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Janet Lansbury is unique among parenting experts. As an RIE teacher and student of pioneering child specialist Magda Gerber, her advice is not based solely on formal studies and the research of others, but also on her 20 years of hands-on experience guiding hundreds of parents and their toddlers. No Bad Kids is a collection of Janet's most popular and widely read articles pertaining to common toddler behaviors and how respectful parenting practices can be applied to benefit both parents and children. It covers such common topics as punishment, cooperation, boundaries, testing, tantrums, hitting, and more. No Bad Kids provides a practical, indispensable tool for parents who are anticipating or experiencing those critical years when toddlers are developmentally obliged to test the limits of our patience and love. Armed with knowledge and a clearer sense of the world through our children's eyes, this period of uncertainty can afford a myriad of opportunities to forge unbreakable bonds of trust and respect.

©2014 Janet Lansbury (P)2014 Janet Lansbury

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Absolutely worth it!

This book is so wonderful for me, as a parent of an 18 month old. Love the principles and I've seen positive results to the application. She doesn't just talk method, she shares specific examples, which I find invaluable. Highly recommended!

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Changing Lives

This is the best book on toddler discipline I have read. Janet's instructions are easy to implement. This book changed our family dynamic in just a week!

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We can do this.... Great mantra

I love her specific examples and advice. I wish I had read this when my son was a baby.

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great!

this was a great book. it contradicts many other books I read but it has helped me with realizing I shouldn't lose my cool with my daughter. the only complaint I have is that it was too short lol

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Wow! I can't believe it works.

I was a bit skeptical in the beginning since I've been given several books with contradicting advice. I'm a first time mom/SHM and my son is now 16 months. I began using the practices in this book a few days ago and noticed a major change in our interactions. I would get frustrated with myself and with him when he would throw, hit and spit - and just about every normal toddler behavior you could think of. I've finished the book and now have a completely different perspective on parenting and i just a few days of work I feel like I understand my son and he understands me. I don't use third person narratives like "Mommy doesn't want you to hit" instead I just say, "I won't let you hit me". I recommend this to all. Thank you, Janet, for really helping me to change my entire perspective on parenting.

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A must read for every parent

This book is simple to listen to accessible and hugely important. This is life-changing material and I can't wait to put these practices to use with my toddler.

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Powerful

I can't wait for to put everything into practice with my 18 month old. Thank you!

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Useful

I got useful things from this book, primarily regarding the perspective on button pushing and how much children actually want to be told "no".

However, the book neglects to make important distinctions which make for a confusing, seemingly contradictory read at times.

"Treat children like adults because they have dignity, but don't treat children like adults because that isn't fair to the child."

"Don't tell your children 'no' too much because it will be a source if needless conflict, but definitely tell them 'no' often because they need to know you are in charge in order to feel secure"

You have to work hard to figure it out without much help from the author.

Also, it's largely material from her blog and podcast so it feels a little like a cheat, but perhaps I'm being too stingy there 😅

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Highly highly recommend

Amazing! Such good information and examples. Made a huge difference in my kids. Want to share with every mom! Also read whole brained child which was helpful showing how these applications positivity effect the brain.

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life changing!!!

this book is amazing and has changed my life. It's changed the way I parent and the way I co-exist in this world. I recommend anyone reads this and applies the tools that RIE uses.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 09-07-16

A must read for all parents and carriers of toddlers

A well written and read book that is to the point with clear examples. Buy this book before you buy any other.

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  • 02-24-17

A poorly assembled collection of blog posts

Any additional comments?

The core thesis of this book can be summarised as: accord your child's feelings, opinions, needs and wants with the same respect you would give any other persons. This is a compelling proposition, I've read the primary research that substantiates it and, because my initial, uninformed opinion was more "authoritarian", I've seen the happy, emotionally mature and thoughtful children its progressive adoption has created in my own family.

So the idea behind this book is good. But the book itself is terrible and best described as a "listicle of listicles". As the introduction notes, the content is mostly sourced from the author's blog posts and it shows in the low quality book that results.

