All of This

A Memoir of Death and Desire

By: Rebecca Woolf

Narrated by: Rebecca Woolf

“Beautifully written, complex, provocative, painful, genuine...an unforgettable memoir.”—ROXANE GAY

“Wonderfully lyrical and uncomfortably honest in a way that is so rare, yet so needed.”—JENNY LAWSON

“Disturbing and profound, this intimate book also reveals the sometimes-labyrinthine nature of the bonds that unite people in love...A provocative and memorable work.”—Kirkus Reviews

After years of struggling in a tumultuous marriage, writer Rebecca Woolf was finally ready to leave her husband. Two weeks after telling him she wanted a divorce, he was diagnosed with stage four pancreatic cancer. Four months later, at the age of forty-four, he died.

In All of This, Woolf chronicles the months before her husband’s death—and her rebirth after he was gone. With rigorous honesty and incredible awareness, she reflects on the end of her marriage: how her husband’s illness finally gave her the space to make peace with his humanity and her own.

Stunning, compelling, and brilliantly nuanced, All of This is one woman’s story of embracing the complexities of grief without shame—as a mother, a widow, and a sexual being—and emerging on the other side of a relationship with gratitude and relief.

A f@&$ing revelation

I've appreciated Rebecca's writing for years . This is the truest tale of how a white woman can break free from her patriarchical/heterosexually-centric learned behaviors and learn how to quit abandoning her own humanity.

Powerful and real

I have followed Rebecca since her blogging days. I knew when Hal died, she would eventually write a book and I looked forward to listening to her words.

I could have never imagined what life was like behind the social media walls. No one ever really gets to see that reality.

Thank you for being comfortable enough to share your truth. Thank you for being open and honest and real.

Marriage is not always happily ever after and it’s nice to see someone my age talking about these realities.

While I can not relate to her being so free and true to herself, I respect her ability to define that and finally be able to live a more authentic life for herself.

Thank you for sharing, Rebecca. Rest peacefully, Hal. May those four children grow up with the best of both of you to live their fullest lives possible.

excellentt!

I loved it! She is an excellent writer and did a great job as the narrator .

Wow…. blown away

Rebecca,

I started this book a few days ago after listening to you on the Just Break Up podcast. I was intrigued enough to download it figuring I would have a few hours over the holiday to listen. I finished it in 2 days. I hung on every word. I want to congratulate you in doing the audio yourself. It really makes a difference.

I too am a truth teller. Although our lives and experiences are completely different, somehow they are the same. From your first words to the last I was transported to a place I’ve never been to but a place that also felt familiar. Thank you for writing your truth.

Truth can be tough but brilliant

Rebecca Woolf takes the reader on an intense journey from death to life. She is brutal and honest, yet funny and insightful. One of the best memoirs I have read. So good.