You often hear, "Happy Holidays", or "Merry Christmas", although many feel anything but happy or merry at this season - or at any season - due to loss in their lives. The Christmas or holiday season, when people gather with friends and family, accentuates the losses we feel. This is due to the absence or the longing to be with those who are not with us at this season. Whether it is a death, a divorce, a loss of a job, or a move that separates us from those we miss and love, the holidays can be joyous on the outside but agony inside. Some can pretend, while others just cannot, due to the pain.