Consisting of about 30-35k words, the book is divided into 35 short chapters. Whilst these are loosely grouped into themes it's hard to find an arc to the book. Certainly none is articulated. What's more, most of the individual articles are themselves nothing more than lists. Whether it's inability, lack of effort or a genuine, unarticulated impossibility, the author has not attempted to synthesise any overall conclusions or connect chapter to chapter. The resulting text is, quite literally, a list of lists:

"Chapter 1. First, XXX. Second, YYY. Third, ZZZ. Etc"

Some of the more interesting content are the letters from parents with the author's response. Whilst the responses almost always devolve to a list, prefaced with "Dear" and suffixed with "Warmly", the case example provided by the initiating letter provide context to an otherwise platitudinous flow of words.

And this is the deeper problem. Whilst I agree with the author's mindset and perspective, an agreement based on my own independent reading of the research, she presents no research or arguments for why her view is right. An endless sequence of platitudes and appeals to the authority of someone else who says the same thing is no more convincing than Gina Ford's (antithetical) arguments for scheduling and authoritarian discipline.

To summarise: A book is much more than a collection of chapters. An argument is much more than an assertion. Other books ("Raising Boys" and "Raising Girls" come to mind) put this poor effort to shame.

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  • Christine
  • 10-19-18

How every child deserves to be raised

I feel more energised and confident as a mum after listening to this- I intend to listen over and over again... what I’ve been looking for for months.

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  • patricia neary
  • 09-19-18

great ways to help guide your toddler and children

learned some new things and alot to ponder. To help in our gentle parenting journey

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  • Josh
  • 09-15-18

Clear and concise

This book is a must for anyone looking for answers to the most perplexing questions of toddler behaviour.

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  • Tristan
  • 08-01-17

unruffled parenting approach

love how Janet takes the pressure and guilt out of parenting to help us become better.

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  • Bashy
  • 02-17-17

Indispensable advice

Brilliant advice with real life examples and steps to follow. All resonate with every parent in the world. Thank you!

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  • Justin
  • 09-16-17

generally very insightful

This is one of those books where you take from it what you need.. A lot of good stuff here, but also a bit of fluff that does not resonate with me and maybe over-simplifies things at times.. In general as a dad i am impressed and will no doubt listen again when my 6 month old little monkey starts gets a bit older..

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  • Ally
  • 02-08-17

Very easy to listen and take note from. Useful!

I found this a text I could digest between awake times with my son. Easy to understand and in bite size portions

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-06-18

extremely useful parenting tool

really enjoyed this. it's benefited myself in the way I parent everyday with my daughter responding positively.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 10-10-18

So on point it's scary!!

This confirmed for my husband and I that we are actually doing a pretty good job raising our 2 year old son, when we actually thought we were struggling.
Janet is bang on about so many things but mainly for us talking to my son like a normal human being instead of an incapable child or third person worked wonders. Also learning myself to sit through the tantrum and calmly wait for the storm to pass instead of loosing my cool and walking away leaving him vulnerable..... I wish I had read this sooner

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  • Kirsty Louise Harper
  • 09-14-18

Great for behaviour. i wish it covered sleep!

Great for behaviour. i wish it covered sleep! This book is simple but effective. It has msd setting boundaries much less stressful for myself and my 2 year old.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-29-18

Thank you Janet 😊

Janet Lansbury's approach and language resonates deeply with me. I am feeling more and more at peace with disciplining my children 😊

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 08-07-18

Saved my relationship with my toddler!

Janet's parenting advice has changed my life. I've put it into practice and it's been extremely effective with my 26 month old son.
My only regret is that I didn't know of her writing earlier.
I highly recommend this book at all parents and adults caring for or working with children.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-26-18

Loved it!

Loved it, definitely a must read amongst the gentle parenting community. Would definitely recommend, has some great strategies to put in place.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-28-17

I loved every minute, thankyou!

I'm going to relisten a few more times, can't get enough! thankyou so much janet.

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  • Craig
  • 07-30-17

And absolute must

This is an absolute must for any parent of a toddler, or anyone who looks after a toddler. Absolutely brilliant. It really works. Sure, there's not a lot of extra information that that's already on Janets blog, but it's well ordered and well structured and well worth it. You must read it.