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Something scary is happening to boys today. From kindergarten to college, American boys are, on average, less resilient and less ambitious than they were a mere 20 years ago. The gender gap in college attendance and graduation rates has widened dramatically. While Emily is working hard at school and getting A's, her brother, Justin, is goofing off. He's more concerned about getting to the next level in his video game than about finishing his homework.

Now, Dr. Leonard Sax delves into the scientific literature and draws on more than 20 years of clinical experience to explain why boys and young men are failing in school and disengaged at home. He shows how social, cultural, and biological factors have created an environment that is literally toxic to boys. He also presents practical solutions, sharing strategies that educators have found effective in reengaging these boys at school as well as handy tips for parents about everything from homework to video games to medication.

©2016 Leonard Sax (P)2017 Hachette Audio

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Profound

This is the most enlightening book I've ever listened to in my 70 years. Dr Sax truly understands today's culture, education system and how are culture is negatively impacting our boys' view and their place in this world.

We are homeschooling our 9 year old grandson and earnestly incorporating the Dr's idea of hands on learning and just being outdoors. He is responding well to the change. He loves the science projects, the hikes, the nature watching and has a better attitude towards the sit down type of work we have to do. In part, I think working him physically helps his attitude and spirit.

He still will "buck" us on academic work but it is less so. We try to intersperse it with experiments, cooking, cleaning, riding bikes, walking and just playing. Life is definitely improving all the way around.

I am EXTREMELY grateful for Leanard Sax and his wisdom.

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parent must read.

excellent Book for a book club. multiple action items for parents to use helping their boys become productive members of society.

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  • 08-20-17

plausible but full of faulty logic

Dr. Sax has written a book that includes some research but much more observational/anecdotal data from his own personal experience conflated as wide, group level facts.

This book is a good example that two different people can look at The same observation and walk away with a different conclusions. Some of the ideas in the book are valid, however.

Fundamentally, this book hits at the core of 'nature versus nurture' and seems to suggest that nurture should conform to nature without any aspiration to evolve to the next/higher level that might be feasible ad a society. This is stated because the book is not comprehensive but aims to provide gender segregated education ad a solution to problems that may need gender mixed experiential learning. e.g. a co-ed scouting group does a far better job of giving safe space for outdoor interactions than to segregate scouting. The intent is decent for Dr Sax but the solutions may require looking at the world around us differently.

There are many personal choices by the author regarding how to present data. For example, When speaking about enduring cultures, the author chose to completely ignore the far east cultures, which may have different lessons for the problems considered.

All in all, if you read the book read it with an open mind and try to see if your solutions might be different than those offered. At the end of the day, all the grownups amongst us have to tackle this problem so the future generations may benefit.

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An absolute must read/listen

As a mother of two boys, one teenage and one preteen boy this was so informative. It gave me the answers I was looking for. It’s not a quick fix but does answer the questions I was asking and looking for. The author was very knowledgeable and gave good insight. I will be listening to his other books as well. Anyone with boys or around boys, ie: coaches, teachers, parents, should all read this book to see what’s going on with our boys and how hat is having an effect on our girls and our society as a whole.

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GREAT BOOK!

This is a must read for all parents with boys! Cannot recommend enough, will be referring my older kids to read it as well!!!

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excellent book!

This is definitely a must read for raising up boys in today's very confused and toxic culture! A good mine of knowledge on boys becoming men

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Vital Information + Practical Tips!

Every parent of boys needs this book! Vital information combined with practical tips make it a must-read for boy parents!

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Really good

Really good listen, one of the best parenting books I’ve ever listen to.

Very helpful for understanding what our modern boys will be going through. Has helped me make decisions going forward with education, and lifestyle choices for my son.

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A Must Read

This book is very enlightening! This is a must read if you are raising a boy.

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This book really hit home for me! I would definitely recommend this book to any parent whose child is already diagnosed with ADHD or thinks their child may have it.
This books brings a lot of things into perspective for me, as I am currently raising a ‘boy adrift’. Sax is able to educate his readers on 5 factors that boys face today and does it in a way that I think every parent can relate to.

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Brilliant

Clearly written, passionately narrated, the book convincingly describes The key factors behind a decline in boys engagement with society and how to change.

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  • Bashy
  • 05-06-18

Eye opening. Makes a lot of sense.

As someone just before this generation but with a toe in it to a certain extent this really explains a lot and as a parent of three boys has been a true eye opener. Lots to look out for from a schooling and life skills aspect.

We have work to do.

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  • Mr. K. Korotko
  • 09-11-17

Absolutely amazing.

Every parent should listen to it. Explains many parental problems like ADHD, video game addiction, lackmof motivation, feminity in boys and many more. Highly recommended.