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  • Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

  • How to Unlock Your Full Potential for Success and Achievement
  • By: Brian Tracy
  • Narrated by: Brian Tracy
  • Length: 8 hrs and 57 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 393
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 346
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 335

"Every line in this book is bursting with truth, wisdom, and power. Brian Tracy is the preeminent authority on showing you how to dramatically improve your life. Let him be your guide. I've learned so much from Brian myself that I can't thank him enough!" (Robert G. Allen, number-one New York Times best-selling author)

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Excellent Book, HORRIBLE Audio

  • By JLP on 07-22-15

I wish I could have it on autoplay at all times

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 07-18-18

I haven't listened to this in many years.

10 stars.

This is so simple. So full of rational, common sense. Growing up. Being an adult. Taking responsibility and not think, and thus act, as a spoilt child.

Tracy also offers great thought tricks that go beyond 'positive thinking'. Actions to take to outsmart your mind caught in obsessing about the self and the past.

Dynamite! I bet every single person on planet earth would benefit from listening to this book.
I'm sharing it with my 7-year-old today in the car, I know she'll love it. Great discussion points.

  • Getting Past No

  • Negotiating with Difficult People
  • By: William Ury
  • Narrated by: William Ury
  • Length: 2 hrs
  • Abridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 698
  • Performance
    4 out of 5 stars 464
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 464

Whether you're dealing with an unruly teenager or an office bully, Dr. Ury's method will help you gain control in even the most difficult situations. More than getting mad or getting even, Getting Past No will get you results!

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Lots of good ideas

  • By V. Wrona on 11-26-03

Mastering Emotions in Tense Conflicts/Negotiations

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4 out of 5 stars
Performance
4 out of 5 stars
Story
4 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 07-10-18

This audiobook is 2 hours. The value you get: insights, skills (even entertainment) per minute spent is high.

In my view, the value of this book lies in getting tools and tactics for dealing with emotions in tense negotiations/difficult conversations. Many of us with an interest in interpersonal skills, have a good rational understanding of what to do and what not to do in order to be successful. The difficulty lies in managing emotions in the moment. We all have less functional ways of doing that, however, no matter what, when we lose our objectivity, we lose. This is a topic that is less often covered than the basic do's and don'ts of negotiations, but is beautifully covered here.

It's really about applying a mindfulness approach, instead of a 'mindless', where emotions take over. Step back. Go to the balcony. Observe yourself, detach yourself and stay in the 'pain' and emotional turmoil that the situation creates. Create space in time and space to get perspective. Name the game. Name the tactics. Name the emotions. Neutrally, objectively see underlying motives and interests, collaboratively satisfying those for both parties in a problem-solving approach.

Get it, enjoy, and you'll be better equipped for 'difficult conversations' with your colleagues, customer services, kids and spouses.

Great books to listen before or after this one are:
- The Art of Conflict Management, Great Courses
- The Psychology of Performance (you can apply that to negotiation and conflict resolution skills, highly applicable)
- The Science of Mindfulness

  • The Science of Mindfulness

  • A Research-Based Path to Well-Being
  • By: Ronald Siegel, The Great Courses
  • Narrated by: Ronald Siegel
  • Length: 13 hrs and 53 mins
  • Original Recording
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 1,601
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 1,404
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 1,370

Ever noticed that trying to calm down often produces more agitation? Or that real fulfillment can be elusive, despite living a successful life? Often, such difficulties stem from the human brain's hardwired tendency to seek pleasure and avoid pain. Modern science demonstrates that this survival mechanism served the needs of our earliest ancestors, but is at the root of many problems that we face today, such as depression, compulsive and addictive behaviors, chronic pain, and stress and anxiety.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Even more worthwhile with these study aids

  • By Cluelass on 07-19-15

Practical Tools for Wisely Using Yourself

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5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 07-10-18

Practical tools for wisely using yourself to be a value-adder to the the superorganism of all living things.

This lecture series is phenomenal. It's practical. And theoretical. It's spiritual. And down-to-earth pragmatic.

Siegel shows mastery of the topic. Highly dense formulations of concepts, that truly distill the essence of how and why things work they way they work. You get core concepts, truly revolutionary ideas, in a heartbeat. I feel truly 'enlightened' - and I love his description of wisdom and enlightenment with the wonderful 'warnings' of superficiality and counterproductive pursuit of these 'ends' (which they aren't by definition): "it's better to be a 'decent human being' with limited spiritual awakening than someone with profound awakening but limited maturity sho h as difficulty getting along with others".

And with that said, none of this can be comprehended unless put into practice. A rational understanding doesn't get to what mindfulness practice can achieve. Clear guidance on practice is also given by Siegel. Enough to get you started experimenting, which, as you know, is part of embracing ancient Asian traditions, "doubted revealed truth, because they wondered how we know that the first person got it right. The emphasis, instead, is on discovering for oneself, through direct experience."

