Ep. 5: Impotent Is No Way to Define a Man

Narrated by: Esther Perel
Length: 43 mins
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Publisher's Summary

[Contains mature themes] A man has struggled with impotence for over two decades. His wife, in despair over her feelings of hopelessness in the bedroom, seeks relief for her sexual frustration and feelings of resentment.

Step into the office of renowned relationship therapist and TED Talk sensation Esther Perel, and listen in as she counsels couples in crisis due to infidelity, sexlessness, loss, and disconnection. The result? Astonishing insights on how they can make love work – and takeaways for you on ways to repair and restore your own relationships.

About Esther:

Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and provocative voices on personal and professional relationships. A celebrated psychotherapist who has helmed a private practice in New York City since 1983, she has over three decades of experience navigating the intricacies of love and desire.

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Excellent topic for couples/husband's

The subject was extremely interesting and I believe a husband, partner, lover or boyfriend would gain much more from this topic than a woman. The wife in this episode seemed to make her husband feel worse and more self conscious then he already is. By the end of the episode I wanted to slap her and tell her to open her ears, heart and mind. If she doesn't value him for who he is, someone such as myself would enjoy the company of her husband and it will be too late for her to open her eyes. He will encounter some one who can be desired, loved, cared for and valued by what he can do emotionally and physically without intercourse. He deserves the same. I'm happy to enjoy his company and solitude. To bad he continues to hang in there.

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Not that great...

Understanding that this is an actual therapy session I felt this psychologist really did not address the couple's problem. Yes the issue she brought up was clearly a problem but it was not really a solution to their problem. The follow up with the couple indicates this as well. I will check out a few more episodes not not sure this series is worth my time.

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Episode 5

Of the five episodes, I believe this is my least liked. The therapist brought up some valid points but failed to connect with the wife, who entrenched in her thoughts that she's right & an oh poor me attitude. Very sad when someone won't get off their own high horse and change their own thinking way of being happy.

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Compelling. She is a superb therapist.

Not just her exquisite listening and understanding of couple dynamics but her philosophy about relationships and intimacy shine through

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Felt sorry for the couple

This is a great serie and Esther is truly skillful at her work. However I felt Esther was judgemental in this episode. As oposed to episodes 1 to 4, when she balances in both ways and manage the couple dialogues very artfully. She was harsh on the wife. Also she talked with great energy to the husband at the end, almost as if she was dictating, instead of facilitating. Overall I felt this couple left empty handed and felt sorry for them.

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Empathy missing?

They might both be so self-absorbed that there is no room or space to empathize. Part of making a marriage work is the union of empathizers I would like to believe.

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I LOVE her

she's a true virtuoso of couples therapy, hope to be half as good as a therapist
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Amazing and it opened my mind to my current situat

My significant other and I are going through something similar and it was incredible to hear how much Incan relate to this man. I will definitely take in what I learned from this episode.

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Writing the same review of the whole set of these

So I'm not going to review each of these individually. They're all a great listen and I can't recommend one over the others. If you're in a place in your relationship where you're not happy and looking for steps you could take these are a great place to start. Esther does one-off sessions with these people and helps these see what is going on, and what they can do to change things. You don't have to be going through the exact same scenario to see some common threads, and find bits and pieces that will be helpful to you.

I'm going to leave the same review for each of these as you should really listen to all of them, rather than trying to pick and choose which you might find relevant.

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Excellent knowledge about how a person needs to open up in order to how to enjoy the pleasures of life.

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Struggled to finish

An extremely personal account felt like prying in a very private conversation. It was quite uncomfortable to hear.