• 142. Familiar Safety vs Embodied Safety (Why You Feel Safe in What's Hurting You)
    Apr 14 2026
    There's a kind of safety that doesn't actually feel safe — and most of us have been living inside it our whole lives.In this episode, I'm sharing something I've been sitting with for a while. Something personal and a little uncomfortable to say out loud: that even as someone who teaches nervous system healing, I spent years outsourcing my sense of safety to things outside myself — my marriage, my business, my Instagram following, my sense of being "put together." And when all of it fell apart at once, I had to finally learn the difference between familiar safety and embodied safety.Familiar safety is predictable. It's the jungle where you know exactly where the tiger hides. It's people-pleasing, perfectionism, staying small, tolerating relationships where you never feel chosen — not because it feels good, but because at least you know the terrain. Your nervous system has mapped every inch of it. And that map feels like control.Embodied safety is something else entirely. It's not a permanent state of calm. It's presence. It's the capacity to be with whatever arises in you — the sadness, the fear, the grief — without running from it or being swallowed by it. It's the difference between a river that flows through you and a flood that takes you under.This episode is honest, a little messy, and very real. Which feels right — because that's exactly what this work actually looks like from the inside.The Unburdened Heart Program: https://marinayt.com/the-unburdened-heart WORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinayt.com/resources CONNECT WITH ME:Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"When you're disconnected from your own body, from your desires, your needs, your emotions — it's like a shell of you connecting to someone else. And over time, that just falls apart.""Familiar safety is being in a jungle where you know where the tiger hides. You know the terrain, you know what not to do to provoke it. That is your life. And it sucks.""Every concept of safety I'd ever clung to — my marriage, my business, my follower count — has been taken away overnight. And I had to find out what was left when none of it was there.""Embodied safety doesn't mean you constantly feel ease and calm. It means you're present with yourself — and when you leave, you come back.""Moving into deep self-trust and inner safety is hard as hell. It's not 'I love and trust myself.' It's crying. It's processing. It's being in the dance."embodied safety, nervous system regulation, somatic healing, trauma healing, codependency healing, familiar safety, inner safety, self trust, emotional regulation, attachment healing, people pleasing, perfectionism and trauma, relational healing, inner child healing, survival mode, burnout recovery, embodiment, authentic connection, deep within podcast, somatic coaching
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  • 141. Why You Fixate on People and Goals (It's Not What You Think)
    Apr 9 2026
    If you fixate on people, partners, work, or goals — if something gets under your skin and won't let go — this episode is for you.What most people call desperation or clinginess is actually your nervous system trying to finish something it never got to complete. In this episode, I'm getting personal about my own patterns with fixation, codependency, and disorganised attachment — and I'm breaking down exactly what's happening in your body and your inner child when you zero in on someone or something with that aching, urgent need.We talk about why uncertainty feels so unbearable when you've grown up in an environment that was never truly safe. Why anxious attachment pulls you toward people, and avoidant attachment pulls you toward goals. And what it actually means to complete the cycle — not by finally getting the love you were chasing, but by learning to meet that child part of you where she actually is.This isn't about willpower or mindset. It's about understanding that the part of you that fixates isn't broken — she's been trying to survive.I share the three things that genuinely help: self-compassion (not the fluffy kind), sitting with the incomplete emotions underneath the fixation, and learning how to ask for your needs to be met — from your adult self, not your wounded one.The Unburdened Heart Program: https://marinayt.com/the-unburdened-heartWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinayt.com/resources CONNECT WITH ME:Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:"Your nervous system is trying to complete a cycle. It's trying to find a resolution to uncertainty.""That was your childhood — walking on eggshells, always feeling the threat. A tiger you could hear but never quite see.""Your little self is trying to get the love, the safety, the security she never received. She's not asking too much. She just has the wrong address.""Self-compassion is not saying 'I feel so good, I'm not desperate.' It's the opposite — it's acknowledging exactly what you're going through, very clearly, without flinching.""A traumatised nervous system is always going to look for a saviour — because that saviour is a proxy for the parents that never showed up."codependency healing, nervous system regulation, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganised attachment, inner child healing, trauma healing, somatic healing, emotional regulation, fixation and obsession, childhood emotional neglect, self-compassion, attachment wounds, people pleasing, survival mode, relational healing, self trust, embodiment, fear of abandonment, deep within podcast
