10: When self-discipline equals self-love

Today let's talk about Self Discipline as an expression of self -care and self-respect and not self-punishment Question: what do you feel when you hear self-discipline? Do you feel free, knowing you can rely on yourself, Or do you feel dread because it's hard for you? I am asking because if we oppose SD with SL - and I see some people do this- we miss out on the benefits of self discipline, freedom, ease, self esteem, growth, good habits, better focus. In this podcast I will also talk about Mental discipline.Tough loveSelf discipline not only to do but also to not do, meaning rest. What is self love? S-PARC -patience -acceptance -respect -care When you approach yourself with these in mind you will create a loving relationship with yourself. I see people talk negatively about self-discipline but does it even make sense to counter-pose it with self-love? Something about it never clicked for me. Those two things are not even up for comparison, SD is the action we take to make a wish a reality. SL is how we show up to it. There is always someone trying to break your self-discipline, usually the people can't commit to themselves so they don't like when you commit. And they may want to convince you to overindulge in a substance or activity that would break your self-discipline. They think it is self-love. But you know self-discipline is self love. If you can't tell OI from SL, think of the long-term consequences. If I do this activity every day for months, will it create something positive or something I don't want? Just because there is a hot dog in front of you and you want to lose a few pounds, it doesn't mean to love yourself is to NOT eat the hotdog. It could be a time when it feels right. At this moment you may decide this is the best thing you can eat now. But we all know what happens when we eat too many hot dogs… There comes the point when the next hot dog will be self-abuse, not self -care. I also saw that depending on how we understand self love and self discipline we can use them both to harm ourselves or to help ourselves. After I clarified what self-discipline means to me, what self-love means to me, I saw that they can be one and the same thing. What do you believe about self-discipline? And are the beliefs helping you or hurting you? Do you bully yourself into sticking to self discipline? Does it affect you negatively if you don't do it perfectly? How would you feel if you knew you could create great results and self-discipline did not have to be perfect. The most important in my book is Mental discipline In fact if there was one most important gift I could give to every human is the awareness and ability to manage their mind. Whatever action is self discipline, first there is mental discipline. Because our life is the evidence of our thinking. Quality for thinking. It doesn't mean thinking perfectly to have only useful thoughts in the mind. It means being aware of the useless thoughts coming up, and knowing what to do about them. Lack of mental SD can look like this: We let ourselves to be caught in a cycle of useless thoughts that keep us confused. You know your thoughts are useless if they prevent you from making decisions, and taking action. We need to recognize what's happening, why, and clean up the thinking. 1.Think on purpose. Once we understand that all the results in life will in the end come from our thoughts, we realize that one thought can change the trajectory of our path and the many paths we have in all the areas of life. One thought can separate us from taking one more step to succeed One thought can separate us from forgiveness One thought on a repeat can make us feel miserable and overeat 2.Mental discipline is another way to predict the future. Not literally. Think about something that is ahead of you. You may be afraid things will not go the way you want. And you are being reactive to what you don't want before… You create the images in your mind reacting to them. Mental discipline means you create them in the way you want. And most importantly, you decide ahead of time what you will be thinking and how you will want to feel ahead of time in those situations. We may not be affecting directly what others will do, but we can decide ahead of time who we will be in the situation. 3.Another example of Mental discipline, is the ability to stop the downward spiral of negative thinking. When you think something is wrong with you, how you failed in the past your brain starts looking for more evidence. Our brain is great about finding the evidence of what we believe. The brain wants to scare us, it wants to keep us alert to potential danger. And here we go on a downward spiral, and before you know it you are convinced nobody likes you, and you will die alone, in hell. How much time you spent on it. But when you manage your mind this doesn't happen as often or as deeply. You are able to catch...