No More Mean Girls

The Secret to Raising Strong, Confident, and Compassionate Girls

By: Katie Hurley

Narrated by: Katie Hurley

Length: 8 hrs and 15 mins

Publisher's summary

In this Queen Bees and Wannabes for the elementary and middle school set, child and adolescent psychotherapist Katie Hurley shows parents of young girls how to nip mean girl behavior in the bud.

Once upon a time, mean girls primarily existed in high school, while elementary school-aged girls spent hours at play and enjoyed friendships without much drama. But in this fast-paced world in which young girls are exposed to negative behaviors on TV and social media from the moment they enter school, they are also becoming caught up in social hierarchies much earlier. No More Mean Girls is a guide for parents to help their young daughters navigate tricky territories such as friendship building, creating an authentic self, standing up for themselves and others, and expressing themselves in a healthy way.

The need to be liked by others certainly isn't new, but this generation of girls is growing up in an age when the "like" button shows the world just how well-liked they are. When girls acknowledge that they possess positive traits that make them interesting, strong, and likeable, however, the focus shifts and their self-confidence soars; "likes" lose their importance. This book offers actionable steps to help parents empower young girls to be kind, confident leaders who work together and build each other up.

©2018 Katie Hurley (P)2018 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

"A veritable treasure chest of ways to help you help girls learn to love themselves, realize their talents, get along and empathize with others, find their inner courage, and lead more successful and fulfilled lives. The fact is, this may well be the only book you will need to raise great girls." (From the foreword by Michele Borba, EdD, best-selling author of Unselfie and The Big Book of Parenting Solutions)

"Far too many girls, suffering serious stressors and societal pressures at an early age, are struggling with self-esteem and are cruel to one another. Hurley immerses herself in this complex world and sheds critical light on how we can do the vital work of raising girls who are sturdier, kinder, and more able to thrive. Her guidance is wise, practical, and concrete." (Richard Weissbourd, senior lecturer and faculty director, Making Caring Common, Harvard Graduate School of Education)

"Katie Hurley’s No More Mean Girls will be an oft-referenced book on my shelf because Hurley’s expertise goes beyond the academic. She has real, practical experience working with girls, and their words are one of the most valuable parts of this book. Hurley’s practical advice is a boon to any parent who hopes to ease a daughter through the challenging terrain of childhood and adolescence, particularly when that childhood is lived in the harsh spotlight of social media." (Jessica Lahey, New York Times best-selling author of The Gift of Failure)

Good book

Good book looking into the insights of mean girl culture. Gives a lot of ideas of activities, but I don’t think I can apply them all, would love if it had more examples and real life discussions with girls

Good information

This book is packed with lots of information and great messages, and she is right on with how girls can be socially aggressive from a very young age. At times, she comes off a little preachy and back seat driver-ish in her tone and words. I think overall a good book and very important read for parents and teachers.

very insightful

I enjoyed this book. I will apply quite a few ideas when relating to our 11 year old daughter.

A wonderful tool for any mother of a girl!

This has been such an enjoyable book to listen to with a lot of note taking and projects on the horizon.
As a mother of a 9 year old girl this book has provided me with tools that are priceless.
Thank you Katie Hurley for this gift!

highly recommend!

positive insight to help mom's understand our habits and how to support our daughters... very well written

Must Read for Mom's with Girls!

My daughter has struggled with bullies and just out-right mean-spirited girls! I became this book with hopes of encouraging my daughter and equipping her to stand up to those girls. However, as I listened further, I heard several scenarios that described MY daughter perfectly. I also heard many others that describe these other girls we encounter often and struggle with. I'm humbled by the information I gleaned from this book and it helped change my mind and approach! I feel better equipped to guide girls through this tough time and can't wait to share it with other mom's! If there were a curriculum that I could implement in a Mother-Daughter group, I'd buy it right now and get started! Can we please make that a thing? Ha! But, seriously. Can we?

Fabulous book for parents of 2nd-8th grade girls

Highly recommend. This book has shifted so much in our house for the better. Remind yourself girls still need to be kids, we need to model what we want to see, and we need to take the time to explain expectations and set them at realistic levels from the girls in our lives.