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34 Ways to Talk to a Narcissist: The Narcissistic Borderline Relationship Dynamic

By: J.B. Snow
Narrated by: D Gaunt
Length: 31 mins
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Publisher's Summary

Many of us try to learn how to communicate throughout our lives with other individuals. We think that once we learn communication skills, we are set to talk to anyone. This belief is one that is quickly thrown by the wayside once we meet a narcissist whom we want or need to communicate with. His thought patterns and speech may be much different from anything we've ever encountered before. Before we know it, we have upset the narcissist and have gotten on his bad side, which is a very bad place to be.

In book one we detailed the different emotional places that the borderline and her narcissistic lover might come from during their development and in response to their relationships with their caregivers. As children, when we experience the overprotective helicopter parent who idealizes us far too much, the parent who can never accept the child's individuality and asks perfection of him, or the cold and emotionally invalidating parent(s) that tell us "boys don't cry", it disrupts our emotional development during the first 18 years, causing things like narcissism, borderline personality disorder, OCPD, avoidant personality disorder, antisocial personality or conduct disorders, or schizoid personality disorder.

First, I want to give a little back information on the borderline-narcissist relationship duo for those who are new to my series and refresh those who have tuned in to my other related books. The relationship duo between borderlines and narcissists tends to be more common than we think. There is no true way to get a good picture of how many relationships span this dynamic, as many borderlines and narcissists go undiagnosed or undetected. Most narcissists don't have the intuition, knowledge of their condition, or interest in their inner world to pursue why they are the way they are. It is unlikely that they would seek treatment because of their overinflated egos...

©2015 J.B. Snow (P)2015 J.B. Snow

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Really???

This narrative isn't for the person looking to find anything useful in dealing with a narcissistic relationship. In fact you will learn how to lose yourself. If a person involved in this type of abusive relationship is looking for answers, this is what you'll get: A robotic emotionally devoid voice schooling you in how to placate and feed the narcissist ego and irrational behavior. Run don't walk from this read.

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Fair, true, utilitarian

assumes the person relating to the narcissist wishes to live in harmony with the narcissist at every expends to themselves.
if you realise a Narcissit is basically self serving, and you back off when they get upset, you've already got down what this book says. it is a listing of points, and does state that they are highly territorial and have known to kill over things, objects, people that are their s. So get out of their way when anger erupts.

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Not what I expected

This book is about enabling, perpetuating, and catering to narcissistic behavior. That was not what I looking for.

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Not worth a credit

I wish I would have bought this outright instead of wasting a credit. It was helpful just not worth 14.99

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Incredibly boring

This is just a list read aloud. Not worth the time or money (no matter how inexpensive it may be), in my opinion.

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this is enabling

empathic responses are more helpful, I was hoping to find that in this book. however, this book is about enabling and making the problem worse.

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A lot of good tools and information.

Very informative and eye open. Great revelation! This book brought great understanding and helped me to see the origin of some behaviors. It was very interesting to say the least.

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My Life with a Narcissist

I’d never even heard the term before marrying my husband four years ago. Between caring for a mother with dementia and learning to cope with my Narcissistic husband, I thought I was loosing my mind. My thanks to J.B. Snow for this no-nonsense approach to dealing with my narcissist. The simple, easy to follow suggestions make me realize that I MUST keep my emotions out of this and use certain tactics to keep peace in my home. Currently, his entire family and his best friend hate me and have not spoken to me in over two years. He claims that I’ve insulted them all and they don’t like me. Nothing could be further from the truth. Just like the book says, your Narcissist will have no problem gathering up an army against you when he’s perceived his feelings were hurt or he was injured in some way. I’m in no position to divorce right now and I really don’t want to. Managing the situation is my only solution and thanks to this book, I can now do a much better job at it! Thank you!

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If at first you don’t succeed, blame your parents.

This is not only completely inaccurate, but potentially very harmful. What are this person’s credentials, and where does he get his misinformation? And why isn’t there an option of “no stars?” Don’t listen!!!

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I want a refund

First of all, I'm a gay Black male and this book is catered to a male/female dynamic rendering it utterly useless to me. Now add to that within the first 10 mins the author is instructing the reader to tell their abuser how great that they are and how wonderful it is to be in a relationship with them.Thats all of needed to hear to hit hit the "delete from library" button.

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  • Mrs W, Cumbria
  • 10-31-17

yet another good book by JB Snow

yet another good book by JB Snow

I really like these short books. good study subject.