Confronting Without Combusting

How to Speak Up Without Starting Fires

You don’t have to shout to be heard. You don’t have to shrink to keep the peace.

In Confronting Without Combusting, Logan Carr—author of The Steady Strength Library—delivers a clear, steady guide for men who want to have honest conversations without igniting conflict or going silent.

If you’ve ever felt like confrontation meant choosing between exploding or avoiding, this book is your third option: calm strength.

With real-life scripts, reflective tools, and step-by-step guidance, you’ll learn how to:

• Speak up with emotional steadiness and clear intent

• Set boundaries without guilt or over-explaining

• Handle criticism without defensiveness

• Calm your body and mind before, during, and after tense conversations

• Lead difficult discussions at work, in relationships, and with family

• Exit toxic dynamics with integrity

• Build your “confrontation muscle” with practice, not perfection

This is not a book about dominating others. It’s about staying grounded in who you are—so you can say what needs to be said, with courage and care.

Whether you’re preparing for a tough talk, recovering from a blow-up, or trying to find your voice for the first time, Confronting Without Combusting offers you the tools and mindset to show up strong, clear, and kind.

You’re not too emotional. You’re not too late. You’re ready.