Attached

The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

By: Amir Levine, Rachel Heller

Narrated by: Robert Petkoff

Length: 7 hrs and 4 mins

Publisher's summary

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

• Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
• Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
• Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

*Includes a PDF of the attachment style questionnaire

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2010 Amir Levine and Rachel Heller (P)2019 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

"Amir Levine and Rachel Heller have written a very smart book: It is clear, easy to read, and insightful. It's a valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or—as in my case—even after you've been married 21 years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse." (Mariette DiChristina, editor in chief, Scientific American)

"Attached is a fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures—finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. Based on 25 years of research, laced with vivid and instructive examples, and enriched with interesting and well-designed exercises, the book provides deep insights and invaluable skills that will benefit every reader." (Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research)

Well worth the listen. Definitely Recommend it.

There is so much you can learn from this audio book. So to learn about yourself and the way you relate to your partner, your children, your peers, your family and anyone you have a relationship with. That said, the focus is on couples relationships. I liked most of this audiobook, and wholeheartedly recommend this listen (or read if you have the print). The only thing I didn’t agree with was the part where they mention if you are one attachment type, say anxious and your partner is avoidant type, that you two are incompatible (specifically during dating). However, they do mention something critical about the main body of research, and it is that attachment styles are not permanent. People who want to change their patterns and behaviors can do so by learning and applying what they learned and by applying secure style behaviors vigilantly. Thereby, their attachment style remains dynamic. You can start out as anxious and move into secure. You can also move from secure to avoidant. It all depends on the partner and what attachment style they are exhibiting and whether or not the partner desires to change their own patterns and behaviors for the betterment of the relationship.

Everyone Needs to Read this Book

This book is extremely enlightening, well-written, and thorough. It explains why people tend to repeat the same patterns in relationships and explains techniques for healthy attachment and intimacy. Everyone should read it.

Brilliant absolutely everything I needed to hear

This book was brilliant. I want to send it to everyone I know! I have such a deeper understanding of myself and others now. These tools are invaluable

securely anxious

very interesting. It is nice to finally be able to name and understand better who I am.

Great read!

As far as the assessments, you can take them online or print the PDF to manually take them.

So Helpful!

I loved this book! I finished it in the course of a school day and was pleasantly surprised at the accuracy and helpful information provided. It just explains so much!

Self Reflective

I truly enjoyed the importance of getting to know yourself throughout the book. I was able to sell for flecked and realized my attachment style and how it played out in my marriage which ended in divorce. I beat myself up thinking that there was something wrong with me. However, after listening to this book I was able to self reflect and give myself grace because I understood my attachment style and can now knowingly move forward.

Easy to listen

I loved it this is my favorite book so far. I couldn’t stop listening to it. It made so much sense regarding relationships that I have been in.

Great read! I recommended it to all of my friends!

There is so much to learn from this book! All my friends who have started to read it, love it as well. A real treasure with valuable insight.

HOLY COW

This needs to be required to be part of curriculum in high school all four years!