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Publisher's Summary

Dr. Rober A. Glover has a Ph.D in marriage and family therapy and is co-director of the Center for Healing and Recovery in Washington state.

In No More Mr. Nice Guy!, he presents a guide to creating a healthy and satisfying life. Dr. Glover believes there are men who suffer what he calls the "Nice Guy Syndrome". These men listen, offer advice, and jump at the chance to help. But no matter how hard they try to please others, their own lives are incomplete.

Here Dr. Glover offers guidance on how to take back control. He suggests ways to achieve fulfillment in emotional, physical, and professional relationships. By redefining his priorities, any man can create the life he always wanted.

©2000, 2003 Robert Glover (P)2004 Recorded Books, LLC.

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Things that make you go Hmm...

If you could sum up No More Mr. Nice Guy! in three words, what would they be?

Honest, Accurate and Revealing

What other book might you compare No More Mr. Nice Guy! to and why?

The power of vulnerability by Brene Brown. I mean in a way they bother speak to the crippling power of being scarred by shame and vulnerability. Not having your needs met as a child and the way you are made to over compensate as an adult.

Have you listened to any of Robert O'Keefe’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

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What insight do you think you’ll apply from No More Mr. Nice Guy!?

The must important and revealing thing for me is that.. I am not alone and many people feel the same vulnerability I do and secondly I am good enough.

Any additional comments?

When I read the part that said " Nice guys were bottom feeders" it literally drove a spike in my heart.. I mean after all the years of running to make everyone happy....feeling noble feeling like a hero and actually its was just that ..I was bottom feeding...living on scraps..taking what ever i could get... and being happy with it. Sometimes when the truth is that brutal you are forced to blink.

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Holy $4!t this me!

It was like a fog was lifted off of my brain. I could see that there is hope for me. I am going through a divorce and realize my contribution to the breakup does not have me wanting for answers. I see how my behavior and upbringing have made me successful and yet feel unsuccessful. I am going back to counseling and will continue to read the book. The journey has just begun. I think I have found the way to be a healthy male and contribute to society again.

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Painful, life changing, Read It TWICE

Wow. This book hits home. Amazing insights into why nice guys fail. How putting others first is sabotaging your self. I struggled with thinking this book was selfish, but after a second read it is clear that this book wasn’t written for selfish people. It was generated for folks that don’t put their needs first.

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Start to a Better Life

I'm on my 4th listen and each time I've gone back it just hit home harder for me. One of the exercises was to say no when you don't want to do something. Being a nice guy, that killed me. I got through it and realized that it was ok for me to take actions based on my desires and decline things I don't want to do. I've learned that I have been lying to myself for years by trying to keep the peace with everyone, thus building up anger and resentment. No More Mr. Nice Guy put a name and a process for recovery in my face to open my eyes to an abundance mindset. This has given me the "it's ok" to have wants and it's ok to go after them. I needed that.

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Embarrassingly good

A very adult look at what I have been doing wrong in my life. A lot of new information, and some very fresh perspectives. It's funny, I'm not a typical nice guy. I'm strong, successful and have had a life of successful relationships. But, I still find that the women in my life are not carrying their weight especially in the bedroom. This book helped me to realize that many of my methods are flawed with unhelpful pride and crushing shame.

I would hope that there is a similar book written for women. But this book is an often uncomfortable but important read.

Gare Henderson

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Hits close to home

This is a self help book but, it really might be useful anyway. Being a nice guy does not appear to work in most relationships long term so this book may help one clearly see that trying harder will not help. Offers insights such as most men have been taught and reared by women nearly exclusively and this is not natural. Most importantly this book offers actual suggestions of what men could do differently to change their doormat persona.

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  • JF
  • 09-26-17

Good content, but the reader is a drag

The guy reading sounds like Droopy the cartoon dog. He has a really unenthused, depressing beta voice - something that stands in stark contrast to the contents of the book, and it's extremely distracting. You're much better off reading the book itself.

That said, the book's actual contents are an eye-opener. This was the first of several "manosphere" books I've read, and it served to teach some of the most important lessons, laying the fundamental groundwork for a shift in how I perceived myself and how I perceived all social interactions. It's among the least controversial of books in its genre, compared to others like The Rational Male which are more bitter to swallow but ultimately more rewarding. Despite this book's lack of controversy, what it teaches is a paradigm that society at large seeks to suppress. The book doesn't teach a set of instructions; it teaches a mindset: a mindset that all successful men have already acquired.

In essence, the book teaches the reader why men are encouraged to be "Nice Guys," but are essentially punished- not rewarded- for those efforts. The myth in western society is that a Nice Guy is a virtuous man who will be rewarded for his piety, when in fact he is merely an enslaved- and typically frustrated- doormat.

This is why the lessons learned here are completely counterintuitive - teaching men to do the exact things they were told NOT to do all their lives - but they work.

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  • Al
  • 07-28-11

Excellent book

This is an excellent book on trying and just doing it without trying to be perfect all the time. Also the advice to team work is important and is suggested. But the most important is how to confront one's fear of failure, asking others for help and asking ones need to be met.

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Great Book

Would you listen to No More Mr. Nice Guy! again? Why?

I've listened to this book 4 times. It was tough to hear the first time, because so much rang true, but it's really helping me see my actions in a way that helps me change them to get what I want. Thank you Dr. Glover.

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I am a changed man.

Any additional comments?

I have listened to a lot of personal and professional self-improvement books. Unlike all of the others combined, this one has changed my paradigm - and I am a happier, stronger, healthier, and more confident man for it.

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