• Emotional Sobriety

  • From Relationship Trauma to Resilience and Balance
  • By: Tian Dayton
  • Narrated by: Elizabeth Hanley
  • Length: 8 hrs and 42 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (275 ratings)

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Emotional Sobriety

By: Tian Dayton
Narrated by: Elizabeth Hanley
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Do you use substances or engage in compulsive activities to regulate your mood? Do you reach for something sweet, a couple of drinks, or a pack of cigarettes after a difficult day because you can't unwind without them? Do you race to the stores to spend away the day's frustrations or run around in circles taking more time to get less done? If these self-defeating habits sound familiar, Emotional Sobriety will shed light on why and how these coping mechanisms threaten your health and impact resilience. When we manage the stresses of the day by turning to outside 'mood managers' such as food, sex, work, shopping, gambling, drugs, and alcohol rather than healthier forms of 'self-soothing,' it is because we lack emotional sobriety - the state of processing our thoughts efficiently to bring our emotions into balance, says best-selling author and renowned addictions psychologist Tian Dayton, Ph.D. In her latest book, Emotional Sobriety, Dr. Dayton shares compelling, honest tales of her life experiences and case studies of those she has counseled. Illustrating that emotional sobriety is a mind/body phenomenon, Dr. Dayton includes ideas on how to attain emotional literacy - the skill of translating feelings into words so that we can use our thought processes to understand and bring our emotions into balance - and how to calm the limbic system so that we can actually experience what we're feeling. The limbic system processes our emotions and governs our mood, appetite, and sleep cycles. Repeated painful experiences, in childhood or adulthood, over which we have no ability or sense of control or escape can over sensitize us to stress and deregulate our limbic system. Dr. Dayton shows you through concrete examples how to bring your emotions and thoughts into balance and learn healthy ways of 'self-soothing' to relieve symptoms of depression, anxiety, rage, and the desire to self-medicate.

©2007 Tian Dayton (P)2012 Audible, Inc.

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Amazing

I am so happy this book is in print. This book represents a well-articulated map of the recovery journey - from relational trauma to resilience and balance. This is a valuable resource for anyone making their way back to wholeness or helping someone to do so.

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Addicts and Addicts alike will get a lot out of this.

Stellar Book for Children of Addicts and Addicts alike. Very well written and read. Brings a lot of things the light.

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This book is next to the Bible for life recovery.

Tian left no rock unturned, being a victim/ victor of sexual abuse and emotional neglect who ended up losing a child to suicide the pages turned and renewal happens. Do the work.

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This is THE book !!

If you've any pain in your past...parents, spouses, anyone that made you feel bad... then you MUST read this! Regardless of the catalyst, pain is pain. Don't allow it to hold you back !

This book gave me the insight into my 'woes' and inspiration to become a balanced happier person.

The tools she uncovered were within me all along.

I'm 58 now, twice married (if I knew then...) at least my second husband will not have to bare the burden of my unresolved childhood issues.

I'd love to have the opportunity to thank you in person someday but for now... I hope you can my gratitude.

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Absolutely worth it!

This book makes sooo much sense for me- things on my plate, in my household, and work/social life: ADHD, adoption, separation trauma, PMDD, anxiety, depression, ODD, RAD, narcissistic abuse patterns, and more.

This makes so much sense and has helped me recognize, and understand how to make it over these speed bumps that happen.

It’s already helping myself, boyfriend, family, and peers. We’ve passed this on to several people that we value, and are committed to continuing this in our lives.

Thank you to the author, and reader- the voice was not bothersome, and appreciated.

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Perfect for trauma therapists

It s an amazing book🫶 with a lot of information that can help you. It s totally a Tian Dayton book, always at the sunject, with very good informations.

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a must read for anyone.

I cannot convey how much this book helped change my life. I thought I had a good childhood nice house nice life good job etc and i couldn't understand why I was so miserable and drinking myself to death. now i get it!

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I will listen to this book over, and over again .

Very informative, and easy to understand the complex life of many, many people who want help understanding .

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A Must Listen And Read!!!

I was introduced to Tian Dayton and her material a few months back while searching for material on trauma and addiction. I am so glad to have found her. This book runneth over with the truth, power and revelations of what I have experienced as a survivor of trauma!!! You owe it to yourself and your loved ones to listen to and read "Emotional Sobriety"!!!

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Divorced from an ACOA

This is a great tool to use along the healing journey. At the end of my 30 year marriage my wife’s trauma story came out!!! She was a child of an abusive alcoholic!!! She was Pinterest following Borderline Personality Disorder, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, “I hate you don’t leave me insight into the mind of a Borderline” and “Inherited family trauma it didn’t start with you”!!! Those books are also available on Audible and have given me great insight!!! My ex also suffers from alcoholism and addictions!!! Grave emotional and mental health issues and the inability for rigorous honesty!!!

My name is Bob Dunn
If you want to share stories please feel free to reach out to me at 313-670-1408

I am currently working as a substance abuse and mental health recovery advocate! If you or any friends or family are struggling with these issues please reach out. I could help place you.

STAY STRONG

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