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Make Sense of the Beautiful Chaos
- What a Woman with Borderline Personality Disorder Would Like Her Loved Ones to Know
- Narrated by: Yael Haskal
- Length: 1 hr and 38 mins
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Publisher's summary
People with borderline personality disorder struggle with relationships, and can be difficult to be close to. If you love someone with borderline personality disorder, then we want to help you learn to love them in a way that will protect and nurture your relationship. The purpose of this book is to help you improve your relationship with a person who has borderline personality disorder.
The way in which the author attempts to do this is by letting you into this inner world, a place often difficult to share because of the vulnerability in close relationships, as well as because of trust issues that can be part of the baggage of borderline personality disorder. It is a hopeful contribution to the material available that works to reduce stigma around mental illness, and that increases awareness.
This book does not promise quick fix solutions, but inspires long term understanding, acceptance, hope and growth of relationships. The book includes the basics on symptoms and treatment. But the meat of it, and what makes it valuable, is the inclusion of vulnerable real life experiences, thoughts, and feelings of those with borderline personality disorder.
Some of the sharing describes external events and behaviors such as outward reactions to triggers, and some of it describes internal reasoning, thoughts and feelings about situations. It reflects a rainbow of acceptance, regret, realizations, understandings, misunderstandings, and much in between the extremes of right and wrong.
Importantly, it reveals the thoughts and feelings of someone with the disorder towards their loved ones. It lets you into the heart of someone with the disorder, but it does so in a safe space where you can explore at your own pace.
The book encourages hope, that with knowledge and empathy it is possible to enjoy good relationships. It begins and ends with the listener in mind, and stresses the importance of the listener in the relationship, elaborating on the importance of self-care being particularly important in intense relationships, which can be very rewarding, but also have the potential to be draining. The book uses easy language to navigate a difficult subject. It makes an attempt not to overwhelm the listener, even while it oozes with intensity at every turn. It is real and raw, yet trying to be calm. It is apologetic, yet at times brutally honest, much like the person with borderline personality disorder. It promises to offer some real life perspective.
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Perfect, exactly what I was looking for
I needed a book to explain why I am the way I am to help my family understand what I am going g through and this book was absolutely perfect. Thank you so much!
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