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[Contains mature themes] A couple with two small children are at physical and emotional odds in their relationship. One has given herself over entirely to the children, while the other struggles to find her place within the family dynamic. Esther helps them reframe each of their roles in terms of what they uniquely contribute.

Step into the office of renowned relationship therapist and TED Talk sensation Esther Perel, and listen in as she counsels couples in crisis due to infidelity, sexlessness, loss, and disconnection. The result? Astonishing insights on how they can make love work – and takeaways for you on ways to repair and restore your own relationships.

About Esther:

Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and provocative voices on personal and professional relationships. A celebrated psychotherapist who has helmed a private practice in New York City since 1983, she has over three decades of experience navigating the intricacies of love and desire.

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Insightful therapist

Esther cuts through the talk and finds the roots of the issues. Fascinating. Looking forward to hearing other episodes.

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Excellent work, but I wish I could tell the voices apart

This was excellent work with thoughtful pacing, but I had a very hard time telling apart the Brazilian-Canadian woman and the Finnish-Canadian woman in conversation. It resulted in me listening with a mild confusion through the entire piece, for I wasn't sure who was the needy one, or whose mother died vs whose didn't.

Aside from the confusion, the story and advice therein is very heartwarming. I walked away with extra tools and awareness for my own marriage.

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Fantastic story but hard to guess who is speaking

Brilliant and deeply touching episode! the only thing I found difficult was differentiating between the two women's voices and hence following their individual lines. I wish there was a way to demarcate it more clearly!

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Another good episode!

Another good episode. I think it touched upon many issues people have once children enter the mix. Finding balance gets hard and is, or should be, a constant goal. But, overall, it seems more helpful when both parties are engaged in the needs of the children. Saying you aren't good at something goes out the window with kids. You learn to become an expert on whatever they need, whether it's natural, foreign, you, not you, etc. If I could have not done and learned all the things I needed to in order to meet my kids needs, well, wouldn't that have been nice. And, if only one person is doing it because the other person seems to do it naturally, or they use it being "out of their comfort zone or not their thing" to not engage, intimacy goes out the window because someone has no backup to take on the mental and physical load of meeting the needs of kids. You can't leave one person exhausting themselves while they take care of the needs of the kids because it's just not you, but in the same breath expect them to take care of your needs too. BUT, in this case, by the same token, ignoring the needs of the other and not stating your own gets complicated too. Sometimes you have to say, well if you'll step out of your comfort zone and jump knee deep into the unknown of parenting life and help, then maybe I'd have some energy for anything else. Definitely seemed like both had some work to do to make things work.

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roles

I enjoyed listening to the session and how the conversation began leaving one person neglected, and by the end undersranding where the neglected came from. Ester gives sone techniques on how to relate and speak differently and encourages the other person to ask for what they want and not expect their partner to just know.

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Hooked

I'm in awe of Perel's ability to clarify the origins of how one has learned to love with compassion and her skillful grace in guiding couples to a pathway that leads them back to each other.

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not what I had expected

this wasn't what I had expected, the subject is different than what I thought it was going to be

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Even in same gender couples.....

so insightful!

someone is always going to get diaper duty more frequently, and it might have to do with the way things in your family when you were a kid....

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Not worth the time

Makes women seem sullen and victimized. A true feminist wouldn't bring down their own kind.

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Loved It!!!

It was amazing to hear their story unfold. I cannot wait to use what I learned in my own relationship.

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  • Kristina Hewer
  • 10-08-17

choice not stereotype

enjoyed the same sex female couple that made role differences personality choices not gender stereotypes.

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  • Shane
  • 10-01-17

Gender?

An interesting listen. Similar issues being bought up between a same-sex couple as I have heard of, seen & experienced in hetersexual couples.

This only adds fuel to my fire that we as a society very much need to take off the blinkers on relationship education and from a very young age of we are ever to collectively solve issues like these presented.

Thanks Esther & team.

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  • Cherie Nelson
  • 07-20-17

For anyone who struggles with parenting and the roles each person plays

The reluctantly listened to this episode and I'll admit I thought "but this will be geared more toward same-sex couples" and therefore not relevant to me. What was clear after listening to Esther work through this couple and the dynamics of their relationship was that I assumed that my parenting issues in my own relationship were based on gender. I couldn't be more wrong and for the first time I looked at my own relationship in terms of 'roles' instead of gender-roles. Extremely enlightening and insightful.

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  • Heyjools187
  • 07-07-17

very interesting

I didn't really relate to this episode but found it interesting how the issue was discussed