214. Refining a Broken Marriage (with Justin and Trisha Davis)

Guest Bio: Justin and Trisha Davis are pastors, authors, and founders of RefineUs Ministries. After experiencing the pain of broken trust and the near collapse of their marriage, by God’s grace they found hope and restoration. Their passion is equipping individuals, couples, and churches to break destructive patterns, live with authenticity, and build emotionally healthy relationships. They co-authored the best-selling books Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Just Isn't Good Enough and One Choice Away from Change: Break the Cycles That Hurt Your Relationships and Hold You Back. Justin and Trisha live in Indianapolis, Indiana, and have five kids.

Show Summary: Have you experienced the end of a relationship? Maybe a friend walked away from you, a family member cut you out of their life, or you went through a breakup or even a divorce? Justin and Trisha Davis were separated and on the verge of ending their marriage. They had two paths in front of them: divorce or restoration. Join hosts Eryn Eddy Adkins and Vivian Mabuni as they learn how God restored Justin and Trisha’s marriage and refined both their hearts during this God Hears Her conversation.

Notes and Quotes:

“When you get to a place in your relationship—it doesn’t matter what relationship it is—and you give and you give and you give and what you think you deserve in return isn’t reciprocated, a sense of entitlement starts to live in your heart and that person can never repay you all that you think that they owe.” —Justin Davis

“You can’t heal a wound you don’t give a name to.” —Justin Davis

“Rock bottom is still solid surface to stand. God is unshakable. He is our solid foundation. Even when the world wipes us out, when relationships wipe us out, God is our firm foundation.” —Trisha Davis

“We were so concerned with building the church, we forgot to build into each other and build into who we were.” —Justin Davis

“There is a journey that we have to allow people to go on. On that journey, eventually you see your prism of pain as how God shows up so much brighter—in different arrays of color that we couldn’t see with our rose-colored glasses.” —Trisha Davis

Verses:

Hebrews 12:5-11

Related Episodes:

• GHH Ep 40 – Out of the Dust: https://godhearsher.org/podcast/out-of-the-dust/
• GHH Ep 145 – Sitting on the Sidelines with Bethany Toney: https://godhearsher.org/podcast/sitting-on-the-sidelines/
• GHH Ep 168 – Walking Through Infidelity with Jami Nato: https://godhearsher.org/podcast/walking-through-infidelity/

Links:

• The Davis’s Website: https://justinandtrisha.com/
• God Hears Her website: https://go.odb.org/ghh191
• Subscribe to the God Hears Her YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@GodHearsHerODBM