This is for everyone, no matter where you start there is value to be had. Potentially more wisdom and compassion added to the world through each and everyone of us here.

  • The Art of Conflict Management: Achieving Solutions for Life, Work, and Beyond

  • By: Michael Dues, The Great Courses
  • Narrated by: Michael Dues
  • Length: 12 hrs and 21 mins
  • Original Recording
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 1,159
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 1,003
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 988

In 24 lectures brimming with practical tips, tools, and techniques everyone can use to better manage conflict in his or her professional and personal lives, gain the essential skills of conflict management. As presented by Professor Dues, these lectures will show you how to effectively deal with conflicts of all kinds, using the "win-win" model that has dominated the field for the past six decades.

  • 4 out of 5 stars
  • Surprisingly Good

  • By Mary on 12-06-15

The Greatest Life Skill There Is?

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5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 07-08-18

I believe crises are opportunities. Crises interpreted as broadly as in when things break - or almost break. Be it emotionally, relationships, furniture, governments, businesses.

Thus, I have always embraced conflicts. Conflicts on teams, in causal conversations with people I hardly know - simply because I find such richness in conflicts: disagreements in view-points, opinions or goals. Of course that is not a viable approach socially, which I have also learned. Not everyone loves conflicts.

When re-listening to this wonderful series of lectures I realized what I had missed. It's not about embracing conflicts. It's about embracing conflict RESOLUTION. To not shy away from important conflicts, but in order to achieve what I want to achieve: stronger relationships, deeper insights and better collaboration, can only be achieved when one is a mastery of conflict RESOLUTION.

That might be obvious to you. If it is, or if you're like me, Dues gives illustrations, background, scientific studies, reflections and practical rules of thumb that let people like me, who believe in the power of conflict, actually get the value out of what they can bring by understanding the art of conflict management.

I have already applied insights, mindsets that I learned from this book in situations of conflict: with customer service, professionally, in personal relationship, and it has been extremely effective. In certain situations I almost felt as though I personally made too big a deal of something, as it went so smoothly, but looking back, the reason why it went so smoothly was precisely because I approached it in a very different manner.

Finally, there's one chapter on how to teach our kids how to better manage conflicts which I wish all parents and teachers would listen to. There are many myths and misunderstandings when it comes to conflicts and their management. Imagine the future we could create if we had a future generation who were all masters of conflict resolution?!

  • 48 Laws of Power

  • By: Robert Greene
  • Narrated by: Richard Poe
  • Length: 23 hrs and 6 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 7,790
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 6,831
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 6,792

Amoral, cunning, ruthless, and instructive, this piercing work distills 3,000 years of the history of power into 48 well-explicated laws. This bold volume outlines the laws of power in their unvarnished essence, synthesizing the philosophies of Machiavelli, Sun Tzu, Carl von Clausewitz, and other infamous strategists. The 48 Laws of Power will fascinate any listener interested in gaining, observing, or defending against ultimate control.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • You don't have to be a psychopath to like this.

  • By Gaggleframpf on 02-25-16

One of Modern Times' Most Important Books

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5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 07-04-18

Does your face wrinkle up in disgust at words like power, Machiavellian and deceit? Then you're like me. And that's why you must read it. And then re-read it at least every year.

This book is for the naive ones. Especially those of us who are brave enough to speak our mind, stand up for what we believe in and we do it not to get attention or power, but because we think it's our moral responsibility to do so, to make things better. Thus we don't pursue selfish goals, and yet, everyone hates us.

The 48 Laws of Power is extremely important reading for navigating life. For making the world a better place. It's about understanding the game - you can isolate yourself, thinking you won't partake in any immoral games. Well not only you lose, everyone you could have helped (if you have truly unselfish motives) as you won't be successful, and those that do know how to play the game wins.

This is an amazing book. As you reread it over the years, you'll find lessons popping up as you develop and grow as a person.

I read all books like Crucial Conversations, Getting to Yes, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, The Art of Conflict Management, Integrity that I can lay my hands on. However, I can only put them to work, thanks to the 48 Laws of Power. It's a no-nonsense extremely important books, especially if you're a system thinker, honest, change maker, wanting to truly make the world into a better place. This is a REQUIRED TOOL.

Get it.

And then Mastery too.

(And after that you'll get all of Robert Greene's other books too. Apparently he's working on another book where he further develops the chapter on Social Intelligence from Mastery - again, these books are primarily for those of us who are 'Disagreeable Givers' to borrow a term from Simon Sinek. We lose-lose, and we need to learn how to play the game, it's not being manipulative, it's about making sure your good intentions survive in the real world.)

GET IT! GET IT!! GET IT!!!

