• He Came in with It

  • A Portrait of Motherhood and Madness
  • By: Miriam Feldman
  • Narrated by: Ann Richardson
  • Length: 11 hrs and 4 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (56 ratings)

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He Came in with It

By: Miriam Feldman
Narrated by: Ann Richardson
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In an idyllic Los Angeles neighborhood, where generations of families enjoy deep roots in old homes, the O’Rourke family fits right in. Miriam and Craig are both artists and their four children carry on the legacy. When their teenage son, Nick, is diagnosed with schizophrenia, a tumultuous decade ensues in which the family careens permanently off the conventional course.

Like the 10 Biblical plagues, they are hit by one catastrophe after another: violence, evictions, arrests, a suicide attempt, a near-drowning - even cancer and a brain tumor - play against the backdrop of a wild teenage bacchanal of artmaking and drugs. With no time for hand-wringing, Miriam advances, convinced she can fix everything, while a devastated Craig retreats to their property in rural Washington State as home becomes a battlefield.

It is while cleaning out a closet that Miriam discovers a cache of drawings and journals written by Nick throughout his spiral into schizophrenia. She begins a solitary forensic journey into the lonely labyrinth of his mind.

This is the story of how mental illness unspools an entire family. As Miriam fights to reclaim her son from the ruthless, invisible enemy, we are given an unflinching view into a world few could imagine. It exposes the shocking shortfalls of our mental-health system, the destructive impact of stigma, shame, and isolation, and, finally, the falsity of the notion of a perfect family. Throughout the book, it is the family’s ability to find humor in the absurdities of this life that saves them.

©2020 Miriam Feldman (P)2020 Dreamscape Media, LLC

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So Beautifully Written

Miriam! Wow! You had me on the verge of tears that always ended in laughter or smile and curiosity for more. Thanks for sharing your experiences!

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Lovely, yet so hard

You certainly show to what extremes a mom will go to in order to care for her child. Thank you for sharing your story, as it’s helpful for others dealing with the same illness, similar lack of health care and ignorance of so many. I could not have read this at the onset of my daughter’s illness, but we are a few years in, and she is stable and well. I think your book would be an excellent book club book for those who do not know much about serious mental illness.

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Compelling

Couldn’t put it down. I would hope that it be widely read so that more people, especially teachers, understand what schizophrenia is like.

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Thank you for sharing your story!

I heard about your book on Mary Rogers’ podcast and so glad I got it. You are funny and strong and make me feel not alone.

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life changing story

This book was captivating from start to finish. The way that the author told her story was so real it was as if I was there experiencing it myself. My view on how I see others has definitely changed because I was reminded that you cant truly know what someone's going through just by seeing them on the surface. This story brings mental health into the spotlight and should be read by everyone.

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Beautiful account of a mother's painful journey

I was struck by the honesty of the author's struggle to understand and accept her son's mental illness. It's so difficult to let go of what we envision our kids' lives will be, and so much more so when they are lost to us. I think Feldman captured the devastation, panic, exhaustion, all of it, so movingly. In her case, additional trauma pushed her to the breaking point. Still, there is humor and self-deprecation in her account. Just a very successful effort.

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Heartstring beware

This is a stunning piece of writing from a most incredible human. The story is beautifully written. Raw, honest, touching with a hint of her humor tucked in between. It’s the uncovered truth behind this severe mental illness that we need to see in order to better understand. You can’t help but fall in love with her and her entire family in the process.

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Not Sure I Can Finish!

I am now 4+ hours into this book. First of all, I do not think the blurb describing the premise of the novel is at all very accurate. I went into it thinking it was going to be this “dark and thrilling” book on mental illness with some really deep, horrifying content, but; nope. The woman telling the story, the Mother, is so incredibly dumb and exceedingly WHINEY, that I just don’t think I can take another chapter. All she seems to do is whine and complain and wish for a “fabulous, sunny day on a lounger at the beach with friends and wine”.
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Then why did ya have 3 children…all of whom were in school at the onset of the book. When I became a mom…and also my friends, we all looked back and laughed at how petty and selfish we were prior to motherhood. This person, the mom, seems to completely lack that whole, normal, post-natal discovery concerning the newfound absence of selfishness! And did I mention the WHINING? Ok, that’s my 2 cents worth! Gonna give it one more chapter just because I hate wasting money and Audible no longer lets us easily exchange a book for another!
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An aching glimpse into parenting a child with mental illness

I thought this was a very good book and I’m happy that it helps bring awareness to mental illness. I felt that this was more a story of a mother’s sense of loss and frustration at having a son with schizophrenia, than it was about actually having schizophrenia. On that note, I can completely empathize and I feel we need to hear more stories from mothers who have similar experiences. It’s a sad and lonely place to be when you feel that you’ve missed something or done something or not done enough when you have a child with a mental illness (which is an estimated twenty percent of children). Mothers are so proud to share their children’s accomplishments, yet deeply ashamed too admit they may have problems. Thank you Míriam for sharing your experience and I wish you, your family and Nick well.

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