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Publisher's Summary

The provocative best seller She's Not There is the winning, utterly surprising story of a person changing genders. By turns hilarious and deeply moving, Jennifer Finney Boylan explores the territory that lies between men and women, examines changing friendships, and rejoices in the redeeming power of family. Told in Boylan's fresh voice, She's Not There is about a person bearing and finally revealing a complex secret. Through her clear eyes, She's Not There provides a new window on the confounding process of accepting our true selves.

©2013 Jennifer Finney Boylan (P)2016 Random House Audio

Critic Reviews

"She's Not There, the Running with Scissors of sex-change stories, brings irreverence and a merrily outrageous sense of humor to this potentially serious business." (The New York Times)
"Probably no book I've read in recent years has made me so question my basic assumptions about both the centrality and the permeability of gender, and made me recognize myself in a situation I've never known and have never faced.... The universality of the astonishingly uncommon: that's the trick of She's Not There. And with laughs, too. What a good book." (Anna Quindlen, from the introduction to the Book-of-the-Month-Club edition)
"Beautifully crafted, fearless, painfully honest, inspiring, and extremely witty. Jennifer Finney Boylan is an exquisite writer with a fascinating story, and this combination has resulted in one of the most remarkable, moving, and unforgettable memoirs in recent history." (Augusten Burroughs, author of Running with Scissors and Dry)

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Lost me

Although I enjoyed the overall story, there were too many little tangents and unnecessary details that got in the way of the story. I also didn't care for the narration, especially some of the character voices that seemed a little over the top.

2 of 2 people found this review helpful

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Journey in poetry speak.

Would you recommend this book to a friend? Why or why not?

Probably not. There was so much 'poetic' sounding speaking that I couldn't hear what the point was. It wasn't until the later parts that the reading turned less cheesy and more...the way we speak when sharing our journeys.

Would you recommend She's Not There to your friends? Why or why not?

No. It went off subject too often with details of things that had nothing to do with the story. Very distracting.

Which character – as performed by Jennifer Finney Boylan – was your favorite?

Nora. Sweet Nora. And Grace. The conversation at the restaurant about tore my heart in two. It was so raw and so painful. Bless her heart.

Did She's Not There inspire you to do anything?

No.

Any additional comments?

I wanted to hear about actual experiences from start to finish on this journey so I could learn something. Everything from dancing on the opposite side, the medical, to what was eye-opening from being a man, to being reborn as a woman.

4 of 7 people found this review helpful

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Amazing insights!

Jenny captured the essence of transition with the highs and lows and ultimately the peace that comes in the struggle.

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Appreciate this book.

I purchased the Audible version of this book. I was very interested in the authors story and it was a privilege to be able to listen to their journey. There was arrogance, but the authors experience shined through more than what other reviewers complained about. I'm very glad I'm stumbled upon this book and bought it for others who appreciated it as well. It provides many different insights into the transgender experience.

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  • Lisa
  • Edmonton, AB
  • 10-20-16

Good story. Terrible performance!

How could the performance have been better?

I wish narrators would stop doing voices for different characters. It doesn't add to the performance and the imitations are aggravating.

2 of 4 people found this review helpful

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Overall good insight

This book provides a great overview of one's experience transitioning and the effects it has on family, children, friends, and the workplace. The added character narrative voices are a bit much, however the story brings awareness.

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Excellent

Read by the author. Funny, touching, brave. That Jenny and her family share with the world such an intimate portrait of family is such gift to all of us. I can only hope that more and more people choose to read or listen.

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