Nice Girls Just Don't Get It

99 Ways to Win the Respect You Deserve, the Success You've Earned, and the Life You Want

By: Lois P. Frankel, Carol Frohlinger

Narrated by: Marguerite Gavin

Length: 8 hrs and 31 mins

Publisher's summary

Have you ever felt invisible? Taken advantage of? Reluctant (or unable) to articulate what you really want? If so, join the club. The Nice Girls Club. Nice girls - that's right, girls - are those who are more concerned with pleasing others than with addressing their own needs and who haven't yet learned how to overcome the childhood messages and cultural stereotypes that are keeping them from getting their voices heard, their needs met, and the lives they want.

This book will turn those nice girls into winning women. That is, women who factor their own needs in with those of others, confront those who treat them disrespectfully, maintain healthy and mutually beneficial relationships with appropriate boundaries - and, as a result, are happier and more successful in every area of their lives.

In 2004, Lois Frankel blew the lid off so many of our long-held ideas about gender and success with her best-selling Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office, which went on to become such a huge phenomenon that the term nice girls has secured a place in our cultural lexicon. Here, Frankel teams up with negotiation expert Carol Frohlinger to bring this best-selling advice out of the workplace and to provide a broader set of skills that any woman - whether a CEO or stay-at-home mom - can use to win anywhere, with anyone.

Presented in the straightforward, digestible format that helped make Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office an instant hit, Frankel and Frohlinger outline seven practical strategies and 99 supporting tactics that every winning woman should know. By the time you've finished digesting this book, you'll be able to:

• Get your husband to do his half of the household chores - without being made to feel like a nag (or any other unflattering term typically used to describe an assertive woman)
• Stop overextending yourself by taking on all the unpleasant tasks no one on your volunteer board or your team at work will go near
• Win an argument with your mother-in-law
• and more!

©2011 Lois Frankel, Ph.D. and Carol Frohlinger, J.D. (P)2011 Tantor

Excellent book

Enjoyed the book itself but the way the narrator speaks is irritating. I’ve listened to Nice Girls Don’t Get The Corner Office and that too was an excellent read. However, it was narrated by Lois Frankel, which was more enjoyable.

Like reading a text book

Not bad info but really hard to get through. Painful like reading a text book or listening to a never ending lecture at school.

Helpful

I enjoyed the tactical advise and used it immediately with my partner and at work. This was very insightful and helped with language, ways to approach situations. I will definitely listen to the other series.

A Definite Esteem Boost...

I am woman, hear me roar. I enjoyed this book but a section of it rubbed me the wrong way. The author says that winning women need to build mutually beneficial relationships and should not spend the same time on with a sales clerk as someone who can help them advance in their career. I guess this does not jive with my Christian perspective where you are nice to everyone because we are all human and deserve the same respect and love regardless of where we come from and where we are going. So a calculating method does not equal winning in my book.

This book is a definite confidence boost and I realized that I place too much importance on how others view me and that this can be limiting. I only have a problem when things become calculating.

Get ready to blame everything on your childhood

What disappointed you about Nice Girls Just Don't Get It?

I just couldn't get through the initial emphasis on rooting out childhood trauma to explain adult dysfunction. As an adult, I believe I am in control of my behavior and future. I don't need to rehash childhood drama in order to move forward in life. Rather, I need solid tactics that will help me be a better communicator.

Would you ever listen to anything by Lois P. Frankel and Carol Frohlinger again?

Probably not

Who would you have cast as narrator instead of Marguerite Gavin?

Not a fan. It was a very fake, infomercial type voice.