Missed Translations

Meeting the Immigrant Parents Who Raised Me

By: Sopan Deb

Narrated by: Sopan Deb, Sunil Malhotra

Length: 6 hrs and 29 mins

Publisher's summary

A bittersweet and humorous memoir of family - of the silence and ignorance that separate us, and the blood and stories that connect us - from an award-winning New York Times writer and comedian.

Approaching his 30th birthday, Sopan Deb had found comfort in his day job as a writer for the New York Times and a practicing comedian. But his stage material highlighting his South Asian culture only served to mask the insecurities borne from his family history. Sure, Deb knew the facts: His parents, both Indian, separately immigrated to North America in the 1960s and 1970s. They were brought together in a volatile and ultimately doomed arranged marriage and raised a family in suburban New Jersey before his father returned to India alone.

But Deb had never learned who his parents were as individuals - their ages, how many siblings they had, what they were like as children, what their favorite movies were. Theirs was an ostensibly nuclear family without any of the familial bonds. Coming of age in a mostly white suburban town, Deb’s alienation led him to seek separation from his family and his culture, longing for the tight-knit home environment of his white friends. His desire wasn’t rooted in racism or oppression; it was born of envy and desire - for white moms who made after-school snacks and asked his friends about the girls they liked and the teachers they didn’t. Deb yearned for the same.

Deb’s experiences as one of the few minorities covering the Trump campaign, and subsequently as a stand up comedian, propelled him on a dramatic journey to India to see his father - the first step in a life-altering journey to bridge the emotional distance separating him from those whose DNA he shared. Deb had to learn to connect with this man he recognized yet did not know - and eventually breach the silence separating him from his mother. As it beautifully and poignantly chronicles Deb’s odyssey, Missed Translations raises questions essential to us all: Is it ever too late to pick up the pieces and offer forgiveness? How do we build bridges where there was nothing before - and what happens to us, to our past and our future, if we don't?

©2020 Sopan Deb (P)2020 HarperAudio

You don’t need to be brown

Sopan has given me a reason to revisit my memories of my parents. Kudos!! We all should think about loving and forgiving

Tragicomic deconstruction of family messiness

Deb captures so much uncomfortable emotionally loaded stuff with disarming run-on wittiness and piercing observation. No one is airbrushed or vilified, including the author-reader.

Story kinda aligns with mine... very inspiring.

Thank you for sharing your story. It’s not easy sharing your vulnerable side. Listening to this opened my eyes to see how similar we may be to others. We’re not alone.

great story teller

Just the right amount of funny and heartfelt. Makes me want to get to know my parents better.

One of my favorites

I can honestly say I didn’t know what to expect when acquiring this book. It’s such a great read ( or rather audio). It’s definitely one of my favorites from now on.

Not funny

I selected this book because it was supposed to be a comedic biography. It was a biography, but it wasn’t even close to being funny. It was a really hard book to get through, the story was disjointed and very confusing at times. The author probably wasn’t the best person to be the narrator, his voice is very difficult to listen to. This one really was a disappointment.