• How to Be an Adult in Love

  • Letting Love in Safely and Showing It Recklessly
  • By: David Richo
  • Narrated by: Tom Pile
  • Length: 11 hrs and 35 mins
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (492 ratings)

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How to Be an Adult in Love

By: David Richo
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"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this audiobook, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships - one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life: Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships. Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are. Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament. Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways. Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control. When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts - what Richo calls the five A's - form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.

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Very thorough

Enjoyed this book tremendously. It isn't an easy listen rather very thought-provoking and calls you to participate in your life consciously to facilitate accessing what's already in you....love.

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The tittle is a promise of what you’ll get from this book.

The way this book is written, the way chapters advance and the subtle meeting of the “spiritual world” contexts with science and real anthropology data makes this book a fit for all. David Richo’s voice is a plus. A must for self awareness and self work.

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A great book

This should be read by anyone in love, or who wants to find love. It is a roadmap to “better” relationships

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Life changer! This is a top 10 list for sure!

Very accurate! Very helpful! Take the time to listen and take notes... You WILL learn life changing, valuable information from this audio book!

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Thank God for David Richo

This is my third time reading this book and I can honestly say that it gets better with every read. It’s incredibly insightful and challenging all while remaining encouraging. David has a way of correcting you on one hand and then pointing you towards your better self on the other. It’s filled with wisdom and grace. Everyone should read this book, especially if they’re in a relationship.

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Eye opening

Eye opening book. He goes over hidden emotions that a lot of us don't know how to express or acknowledge.

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transformative

I felt like every time I pushed play I developed a deeper love for myself and others. I'm committed to listening to this over again and buying a paper copy.

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How to be an adult, in general

One of the best ‘self-help’ books I have read or listened to. Highly recommend.

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Great book on relationships

The book covers very broad range of topics and I found a lot of new and useful stuff even after reading many other books on relationships.

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Most helpful

Listen to it many times. So helpful in understanding one's self and our relationships. Should be selfish-required reading for anyone who wants a successful relationship

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