Good Mother - Bad Mother: Comparing and Contrasting Normal Mothering Behavior with the Behavior of a Borderline Mother

Transcend Mediocrity, Book 28

By: J.B. Snow

Narrated by: Gene Blake

Length: 39 mins

Publisher's summary

Many people with personality disorders are products of their environments. They were raised by mothers and/or fathers who were either self-absorbed, abusive, neglectful, or cruel. They had genetic vulnerability to be sensitive to their environment instead of gaining the type of resiliency that is bulletproof around adults who are a bad influence to the children whom they watch over.

Most personality-disordered, anxious, traumatized, or stressed people often wonder what a normal mother or a normal family environment looks like. Sometimes, they think that their environment was normal simply because they did not experience physical abuse. But these individuals were often in emotionally invalidating environments where the adults around them only cared about their own wants and needs, often ignoring their children's needs.

This book will discuss the traits of a good mother in contrast with the traits of a bad mother. It will cover real cases of mothers with borderline personality disorder and some of the cruel treatment they gave their children. The children of seriously ill borderline mothers often grow up with posttraumatic stress disorder, borderline personality disorder, schizoid disorder, psychopathy, or narcissism. They can experience a wide range of physical and emotional conditions that are directly related to the chronic stress and the chaos that they lived through as children.

From wellness coach and five-time best-selling author J.B. Snow.

©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow

Written by a man...

The irony of a book about “good” vs “bad” mothers being written & narrated by a man is not lost on me.
it is anecdotal and might be helpful to validate someone who was raised by a borderline mom and needs to be reassured that they are not unworthy.
That said- the description of “a good mother” is often ridiculously out of touch with reality and any mom that I know- with or without any disorders- would consider the expectations set forth by the author to be shaming, judgmental and impossible. Basically... a mom robot.

Objective miopaty

Though I believe in concisive declaration of problematic behavrisom as pattern recognition for a therapist to help the client.....I equally am so upset at discription given in this book to problematic BAVIOR yet not much on solutions side. Truly open the DSM 3,4 or 5 the last time I checked and the narration alone is conducive to forming a bias and coertion . nevertheless don't waste the credit if you need solutions more so then well equally helpful condemnation for some. It just depends....I'm a first gen Indian(as in India) women who faces single parenting and comes from a back ground of non favorable upbringing . this book generalizes that a BD mom won't rise above...if the fixed is sold in reason ....then what good is reason to it fixture ...none...so in simple terms if desire and humility work at your center then a nature of that you desire will also be the out come....never the less its not much to help iin thediscovering of your own self.

It’s too simplified and won’t help anyone

It was helpful in the sense that he pointed out all the elements of borderline personality disorder or narcissism. However, when he discusses the good mother, and things a good mother does, instead of stating that a good mother STRIVES to …He simply states THESE are the things good mothers do…then lists an impossibly high standard that no mother is able to achieve. He kind of sounds borderline of you are either very bad or very good. Good mothers will strive to do the things he lists but even good mothers make mistakes all the time. It’s kind of ridiculous how simplified it’s presented. Like another reviewer wrote, I felt I was reading a mag article.

Its about as long as a magazine article

I thought this was supposed to be a book. It took 15 minutes to listen to the entire "so called book". Trurely I tell you that it is not larger than a magazine article.