What if quitting… isn’t failure?

What if the thing you’ve been told to push through, stick out, or prove yourself in is actually the very thing keeping you from the life you want?

In this deeply personal episode, I share a decision that surprised even me: I quit... Not because things weren’t working. Not because I couldn’t handle it. But because success, at least the way I was pursuing it, had become too expensive.

In the years after my PhD, I began to drift into living by default, finding myself lost in the pursuit of it all. Doing what looked right. What sounded impressive. What I thought I should be doing.

But recently I asked myself a different question: What would it look like to quit living my default and to start living by design again?

The answer required courage... and a series of powerful quits.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the things I’ve chosen to walk away from, why letting go felt so difficult, and how good it feels to become her again... the version of my that became lost in the juggle-struggle. If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting to step away from something that no longer fits, this conversation is for you.

Because quitting isn’t always giving up. In some cases, it doesn't even require walking away...

But sometimes, it’s the most honest act of self-leadership there is...

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Last week, we talked about the outsourcing trap and how delegating everything doesn't always create the space you think it will.

This week, we're continuing this conversation. And I'm sharing something that might challenge how you've been thinking about help, efficiency, and what actually creates capacity.

Because here's the truth: outsourcing isn't the problem. The pace is. And if you're outsourcing to maintain something that was unsustainable in the first place, you'll stay burnt out — just more efficiently.

So what do you protect? And what do you let go?

In this episode, I'm walking you through the three questions that helped me see the difference between outsourcing that creates presence and outsourcing that just keeps me running.

Because presence can't be outsourced. And once you know what to protect, everything shifts.

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You got the help, or hired it. You delegated everything you could.

And you're still exhausted.

Here's what no one tells you about outsourcing: on its own, it doesn't create the space you think it will. It just lets you keep up with a pace that's burning you out — more efficiently.

In this episode, I'm talking about the pattern I've been seeing with burnt-out mother scholars: the more they outsource, the less present they become. Not because outsourcing is bad, but because they're using it to maintain something unsustainable.

This is Part 1 of a 2-part episode...

This one's for you if you've outsourced all the help, optimised everything, and still don't recognise your own life.

Part 2 drops next week where we continue this conversation.

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Disclaimer: All views are my own. Nothing shared on this podcast should be considered a substitute for medical/clinical advice or mental health support. Please seek assistance from a qualified professional who can help you if you are struggling or in need of advice/intervention.