She Comes First

The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

By: Ian Kerner

Narrated by: Ian Kerner

Length: 4 hrs and 35 mins

Publisher's summary

As women everywhere will attest, when it comes to understanding female sexuality, most guys know more about what's under the hood of a car than under the hood of a clitoris. And while it seems that men have struggled valiantly since the dawn of time to find ways to reliably elicit the female orgasm, rare is the guy who has the modesty to ask: "What do I do?" Ironically, the answer has always been right there on the tip of his tongue.

Welcome to the world of She Comes First, where the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword. According to Ian Kerner, clinical sexologist and evangelist of the female orgasm, oral sex has long been deemed an optional aspect of foreplay, but, in fact, it's coreplay: simply the best way for leading a woman through the entire process of sexual response.

Fun, informative, and easy to read, She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of female pleasure, detailing dozens of tried-and-true techniques for consistently satisfying a woman and step-by-step instructions to ensure success. These simple methods represent a new era in sexual intimacy, one in which the exchange of pleasure occurs on a level playing field and fulfillment is mutual.

She Comes First exuberantly offers a fresh new sexual philosophy that inspires every man to make a mantra of Rhett Butler's infamous line to Scarlett O'Hara, "You should be kissed, and often, and by someone who knows how."

For Adults Only: You must be 18 years or older to purchase.

Find out what else is on Ian Kerner's mind in this interview with the author.

©2004 Ian Kerner (P)2005 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Critic reviews

"An entire book written strictly for the pleasure of women by a man. Hallelujah!" (Playgirl)

Not quite what I expected....

I purchased this audio after learning about the author in the byline of an article he had written in the past that I really got some benefit out of. This book is great if and only if you are looking to learn ONE thing, and that's how to be pretty darned good at pleasing your spouse (or any other willing woman I guess) with your tongue and fingers, etc.

It seems that the author has something against vaginal intercourse, and this comes through in his writing. My take away is that he considers intercourse as secondary to cunnilingus, and this book focuses entirely on the latter, and almost seems to downplay the enjoyment a woman is able to get from intercourse. My wife, although not someone who generally enjoys oral over actual intercourse, requires penetration to orgasm even when she gets "revved up" by oral sex.

Ladies, if you like receiving great oral, buy this audiobook for your man. Guys, if you like giving it and your lady does too, get the book. It has a wealth of information, probably more than most textbooks on female anatomy. It's pretty clear the author has done his homework in that department.

Actual "case studies" I'm not so sure about. There is definitely a slant, and the author seems intent on making cunnilingus the norm as the primary source of sexual pleasure for a woman. He may correct in that most women can get off easier using these techniques than via penetration, it just doesn't apply too much to my particular relationship.

He's passionate about the subject though. I've gotta give him that!

Must have

This is not a "porn" type book. It is an actual manual. It is VERY, VERY specific....and VERY, VERY accurate.

The voice is awful.

If you can put up with a nasally sounding Beta male trying to speak in flowery words about oral sex on a woman, this one is for you. some good information, but he should stick to writing and leave narrating to someone better.

Good basic information

helped reinforce things I already knew as well as giving some new things I can try

Well written and well read

This is a great book for guys at all levels. The only thing I wish the author would have emphasized more is that no two women are alike and no two women react the same way. Overall this is a must read if you really want to make your girl happy in bed.

verry well done, well documented, verry informativ

i will recommend this book to others, and i will read it again and again to master the art

Still learning

If you could sum up She Comes First in three words, what would they be?

I love a bokk that I can learn from.

Would you recommend She Comes First to your friends? Why or why not?

Yes, as I have lived by the ideal of this book and thought I knew it all, but even I learned something new and learned why what I already knew worked so well.

Have you listened to any of Ian Kerner’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

No

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

no

Any additional comments?

Thank you to the author and publisher.

great

great book it has given me good pointers that I can employ when pleasing my lady

Licking that split!

Pleasing your woman orally is the best way to appreciate you sexually all the time.

Glad I purchased this book 📚

Simply put, this book helps you understand her body’s ebb and flows of sexual tensions and feelings. Very well narrated and down right humorous at times. Definitely something that can be added to my arsenal in trying to better please my Love. Who could argue with “better”? 😉