about us...

• How scary/painful that moment before choosing healing/transformation can be.

• AND ALL KINDS OF THINGS YOU NEVER SAW COMING!

This is one of those conversations that will leave you with more questions than answers and I LOVE THAT. It takes courage to examine the parts of you that are incongruent. It takes courage to be in messy process. It takes courage to keep asking the hard questions of ourselves and those around us in order to gain clarity about where we're going and who we ultimately want to be.

We hope this conversation gives you permission to be messy. Be curious. Be human.

XO,

Christin & Dustin

Connect with Dustin

IG:

https://www.instagram.com/dustinrybka

Listen to My Interview with Dustin on Sex Party!

(And check out the other steamy episodes on ALL THE THINGS!)

IG:

https://www.instagram.com/sexpartyfm

Referenced Material

Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott

Former party boy turned podcast host, Dustin Rybka hosts Sex Party, a show where he talks about all things sex and relationships with a different guest each and every Wednesday. As with any good party though, sometimes things get messy...

Like this 2-part conversation you're about to hear!

In today's episode(s), my pal Dustin and I will be taking you on a journey through the many twists and turns of his reluctant quest for self-betterment.

I went in with some expectations (which almost got me in trouble)... But when I dropped those (20-30 minutes in), what got to happen instead was an incredibly layered, multi-dimensional, textured conversation that wreaks with humanity, honesty, and innate goodness.

A few things we're excavating are:

• Exploring the pain threshold: Self-punishing or healing?

• How terrifying vulnerability can be+Vulnerability with boundaries.

• Trusting the consistency/predictability of painful experiences over the vulnerability of hopefulness...

• What happens when we believe that our pain and struggle are the most interesting things about us...

• How scary/painful that moment before choosing healing/transformation can be.

• AND ALL KINDS OF THINGS YOU NEVER SAW COMING!

This is one of those conversations that will leave you with more questions than answers and I LOVE THAT. It takes courage to examine the parts of you that are incongruent. It takes courage to be in messy process. It takes courage to keep asking the hard questions of ourselves and those around us in order to gain clarity about where we're going and who we ultimately want to be.

We hope this conversation gives you permission to be messy. Be curious. Be human.

XO,

Christin & Dustin

Connect with Dustin

IG:

https://www.instagram.com/dustinrybka

Listen to My Interview with Dustin on Sex Party!

(And check out the other steamy episodes on ALL THE THINGS!)

IG:

https://www.instagram.com/sexpartyfm

Referenced Material

Existential Kink by Carolyn Elliott