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  • 140. The Unshaming Way: Transforming Shame into Self-Connection with David Bedrick
    Apr 7 2026
    Shame is one of the most powerful and misunderstood forces shaping our lives. In this deeply insightful conversation, I sit down with author, counselor, and teacher David Bedrick to explore what it truly means to “unshame” ourselves. Rather than seeing our struggles as problems to fix, David invites us to view them as doorways into deeper self-awareness, compassion, and connection.We talk about how shame forms in childhood, why traditional self-improvement approaches often reinforce it, and how embodied awareness can help us transform suffering into meaningful growth. David shares his personal journey, the philosophy behind his work at the Santa Fe Institute for Shame-based Studies, and practical reflections on how we can begin to relate differently to our inner critic, our pain, and the parts of ourselves we’ve learned to hide.This episode is a gentle but powerful reminder that healing doesn’t come from becoming someone new. It comes from learning to meet ourselves — exactly as we are — with curiosity, dignity, and care.Connect with David:Order The Unshaming Way: https://a.co/d/dYTwNa7Website: https://www.davidbedrick.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/david.bedrick/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DBedrickPsychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/david-bedrick-jd-dipl-pwWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinayt.com/resources CONNECT WITH ME:Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:“Shame is not just an emotion — it’s an entire way we’ve been taught to relate to ourselves.”“Unshaming is not about getting rid of pain. It’s about learning how to listen to what it is trying to show you.”“When we stop treating our struggles as defects, they become invitations to insight and soul.”“Real healing begins when we meet the parts of ourselves we were taught to reject.”“There is a profound beauty in the places we once believed were broken.”shame healing, somatic healing, trauma healing, self compassion, emotional healing, nervous system regulation, david bedrick, unshaming, inner critic work, embodied awareness, trauma recovery, healing shame, personal growth, self connection, depth psychology, emotional resilience
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  • 139. The Pain of Being Misunderstood And Learning to Stay With Yourself
    Mar 31 2026
    In this deeply vulnerable solo episode, I share the emotional reality of what it feels like to be misunderstood, especially when you are doing deep healing work and your choices no longer make sense to others. This conversation explores the grief that arises when you begin to live more truthfully, and the nervous system responses that get activated when connection feels threatened.I speak about the internal conflict between wanting to be seen and wanting to protect yourself, and how many of us learned early in life that safety came from adapting, explaining, or shrinking. As those old strategies start to fall away, it can feel disorienting and lonely — but it is also where a new level of self-trust begins to emerge.We explore what it means to stay present with your emotions instead of abandoning yourself for approval, how misunderstanding can trigger deep attachment wounds, and why learning to hold yourself with compassion is one of the most powerful steps in healing. This episode is an invitation to soften into your own experience, even when others cannot meet you there.FREE RESOURCE: Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: ⁠https://marinayt.com/connect-and-groundWORK WITH ME 1:1:❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewformDOWNLOAD FOR FREE:Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guideAttatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-groundAlive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-alignedTrigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:https://marinayt.com/resources CONNECT WITH ME:Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠ Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner Top Episode Quotes:“I realised how deeply being misunderstood still activates something very young inside of me.”“There’s a part of us that would rather explain and over-function than risk losing connection.”“Healing sometimes looks like staying with yourself when no one else understands.”“The nervous system doesn’t just want logic — it wants safety.”“You can grieve the loss of being seen and still choose not to abandon yourself.”being misunderstood, attachment wounds, somatic healing, nervous system regulation, emotional healing, self trust, trauma recovery, people pleasing patterns, abandonment trauma, healing journey, inner child work, emotional safety, authenticity, relational healing, survival mode, personal growth, feminine healing
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    23 m
  • 138. When You Finally Stop Trying to Be Chosen
    Mar 24 2026

