Ep. 10: I Can't Give You a Child

De: Esther Perel

Narrado por: Esther Perel

[Contains mature Themes] A woman realizes she doesn’t want to have children and comes to Esther for help expressing this to her husband, who passionately wishes to be a father. But often the stories people come in with are not the ones they take home.

Step into the office of renowned relationship therapist and TED Talk sensation Esther Perel, and listen in as she counsels couples in crisis due to infidelity, sexlessness, loss, and disconnection. The result? Astonishing insights on how they can make love work – and takeaways for you on ways to repair and restore your own relationships.

About Esther:

Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and provocative voices on personal and professional relationships. A celebrated psychotherapist who has helmed a private practice in New York City since 1983, she has over three decades of experience navigating the intricacies of love and desire.

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Did they really get to break through this issue?

Great session overall. However, I felt there was little progress on the issue of having a child. The man did not quite affirm his wife on her being enough despite not being able to conceive. He just kept going round the issue. She affirmed him on his inability to be a "super provider" and he took that in all too readily but did not quite afford her the same grace. She literally begged him to say it/apologize. "You said you regret marrying an older woman - You regret marrying me. That really hurt me..."
Also made me wonder (when he talked about his dad moving a lot and what his views were on career choices and his anger at the kind of advice his parents gave him on making ends meet), if the dad was at all that inspiring; so inspiring as to become the reason this guy so badly wants to be a father to a son as his father was to him! I think there is more (issues) to this guy.
On the other hand, I'm glad the lady has been able to acknowledge her pain and her loss which will now afford her the opportunity to heal instead of covering it up and being hurt even more by bringing in another woman to fix the childlessness.
I am disturbed that the man would even entertain this suggestion. If you want a baby so badly you would be willing to go outside the marriage to get it, then you do not respect and value your spouse or the marriage.

2 major topics that speak to everyone!!

This one covers the insecurities Men feel when not being able to provide financially and the loss that women may feel when they are not able to “provide” by way of birthing a biological child... this is a very good episode that can connect across many cultures.

Profound

Deeply profound . The vulnerability, the honesty, the willingness for this couple to he be there for each other and above all the compassionate wisdom of Esther. I listened to 9 episodes in less then 24 hours. I cried and laughed with all the couples as I struggle with my own issues . For ever grateful

This really resonated with me.

I think that this story is one of those which resonated with me the most. A pity that the audio is not optimal. I can hear Esther very well but not the couple.

Good enough

A couple struggles with self critical shame and dealing with reality of lost dreams and new opportunities. Good advice.

Beautiful

I wish I could others the same way. It takes courage and humility, I think. Wow! I am touched. I think they need to share more, but what happens afterward can only be better for them, if they remain authentic.

This entire series is awesome

I love this series.

Ester is incredible at what she does and I think hearing these sessions will get rid of stigma/misunderstanding around therapy and be healing for hurting couples. And it's enlightening for how you can improve before any issues arise. I love the mix of session and narrations. Wonderful all around.

Writing the same review of the whole set of these

So I'm not going to review each of these individually. They're all a great listen and I can't recommend one over the others. If you're in a place in your relationship where you're not happy and looking for steps you could take these are a great place to start. Esther does one-off sessions with these people and helps these see what is going on, and what they can do to change things. You don't have to be going through the exact same scenario to see some common threads, and find bits and pieces that will be helpful to you.

I'm going to leave the same review for each of these as you should really listen to all of them, rather than trying to pick and choose which you might find relevant.

I absolutely love the entire series

this Series has open my eyes to how deep our problems can go. sometimes we don't even realize what the real issue is.

Best Episode of Season 1!

If you could sum up Episode 10 in a few words, what would they be?
Great!

Would you listen to Esther again? Why?
Yes, definitely. Esther is a master of her craft.

What was the most compelling aspect of this episode?
The change of thought and reasoning in the middle of the episode.

Any additional comments?
Looking forward to Season 2!