#106: The Reason You're Lonely at a Gay Bar

Ever walked into a Gay bar or event and felt totally invisible — even though the whole room is filled with "your people"? You're not broken, you're not antisocial, and you're definitely not alone. In fact, 41% of Gay men report feeling deeply lonely, even in LGBTQ+ spaces that were meant to be safe havens.In this video, I unpack:→ Why queer social spaces often feel performative and exclusionary→ How internalized pressure, community biases, and dating app culture play a role→ What you can actually do to create genuine connection and stop feeling like an outsiderFrom minority stress to performative confidence and ageism, we’re getting honest about the silent weight many gay and bi men carry — and how to start healing it.This isn’t just about bars. It’s about belonging.---💡 Timestamps:00:00 – That moment you feel invisible in your own community04:10 - The impact of minority stress05:15 - The intense pressure to perform06:14 - The unspoken hierarchies in the Gay community07:16 - Dating apps have changed the game10:07 - Embrace vulnerability12:26 How to improve your experience at a Gay bar---📣 Let’s build something real:Drop a comment below with your experience or where you’ve found meaningful connection outside of bars. Let's create the kind of community in this comment section that we've all been craving.---🔗 Subscribe for more honest, grounded conversations about self-worth, dating, emotional intelligence, and identity.---Mentions:#gaydating #loneliness #lgbtqmentalhealth #gaybars #bisexualmen #queercommunity #selfworth #datingadvice #minoritystress #gayrelationships #authenticity #emotionalintelligence #comingout #gaycoach #thecoachdanny