I Love You, But I Hate You, But I Need You

How to Love Unconditionally for Someone Living with Borderline Personality

By: Austen Lennon MD

Narrated by: Gene Blake

Length: 1 hr and 48 mins

Publisher's summary

Are you or your loved one suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder? Do your mood instabilities affect your daily functioning, behavior, and relationships? Are you looking for a solution to controlling, managing, and reversing the effects of BPD?

This book is about to change all that for you!

The key to getting BPD under control is to recognize and accept the reality of the problem. BPD is not something that you or your loved one should be ashamed of but embraced as part of what makes someone who they are. 

In this book, you will learn:

• What Borderline Personality Disorder really is
• What to do when someone you care about has BPD  
• How people actually get BPD 
• How to feel empowered and confident while having BDP
• How to accept yourself positively
• How to cope with NDP with 5 steps to balanced responses 
• How to meet the needs of your partner effectively
• Tips and advice on how to provide genuine encouragement to your partner
• Common mistakes that people make
• How to establish proper communication channels and set boundaries for your child

Benefits of mastering these techniques include:

• Increased bonding and understanding of BPD between you and your loved one
• Negating underlying negative behavior 
• Greater belief in self 
• Better awareness of crisis situations
• Better understanding of psychology and behavior
• Enhanced emotional health
• Greater self-awareness  
• Rebuilidng of proper relationships 
• And much more

©2018 Jonathan Wee (P)2018 Jonathan Wee

good tools

I have borderline personality disorder I HIGHLY RECOMMEND THIS BOOK.... especially if you felt as lost , as I did after being diagnosed.
Also, after reading the book, i felt calmness as I read the book. .

AUESOME

was very insightful easy to listen to. Recomend highly to everyone and anyone. Behavior Disorder is common you may be surprised to find it in yourself.

it was ok

This sounded like a motivational speech. It's good if that's what you need, but I craved more data or research. Plus the work is kind of short.

Definitely useful!

As a newer counselor, this book was fantastic in helping me better understand BPD to better treat my future clients. I will be suggesting this book without a doubt!

Unhelpful, at best

I don't know if this could have been more condescendingly or poorly written. I tried to make my way through it, but simply the amount of shaming language within the first five chapters rendered me unable to choke anymore down.

Vapid and disappointing.

it was hard to listen to. Not because of the audio but because of the writing. There were so many "should"s to begin with, it came across as dogmatic (and ignorant). additionally, a lot of "facts" were used without credible sources, and colloquialisms from other authors' writings on the same subject matter were mixed into the illustration of the main idea. This was not at all what I was looking for.

No background information as to causes of illness.

the narrator was monotone and horrible i couldn't get thru and want a refund now

Don’t do it

If you are here because you want concise but fair information on BPD then look elsewhere. The “treatment” ideas include fake it for self confidence and copy someone who seems confident- a direct contradiction to a BPD coping mechanism of ‘mirroring’. I had to give up by 30min in. The search continues. Also it was impossible not to hear ‘fat Tony’ from the Simpsons in the narrators voice. Not worth it. Better BPD podcasts with more insight are available on Spotify.

Dislikes

I disliked the patronising tone of narrator. The content is too shallow, for my level of knowledge at least. Didn't even finish it....