    In this deeply honest episode, I share the emotional turning point that came when I realised how much of my life had been shaped by the unconscious need to be chosen. Chosen in love. Chosen in friendships. Chosen in work. Beneath it all was a nervous system wired for survival, constantly scanning for signs of rejection and trying to secure safety through approval.

    I talk about the grief of recognising how much energy goes into performing, proving, and striving to be enough — and the quiet but powerful shift that begins when you stop fighting for your worth. This episode explores what it feels like to release the old identity built around pleasing and achieving, and how real healing begins when you start choosing yourself, even when it feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar.

    We explore the somatic layers of this pattern, the ancestral echoes of abandonment and conditional love, and the relief that comes when you allow yourself to soften into your own presence. This is a conversation about self-trust, emotional maturity, and the courage it takes to step out of survival mode and into a more grounded way of being.


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    DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:

    • Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guide

    • Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice

    • Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-ground

    • Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned

    • Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted


    VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:

    https://marinayt.com/resources


    CONNECT WITH ME:

    Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠

    Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner


    Top Episode Quotes:

    “I realised how much of my life was organised around trying to be chosen.”

    “When you stop performing for love, you begin to feel what’s actually underneath.”

    “It wasn’t rejection I was afraid of — it was the loss of safety my body associated with it.”

    “There is a quiet power in choosing yourself that no external validation can replace.”

    “Healing is not about becoming someone new. It’s about finally allowing yourself to be who you already are.”




    self worth healing, somatic healing, nervous system regulation, people pleasing, abandonment trauma, emotional healing, choosing yourself, trauma recovery, inner child healing, survival mode, authentic self, attachment wounds, feminine healing, personal growth, somatic therapy, emotional maturity, self trust journey


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    18 m
  • 137. Learning to Feel Safe Without a Man: Healing Generational Codependency
    Mar 17 2026

    For most of my life, I carried a deep, visceral belief in my body that I wasn’t safe without a man. It wasn’t a logical thought — it was a felt sense in my nervous system. When my marriage ended, I didn’t just feel sad. I felt like I was going to die.

    In this deeply personal episode, I share the generational patterns of codependence I witnessed in the women in my family, how those patterns shaped my nervous system, and the surprising way my healing began. It wasn’t through pushing harder, doing more personal development, or becoming more independent in the way I thought it would be. It came through burnout, surrender, and learning how to finally take care of myself.

    I talk about the survival mode many of us live in, the grief that comes with letting go of an identity built on striving and pushing, and the profound freedom that comes from meeting your own needs instead of expecting someone else to rescue you.

    If you’ve ever felt desperate for a relationship, clung to someone for safety, or feared being alone, this episode explores how healing begins when you slowly become the one who shows up for yourself.


    Download for free the Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned


    WORK WITH ME 1:1:

    ❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu

    ❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform


    DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:

    • Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guide

    • Attatchment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice

    • Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-ground

    • Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned

    • Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted


    VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:

    https://marinayt.com/resources#/


    CONNECT WITH ME:

    Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠

    Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner


    Top Episode Quotes:

    “I’ve always had this deep felt sense that if I’m without a man, I’m not safe.”

    “When my marriage ended, I didn’t think I was going to die — I felt it in my body.”

    “I realized I was expecting a partner to meet needs that I wasn’t meeting for myself.”

    “I arrived at freedom not by pushing harder, but by surrendering and letting myself be tired.”

    “Self-care is simply noticing your needs and actually meeting them.”






    codependency healing, nervous system healing, somatic healing, relationship patterns, trauma healing, abandonment wounds, emotional dependency, generational trauma, feminine healing, survival mode, self care, attachment healing, nervous system regulation, somatic therapy, emotional healing, personal growth, healing codependency


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    18 m
  • The 4 Stages of Healing Childhood Trauma
    Mar 10 2026

    There’s so much content out there about healing childhood trauma. And I’m here to tell you, from my heart to yours — it’s a bitch. It’s messy. It’s long. It’s layered. And even those of us who teach this work still cry, still get triggered, and still move through it in real time.

    In this episode, I share the four stages of healing that I teach my clients — and how they directly mirror what secure attachment in childhood was supposed to provide. Because the truth is, most of us didn’t get what we needed. And now we get to learn how to offer that to ourselves.

    We explore reconnecting to sensations when you’ve been dissociated for years, what nervous system regulation actually means (and why so much of what’s said online misses the point), how to feel emotions safely instead of suppressing them, how to recognize and meet your needs without shame, and why desire is often the most terrifying and liberating layer of all.

    This is not a quick fix episode. This is an honest one. Healing is not about becoming calm and never feeling anything again. It’s about building the capacity to feel deeply and stay safe while you do.

