Courtship in Crisis

De: Thomas Umstattd Jr.

Narrado por: Thomas Umstattd Jr.

The Experiment Failed

In the 1990s, a huge movement swept through America. Millions of young people stopped dating and embraced something new called "courtship", which promised to usher singles into marriage while avoiding the dangers of dating. It sounded wonderful.

The problem? It didn't work.

The resulting singleness epidemic left a generation with broken hearts and little hope.

There's Another Way

In Courtship in Crisis, Thomas Umstattd Jr. explains where the courtship crisis came from and why it failed. More importantly, he lays out an alternative model that works.

©2017 Thomas Umstattd Jr. (P)2017 Thomas Umstattd Jr.

Nice

It really good! The author read it how it should be. I could still recall his energy and emotion as he read this book. I marked it as well. I recommend this to all religious people. Keep up the dating. See ya! I hope this helps!

If u come from the I Kissed Dating Goodbye culture

Before going into a review of this read, I have to share that I was reluctant to read about a different perspective to singleness and courtship because of the positive changes I've experienced. 3-4 years ago, I was in a place where reading Joshua Harris's books (I Kissed Dating Goodbye and Boy Meets Girl Say Hello to Courtship) helped me to develop a healthy view of god honoring romantic relationships. I learned that the lifestyle of recreational dating (mentioned as modern dating in this book) is a detour from serving God as a single. Also that putting off dating if you are not ready for commitment is wise. Intimacy is the reward of commitment, it should be. About courtship, I learned that this was an approach to dating - getting to know one another with the goal of marriage, involving community into that process of evaluation, having healthy physical boundaries to honor each other, and most importantly having God at the center of the relationship. I still agree with these views.

Reading a different perspective is often hard for me because I feel that I can easily find myself agreeing with both sides. In this case, it's a great thing! There is a lot of wisdom here. The author writes in tune with the title - as a case for traditional dating. He gave the history of courtship evolution, explanained some pitfalls in the modern approach of courtship, shared stories of people who have been hurt, and explained what traditional dating is. The final chapter (Q&A section) is my favorite!

So if you come from the I Kissed Dating Goodbye culture, whether you've had a negative or positive experience, I recommend giving this a read. I think someone from a more conservative background would most benefit but even for me where the process of learning has been more recent, this helps to see dating with less pressure. Not with less commitment, but less pressure when in that season of figuring out if and why you like someone.

Great Book

I would recommend this book to any single person longing to find love. Thomas shows us how the wisdom of the greatest generation can help singles in the 21st century fall in love, have fun, and glorify God all at the same time!

Interesting

Worthy of prayerful consideration. My youngest son, in his 20's, read this and recommended it to me. A problem that needs to be addressed is communicating to the prospective date how you define dating. One young lady doesn't want to see him again because she thinks he's bad for dating others.