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Are you trapped in a toxic relationship? Have you been led to believe that it’s you who’s always wrong? Are uncontrolled emotions isolating you and destroying everything they touch? Are you afraid of what will happen if you decide to break out of your relationship?

Being in a relationship with a person who has a borderline personality means living a love-hate relationship that’s obsessive, complicated, and unstable. Unfortunately, these kinds of relationships can be particularly difficult to escape from. However long the relationship has lasted, a relationship with a person who has BPD typically creates a destabilizing impact on the psyche of those who live with it and leaves emotional wounds that are very difficult to heal.

Sadly, sometimes, these relationships produce more than just psychological wounds. Stalking, threats, and physical violence are all possibilities when a person breaks up with someone who has a serious borderline personality disorder. Threats of suicide, self-harm, or even revenge attempts are all common issues in such situations.

Sufferers of BPD live at the limit, they are acrobats in a precarious balance on a razor’s edge.

This audiobook is essential listening if, in the last three months, a person that you are close to has been overwhelmed by:

  • Anxiety, depression, and anger, often for reasons that others find difficult to understand or that they consider inconsequential
  • Intense or uncontrollable emotional explosions
  • Instability in interpersonal relationships and self-esteem
  • Concerns about abandonment
  • Desperate feelings of being misunderstood
  • Feelings of powerlessness and despair
  • Ideas about self-harm and/or suicide
  • Doubts about themselves and their sanity

Do the following symptoms play families? A person who comes into close contact with a sufferer of BPD will, over time, be exposed to a variety of manipulative behaviors. Normally, the BPD sufferer will use sophisticated manipulation techniques in order to decline even the most minor of life’s responsibilities. 

To put it briefly, as suggested by one of my readers, "BPD people put their entire lives in your hands and then blame you and punish you if something goes wrong." BPD is a black hole of attention and affection. Nothing can fill this void. 

The person closest to the BPD victim can experience the following feelings that prevent that person from moving away from their BPD:

  • They will feel used and manipulated.
  • They will be forced to sacrifice their personal needs in a dedicated existence, devoted to the sufferer of BPD.
  • There will be concern about what will happen to the BPD sufferer if I leave.
  • THere will be concerns, like: How will the BPD sufferer react to a break-up? Will they try to self-harm or commit suicide?
  • If I abandon the BPD sufferer, then I am the bad person who has been selfish, and disregarded him, so what he says is true.

There are many other situations that are listed within this book. Knowing the right information allows you to limit the damage and avoid unnecessary suffering. 

©2020 David Lawson, PhD (P)2020 David Lawson, PhD

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Insightful- from someone with BPD

This book didn't make me feel like a piece of crap, which is something. I skimmed over the last few chapters about relationships, hoping my S/O will listen to them. I would listen to it again. I was made aware of my diagnoses recently and came across this this book to help me understand BPD and myself a little more and it did. I recommend.

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It is what it is

It was interesting to hear from different ppl who suffer from bpd whether it is mild to high...I related either way. I found this helpful to reassure I am not alone. And that there is help and tools to help you. This is a good assistance guide with recovery.

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Pure things into perspective. The author gives detailed info. to help family & friends of those really understand them. For those of you that are ready to give up, listen or listen to Loving Someone with BPD.

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Deeply moving.

I have gained extensive understanding of myself, and whilst listening to this audiobook, i have been able to apply the reasonings and advice from the psychiatrist to my own life. Gillian you have changed my life by choosing to share your life story! Deeply moving.

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Best Story on BPD

Thank you for sharing your story Gillian. I have much more compassion and knowledge about BPD because of you and can't thank you enough for your bravery in coming forward with the truth of your disorder.

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Insightful for those with an Interest in BPD

This book was insightful for those with an interest in BPD. It more or less outlines a specific individuals' path with borderline personality disorder and is by no means a book that gives advice or suggestions to assist someone else suffereing with this disorder. It did give me a feeling of 'I'm not alone in this.

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I learned a lot from this audible

Very informative and easy to understand. Gives practical steps to help you positively communicate with your loved one who suffer from BPD. Eye opening and helps you see truth and treat your loved one with compassion.

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Must have for those trying to heal...

My life fell apart recently. This audio-book has been an instrumental one in the stack of audio-books I'm listening for my recovery. It's like looking in a mirror.

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Eye opening

This audio-book made me realize that my spouse suffers from BPD and allowed me to start the process of seeking treatment. He has been told by medical professionals before but never took it seriously.

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I highly recommend this audio-book

I started listening to this audio-book for one purpose. I listened this book for my friend when he found out he had Borderline. I found out I had Borderline as well while listening to this book.

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  • debbie janes
  • 03-03-21

lacks depth

the audio on this isn't very good its a very basic outline of bpd contradictions in place claim you can simply get rid of bpd if you control your outbursts but in other parts says it a life long debilitating condition

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  • 06-12-20

FANTASTIC

This thing has made me realise where my life went wrong so many times over and over would highly recommend