What Grieving People Wish You Knew About What Really Helps (and What Really Hurts)

And How to Avoid Being That Person Who Hurts Instead of Helps

By: Nancy Guthrie

Narrated by: Ann Richardson

Length: 5 hrs and 9 mins

Publisher's summary

When someone we love is grieving, we want to be there. But it's easy to feel paralyzed, worried that we might say or do the wrong thing.

Nancy Guthrie has personal experience dealing with pain and knows what words of encouragement are helpful and what words are harmful. Drawing from her own life experiences - including the loss of two young children - Guthrie has written this helpful resource for Christians who want to be better friends to those who are suffering. Practical and down-to-earth, this book includes examples and helpful tips from real grieving people who have been helped (and hurt) by friends who meant well, equipping listeners to come alongside and comfort loved ones who are hurting.

©2016 eChristian (P)2016 eChristian

Good advice

I listened to this book just before beginning to lead a grief and loss Bible study. I felt it important to hear a few “does and don’ts” for how people think about what others say to them after a loss. Having experienced my own losses, some of the lessons learned were familiar while others were not.
I appreciated hearing the stories of others throughout the book. There was an array if losses... parents, children, spouses ... that enabled me to feel a little more comfortable in the group I was about to lead.
Like all self help books, I didn’t necessarily agree with everything that was said, I will take the ones I need going forward.
The narrator of this book did a good job as she moved from author to others speaking.

Wonderful Resource

I was helped tremendously by this book. Would have appreciated if it were easier to differentiate between the author's own experience and the quotations she uses.

Learning To Care Well

This is such a warm, honest and God-honouring corrective against being uncaring towards grieving people. It is also an expertly guide on how to care well for those in the throes of loss and berievement. The goal is to help, not to hurt.

Rejoice and Grieve

With a new relationship in hands, my beautiful bride to be has lost her mother. This is something I’m not familiar with or can say can relate too. I started this books in hopes of doing more of the right things instead of the wrong. I have repented and been given an understanding by reading and practicing what this book teaches. I would recommend to anyone who is genuinely seeking to be their for someone during their time of grief.

Very Helpful❤️

Full of practical advice and ideas with a lot of deeper understanding. I ended up with 22 book markers.

very insightful, scriptural and well written.

very insightful. I would really recommend this book not only as a professional but especially for young Pastors or counseling professionals

Empathy/& Christianity Based

I found the communication lessons helpful however it shifts to religion... Anyone grieving tends to lean more on external forces and I feel like this can become exploitive of the individual as they should be concerned about their loved ones.

Excellent Book, Poor Narration

It is very hard to find a practical book on grief. They all seem to be filled with platitudes, especially the Christian ones. This one is practical and filled with a lot of good advice. I wish I could say the same for the narration. It was rather depressing.

Very good

The very good book very informative, sometimes it is very sad to listen to to enter into peoples grief

Insightful and Practical

Nancy Guthrie and others who contributed helped me understand my wife's grief and more equipped to walk with her in it. It provided me a window into understanding her. It gave me a better sense of what not to say and what to say in my desire to comfort her. Recommend highly!