Have you ever changed yourself to fit in with other people? Or dulled your character so they don’t think you’re ‘too much’? Do you compare yourself a lot or sacrifice your own needs so not to cause a fuss?

Fearne has done all these things and more over the years in a bid to be more likeable. But it’s time to stop shapeshifting to make ourselves palatable to others!

Sugababes Keisha Buchanan, Love Island’s Megan Barton-Hanson, and The Traitor’s Jade Scott join Fearne to reflect on their own experiences of people pleasing and being disliked.

They share advice on being okay with people not ‘getting’ you, allowing yourself to be multifaceted, and speaking up for yourself. This is all about building the confidence to live life on your own terms, not the life others want you to live.

Fearne’s new book, Likeable, is out now.

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Are you a bit of a people pleaser? Wish you could care a little less what people think about you? To celebrate her new book, Likeable: How I Broke Free From The Need To Please, Fearne’s looking at all the ways she sacrificed her needs and self-expression in order to be more palatable to others...

In this chat, Fearne covers:

-The real personal impact of people pleasing

-How exhausting it is showing up as a performative version of yourself

-Catching yourself feeling like a saintly martyr when you’re putting others’ needs first

-Peer pressure making you change yourself to fit in

-Why differing opinions don’t have to mean conflict

-How to be both kind and boundaried

-Prioritising and voicing your own needs

-Being ok with some people not liking you

Fearne’s new book, Likeable, is out now!

Want to join the chat? Send us a voicenote, DM, or comment on Instagram @happyplaceofficial!

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Fearne’s answering your dating, social life, and mental health dilemmas, exclusively on Amazon Music!

In this episode Fearne explores:

-How to date when you feel you’re bringing ‘too much’ to the table – kids, grief, past relationships, and more

-What to do when your sex life dwindles in a long term relationship

-Whether it’s ok to send mega long voicenotes and leave mates on read on WhatApp

Want Fearne to answer your dilemma? Slide into our DMs @happyplaceofficial

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