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To make an open marriage work, Franklin and Celeste knew they needed to make sure no one else ever came between them. That meant there had to be rules. No overnights, no falling in love, and either one of them could ask the other to end an outside relationship if it became too much to deal with. It worked for nearly two decades, and their relentless focus on their own relationship let them turn a blind eye to the emotional wreckage they were leaving behind them.

The rules did not prepare them for Amber.

"I have a question," Amber would say. And whatever came next would send a wrecking ball through Franklin and Celeste's comforting illusions. Amber was the first of Franklin s polyamorous secondary partners to insist on being treated like a person, and the first to peel back the layers of insecurity and fear that surrounded their relationship. Amber was a game changer.

A game-changing relationship is one that uproots and redirects your life. It overthrows your assumptions about who you are and why. It awakens you to possibilities you'd never conceived of. It disrupts. And it is the unspoken elephant in the attractive showroom of polyamorous relationships.

This book is the true story of a game-changing relationship that changed not only Franklin and Celeste's lives, but the face of the modern polyamory movement.

A game-changing relationship can happen to anyone. How will you handle it when it happens to you?

©2015 Franklin Veaux (P)2015 Thorntree Press

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Maybe better than More Than Two?

What made the experience of listening to The Game Changer the most enjoyable?

As much as I enjoyed More Than Two, it often read like a textbook for new polys. That's not a bad thing, of course. But, it was awesome to hear a story that was 100% from the lived experience of the author. I'm biased in that I learn more from real occurrences (my own and that of others) than theory. Either way, this book is incredibly valuable and should be recommended to anyone who insists on having rules-based polyamory. In some cases, rules can be important to enforce personal boundaries. In other cases, rules are just used to hide away from insecurities and fears you never intend on confronting or processing through.

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Made me uncomfortable

This is one tough book to read. I cringed as it reminded me of painful episodes in my own life. Yet the book is one amazing story. It makes me wonder a lot more about my own terms and how I want to live my life.

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Makes you think deeply

This is not an easy read not because it has complex words or because the chapters are too long but rather because it makes you think more deeply about love. It makes you question what love is and what it may look like. It made me realize two fundamental things: 1) love can't grow in miss trust 2) love requires freedom, acceptance and an open heart.

This book is good for those who 1) are trying to be or are considering to be poly 2) poly people who are facing challenges with the concept of trust 3) people who are not afraid to change their most deep views about relationships.

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Polyamory understanding at a different level

I enjoyed the book very much. I related in various occasions. Moments in which he tells his story when he is involved with his other lovers reflected on me as an example of how it can be. The struggles that you have to endured to be able to love others equally is what I take from Franklin's story.

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Informative

This book took me through what could be in polyamory and what might go wrong. I loved this book!

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An emotional and captivating account of life

This book is so well written that you would not even notice the narration after the initial pages. It is a truely heart touching memoir filled with raw emotions and profound soul searching.
This book moved me beyond words.

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Game-Changing

Seen from the eyes of the author gives the selected words invaluable power for insight.
The experiences are as if shared.
If a structured reference book makes you feel lost, then you’re the one who needs to step up to learn about “The Game Changer”.

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A short, but excellent book.

Almost mandatory reading after you have finished "More Than Two". This book gives further context to the lessons in his previous work. He gives his reader a look into the errors he made himself and inflicted on others. I will work to try to avoid these concessions in my life. Thank you Franklin.

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It Touched My Heart

It solidified thoughts and feelings I already had and made me feel what other people feel.

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Wonderfully thought-provoking

For me, this book did two things. First, it explains many of Veaux's thoughts on polyamory and the importance of respecting the secondary partner(s). I had read many pages of his website, and had some intellectual understanding of his ideas. It was nice to get a fuller, in-depth examination of what led to those ideas, and how things could play out in real life.

Next, the book may inform my own relationships and my expectations as a secondary partner. I'm not yet sure how these issues might play out in my own life. However, this book has given me a great deal to think about. On one hand, it makes sense to me that my partner's marriage should take priority over my more casual relationship with my partner. OTOH, my needs and opinions matter too, right? Hmm.

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Amazingly honest and deep...

...insight into the author's own, very personal experience of ten ups and downs of Polyamory.
I listened to this after "More than Two" - both books are absolutely recommendable.