• If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late

  • A Divorce Lawyer's Guide to Staying Together
  • By: James J. Sexton
  • Narrated by: James J. Sexton
  • Length: 8 hrs and 17 mins
  • 4.8 out of 5 stars (1,441 ratings)

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If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late

By: James J. Sexton
Narrated by: James J. Sexton
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In this pertinent audiobook, hard-hitting divorce lawyer James Sexton shares his insights and wisdom from the frontlines of divorce to keep you out of his office and improve on your relationship

If You're In My Office, It's Already Too Late. James Sexton knows this. After dealing with over 1000 clients whose marriages have dissolved over everything from an ill-advised threesome with the nanny to the uneven division of carpool duties, he also knows all of the what-not-to-dos for couples who want to build - and consistently work to preserve - a lasting, fulfilling relationship.

Described by former clients as a "courtroom gunslinger" and "the sociopath you want on your side", Sexton tells the unvarnished truth about relationships, diving straight into the most common marital problems. These usually derive from dishonest - or nonexistent - communication. Even when the alleged reason for separation is one spouse's new "personal trainer", there's usually a communication problem that predates the fitness kick. Symptom and root cause get confused all the time.

Sexton has spent his career working with spouses-to-be-no-longer. Reverse-engineering a relationship can help to identify and fix what does not work. Ever feel like you're holding back criticism of your spouse because you just can't have that fight right now? Sexton will tell you to "Hit Send Now". Maybe you aren't as adventurous as you used to be, or need some you-time, but for some reason, it seems weird or exhausting to change up the routine now.

Sexton knows where that mentality leads and offers viable alternative paths to take. Though he deals constantly with the heartbreak of others, he still believes in romance and the transformative power of love. This audiobook is his opportunity to use what he has learned to help couples that aren't so far gone get back on track.

©2018 James J. Sexton (P)2018 Macmillan Audio

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"Sexton's narration debut is impressive. He reads smoothly, with animated conviction and passion for his subject that shine through." (AudioFile Magazine)

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Mind blowing

This book blew my mind. I’ve been married for 18 years and learned more about marriage from this book then my own experience has.

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Funny, refreshing & forthright

I laughed out, nodded in agreement and nearly cried while listening. If you believe that the decline or demise is your partner’ fault this book gives you the sign & signposts you would best be heeding to begin to reconnect and recover from the less than stellar current state of your relationship.

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Great Book!

I truly enjoyed this book. A lot of lessons about how to be a better spouse so you don't end up needing a lawyer, or how to be a decent person if divorce is inevitable. I've been married almost 17 years, and I'll be the first to admit that marriage is hard. I'm always looking for ways to make it less challenging as well as remembering to appreciate the good things that can easily be taken for granted. This book helped me with both. In fact, I want my spouse to listen to it next. Mr. Sexton is an awesome narrator and story teller, and by the time you are done listening to this book, I'm pretty sure most will think twice about going through a divorce without really giving their marriage their best shot. I also don't want to forget to mention how hard I laughed at many of Mr. Sexton' s stories. Highly recommended this book.

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James Sexton is a Brilliant story teller

Where does If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

I rate this in my top 5 Audible books in my library

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He is a amazing story teller , full of humor and great marriage advise . i will reread this book many times through out my life . i give it a 10 out of 10

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I experienced a full spectrum of emotions through out this book . it was a entertaining and enlightening and educational journey full of wit and humor.

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Everyone should read this!

I am not married, nor have I ever been, but this book is a must read even if you have never been in a position to need a divorce attorney. James Sexton shares wisdom about relationships that is candid and spot on. The kind of stuff that if you have ever been in a relationship can be applied to any couple. Hindsight is 20/20 and this book gives you that look into what your life could be life, hopefully in time to fix the problems before they start. He uses wit, anecdotes from his years of experience on the other side of the table (the "too late" he is talking about) to really get to the heart of why people have relationship issues and what they should do instead. Like I said, I have not been in a situation to need a divorce attorney, but this book was so compelling and entertaining I actually just read it because it was interesting. The author himself reads it and he has the right personality to really make you want to keep listening. (Not entirely joking, but he was likable enough that he is now one of my new "celebrity crushes" because his ideas were so refreshingly candid! He sounds like he would be fascinating to talk to in real life!) It was one of those books where you keep nodding your head like, "Oh yeah he is totally right. That is so true!" It is common sense but not the kind of thing you would think about until after you have a problem. Totally recommended reading for anyone who is in a relationship, wants to be or is just fascinated by human interpersonal dynamics.

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Solid advice on a tough topic ,very funny!

Who knew  divorce could be so fascinating.  I never thought I would be so absorbed by a book with this subject matter. Jim is overall a great story teller and laugh out loud funny. A much needed look into relationships in the time of Facebook and social media.

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Good info but…

This book contained useful and thought provoking information. It definitely makes one think twice about divorcing. I thought it was well written and well presented. However, as smart as he sounds, I believe the author could have been more creative in the words he chose to describe and relate his points without the use of so much profanity.

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For narcissists by a narcissist.

A commercial for his practice. Horrible book. Would never recommend. I can’t believe my counselor recommended this, go figure I fired her.

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funny and good advice

This book was excellent funny good advice and straightforward I would recommend it to anybody

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Didn't need all the F bombs!

As a marital therapist, I found it interesting with some good points. At times the stories droned on. The foul language was hard to put up with for me.

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