    If you’ve ever wondered why this work feels so hard, why expressing yourself feels dangerous, or why asking for what you want feels like risking abandonment — this episode will help you understand the layers.

    Here is your free Triggers Practice-> Trigger to Rooted: A step-by-step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted


    WORK WITH ME 1:1:

    ❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu

    ❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform


    DOWNLOAD FOR FREE:

    • Stay or Go: 5 Clarity Questions to Reconnect with Your Inner Knowing: https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go-guide

    • Attachment Practice: Discover the actual blocks beneath the surface so you can actually have the deep intimacy you crave: https://marinayt.com/attachment-practice

    • Connect & Ground: 10 Incredible Somatic Practices for Nervous System Regulation: https://marinayt.com/connect-and-ground

    • Alive & Aligned: 7 Embodiment Practices For Self Connection: https://marinayt.com/alive-and-aligned

    • Trigger to Rooted: A step by step process of working with your triggers: https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted


    VIEW MY COURSES & RESOURCES:

    https://marinayt.com/resources#/


    CONNECT WITH ME:

    Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠

    Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner


    Top Episode Quotes:

    “There’s a lot of content out there on healing childhood trauma, and I’m here to tell you that it’s a bitch.”

    “Regulation is not feeling calm all the time. Regulation is feeling sad or angry or scared and still feeling safe while you feel it.”

    “The most incredible healing experience is when you can have authenticity and connection at the same time.”

    “You never were given the instructions that you were supposed to get — and now you get to become that parent for yourself.”

    “When you’re in survival mode, you’re not your real self. You’re playing a role that kept you safe in childhood.”




    childhood trauma healing, nervous system regulation, somatic healing, emotional regulation, abandonment trauma, attachment wounds, trauma recovery, authentic self, people pleasing, survival mode, emotional safety, healing journey, somatic therapy, inner child work, secure attachment


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    21 m
  • 134. Disconfirming Experiences: Healing Emotional Expression Through Somatic Safety
    Feb 24 2026

    In this heartfelt episode, I open up about two painful breakups and the unexpected healing that came from allowing myself to be witnessed in my most vulnerable moments. I explore the idea of disconfirming experiences — moments where the body learns safety in ways it never has before — and why they are so essential for healing childhood wounds, especially when it comes to emotions, expression, and receiving care.

    Through personal stories and client examples, I unpack how our nervous systems hold onto the past, how somatic work can gently begin to shift those deep patterns, and why going slow, honoring resistance, and cultivating safe relationships is the key to emotional freedom.

    If you've ever wanted to cry but felt like you couldn’t, or longed to be seen but feared it was too much — this episode will help you understand why and what to do next.


    ❥Softening into self- 3 month 1:1 with Whats App Support:https://marina-yt.mykajabi.com/offers/PAWQhZHu

    ❥❥1:1 Coaching with me: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfWcZM5s9c2OjOLwoGMI5jE6rh_JAzjN2d_vCtuVe7e3pVGxw/viewform

    ❥❥❥Stay or Go Course: ⁠https://marinayt.com/stay-or-go⁠

    ❥❥❥❥ FREE RESOURCE: a step-by-step process of working with your triggers

    TRIGGERED TO ROOTED: A ROADMAP TO CREATE TREASURES FROM YOUR TRIGGERS

    This powerful step by step process will walk you through how to somatically move through a trigger, ground yourself, allow the emotions to come up and experience massive growth in your life

    Download here:⁠ ⁠https://marinayt.com/trigger-2-rooted⁠⁠

    Follow me on Instagram:⁠ ⁠www.instagram.com/marina.y.t⁠⁠

    Subscribe to YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/@marinatriner


    Top Episode Quotes:

    "It took me a long time to get to the point where I actually allowed people to witness me crying."
    "Your body is not sabotaging you — it's protecting you based on what it learned in childhood."
    "Disconfirming experiences teach the nervous system something new — not through theory, but through real, safe, felt experience."
    "The first step is not to push the protector away, but to honor it. That part of you kept you alive."




    somatic healing, emotional healing, nervous system regulation, inner child work, disconfirming experiences, trauma recovery, self expression, somatic therapy, Marina Yanay-Triner, compassionate coaching, healing through relationships, vulnerability, emotional release, solo episode, trauma-informed, crying in front of others, emotional safety, nervous system healing, somatic coach


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    20 m