Conscious Uncoupling

5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

By: Katherine Woodward Thomas MA MFT

Narrated by: Katherine Woodward Thomas MA MFT

Length: 9 hrs and 35 mins

Publisher's summary

Conscious Uncoupling is a breakup or divorce that is characterized by goodwill, generosity, and respect. And it's an audiobook for anyone who has ever experienced a bad breakup of any kind - with a girlfriend, boyfriend, friend, boss, employee, husband, or wife - and who wants to try another way.

It's well past time we became more grown up and less damaging in how we dissolve relationships. Conscious Uncoupling is a tried-and-true, step-by-step process for completing the old relationship while holding out for the possibility of generating a happier and healthier one. Katherine Woodward Thomas teaches listeners how to have difficult conversations with the other person in their relationship, how to clear away any toxic emotional residue left between them, and how to train one's social community to adjust to the new form of the relationship and behave respectfully toward both individuals.

Conscious Uncoupling will also provide a cultural perspective on breakups and divorce and will help listeners understand their own experience inside of the larger context of society. And the book will initiate and support this new movement in culture by promoting greater awareness and introducing the critical skills to navigate the end of love in an empowered way.

Conscious Uncoupling promises to be a substantial book that will inspire people to begin thinking differently about breakups and divorce in addition to helping them heal their heartbreak.

©2015 Katherine Woodward Thomas (P)2015 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

Exceeded my expectations

Long story short, I had decided to end my marriage. The pain was too much to handle. I was having a really hard time emotionally, swinging between extreme highs and extreme lows. I was worried about functioning as a mother and as an employee. One thing I knew for sure: I did NOT want to end my marriage with hate and rage. I wanted us BOTH to be as adjusted and healed as possible. After all, I've spent years with this person, raising a child, pets, owning property...why end in a fiery ball of anger?

I bought this book and immediately enjoyed it. As the lessons progressed, I found myself pausing it, rewinding, and re-listening to points that helped me tremendously. For the first time in months, I understood my emotions and felt more in control. I was able to function again, while grieving my marriage and my "lost dreams."

I smiled, I cried, but more than anything I stopped to self-reflect. I took ownership for all of the things that I did in the relationship that didn't help. I took ownership of the thoughts and beliefs that I brought in to my life that had hurt my marriage. The ironic thing is, once I looked at myself, I decided to reconcile with my husband. Not saying that you should read this to try and stay together ;-) . Regardless of the outcome of your relationship, you will grow so much if you truly allow yourself the opportunity to listen and learn from the lessons. Highly recommend to anyone hurting and moving through the heartbreak of uncoupling.

Necessary for All

Wow, and I mean, wow.

First off, I have to say that I definitely recommend this book to anyone and everyone. Gaining the insight and understanding of how to part ways/change the dynamic or status of a relationship is invaluable, and, I feel, is still not widely known in our (American) culture today.

Having been through a less than amicable divorce myself (6 years of marriage after marrying at the age of 17), I really see the value of exiting/changing the status of a relationship in a more healthful way for everyone involved.

Is it possible to end a marriage union without both parties downright attacking and cutting down the value of the other that they so committed their love to?

I believed so. This book confirms it.

Highly practical. Not easy by any stretch of the imagination, but relatively simple and massively more rewarding.

I believe in the good of each of our relationships and bonds that we form. At one point, they were very good for us, and we knew it. Let us not discount the good experiences we have had and move forward, empowering each other to continue growing and find new happiness, instead of breaking one another down into pieces that take years and years to repair.

A relationship that ends does not equate to a "failure." There were good things and good times. And then there was a change. Let us learn from this and everyone's right to their own free will.

Let us end committed relationships with peace and blessings, not angst and hatred.

DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME

Holy hell the reader of this book is monotone depressing voice. If you are listening to this because you are trying to get over a break up YHIS WILL NOT HELP. Good god who picked this narrator ??

profoundly helpful and life changing book<br />

Transformational. paradigm shifting. sooo grateful. Do the exercises. Get a coach. Forgive, let go. Move on.

Excellent read for All

Loved it. this is an excellent read for All who are seeking to grow and develop and deeper connection with self and others!

When we do what is right real the rewards

This book encourages all of us to behave with more charity in our lives. It is great in a time when mostly what we see is pain being enhanced by selfish choices. Nothing to fear here, read it and put the principles to practice. She really needs to write a Conscious Recoupling version though it would really be the same book. The same principles that make for good breakups are the same principles that make for great couplings.

Update: I have read this book 6x now and it has helped me create a better life!

Nonsense

The book doesn’t address the scenario of “you got blindsided by your spouse”.
She attempts to address it with some nonsensical story about a woman who was left by her cheating husband and she was angry. Only to later remember that the husband some years earlier asked her to go to marriage counseling but she was too busy.

I literally laugh as I write the above... what man would ask that and what woman would refuse?

This book has sold a lot of copies because there just isn’t much out there on the subject, it it’s marginal at best.

She marginalizes divorce and she marginalizes what it means to make a commitment. Marriage doesn't mean finding the right person (again and again). It means learning to love the person you've already found. The end of a marriage is live a death, The pursuit of "happiness" at the cost of marriage, family, and more.

I suspect this authors target demographic, women (who at present file for divorce 80% of the time), was an easy target for her to make more money.

Amazing book, beautifully read!

This book is for EVERYONE! I read it because my sister is doing a conscious uncoupling and I want to be supportive. Being happily married myself I didnt expect to get so much out of it for my own life! My sister and I feel the same....EVERYONE should read this book! Single, divorced, happily married, engaged...you WILL find value in this book!

It is read by the author which as we all know isn't always a good thing....well it is in this case! Easily in the top 3 books I've ever listened to!

Just What I Needed

I needed her words, advice, insight, and approach to help me shift my mindset towards and about divorce, especially with the overwhelming emotions that accompany when divorce will be a part of your story.

Practical Information

Practical advice for how to end a relationship with respect and healing. The author illustrates the points with many examples and gives a wealth of resources for further reading/study. Recommended to anyone dealing with loss.