  • Relic

  • Pendergast, Book 1
  • By: Douglas Preston, Lincoln Child
  • Narrated by: David Colacci
  • Length: 13 hrs and 1 min
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4 out of 5 stars 8,484
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 6,559
  • Story
    4 out of 5 stars 6,597

Just days before a massive exhibition opens at the popular New York Museum of Natural History, visitors are being savagely murdered in the museum's dark hallways and secret rooms. Autopsies indicate that the killer cannot be human. But the museum's directors plan to go ahead with a big bash to celebrate the new exhibition, in spite of the murders. Museum researcher Margo Green must find out who - or what - is doing the killing.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Non-Perishable

  • By Snoodely on 05-26-10

Disturbing worldview

Overall
2 out of 5 stars
Performance
3 out of 5 stars
Story
1 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 07-03-18

I'm not a political extremist, or an animal-rights activist. I'm a pretty normal, reasonable M.D.

Above everything else, this book left me with a bad taste in my mouth. I'll try to keep it as vague as possible to avoid spoiling the book.

Taking the perspective of the [murderer], it's clear it's someone who has been deprived of its 'home' and means of surviving by humans, and is purely trying his/her best to survive. Unfortunately, in a never ending sapiens-centric perspective we have the moral high-ground for deciding who is worthy to live and not. Pendergast, the detective, bragging about him going on hunts in Africa, killing animals for the fun of it, with guns, private jeeps and a totally unfair advantage, further adds to this limited worldview.

The book could at least have made this worldview more controversial, and stimulated reflection of unintended consequences, ideological flaws and 'accidents of history' when it comes to this ruthless anthropocentric worldview, consequences of which we see everyday all around us.

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  • The 5 Essential People Skills

  • How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, and Resolve Conflicts
  • By: Dale Carnegie
  • Narrated by: Dale Carnegie
  • Length: 5 hrs and 4 mins
  • Original Recording
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 51
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 46
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 45

Have you ever walked away from a conversation full of doubts and insecurities? Do you feel as if you've lost a little ground after every staff meeting? Most of us are either too passive or too aggressive in our business life, and we end up never getting the support, recognition, or respect that we so desire. But this solution-packed program is about to change all that.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Assertive - Yet Not Aggressive, as a WOMAN

  • By Orange Monkey on 08-14-16

Assertive - Yet Not Aggressive, as a WOMAN

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 08-14-16

Any additional comments?

I almost didn't get this book because of some of the negative reviews. As I have read, listened to and enjoyed How to Win Friends and Influence People several times since a teenager - I figured this book wouldn't seem to offer any additional value.

THAT IS PLAINLY NOT TRUE! - at least not for me.

I have honestly never, ever heard such a CLEAR and pragmatic discussion on the question of effective assertiveness. Perhaps that is because of where I'm currently in my life, and what I've learned this far. I was 'ready' for it.

Effective assertiveness - is MY main issue, and I think that's a more common issue for women than we might think.

I believe in the responsibility of speaking up, especially when I'm speaking up on someone else's behalf, or simply for what's been agreed upon, what has been promised and so on. I think I'm being constructively ASSERTIVE, yet I'm probably often coming off as AGGRESSIVE.

And then I realize that that's how I come across - so I apologize, and back off.

This book taught me I can stick to my assertiveness, the WHAT, and simply 're-designing' the HOW. I have a very hard time being 'fake'; that is saying stuff I don't mean, so these tips are very pragmatic and useful, in staying assertiveness, yet in a way that make people perceive it as assertiveness, and not aggressiveness.

We, as humans, have stricter rules for how women can behave, especially when it comes to assertiveness. The balance is more narrow. We are easily judged as aggressive, 'bitch' when behaving in a way that would not just be accepted from a man, but even admired.

No point in complaining about that.

Simply learn to play by the rules, so you truly can contribute with everything you can, and enjoy the freedom to speak your mind in order to be a valuable contributor. Keep up your listening skills, admit mistakes, be flexible - AND learn to be ASSERTIVE in an EFFECTIVE way - and there is no limit.

This book is HIGHLY ENLIGHTENING!

18 of 18 people found this review helpful

  • Chicken Soup for the Child's Soul: Character-Building Stories to Read with Kids Ages 5 - 8

  • By: Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen
  • Narrated by: Leslie Bellair
  • Length: 4 hrs and 8 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 41
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 33
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 34

Today's children live in a world filled with adventure, mental stimulation, topical issues, and personal challenges. The values they learn now, between the ages of 5 and 8, will shape the rest of their lives. Through this collection of heartfelt true stories about family ties, helping neighbors, and lasting friendships, children will see how other kids their age have learned valuable lessons from the choices they've made - and most of all, they will realize that they are not alone in dealing with some of the difficult issues in their lives.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • My kids love these

  • By shrockin on 12-22-15

Life lessons wrapped in deep enjoyment

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 08-04-16

Any additional comments?

For thousands of years stories have been the vehicle for knowledge, values, beliefs and facts from one generation to another. Human brains are primed to learn through stories, anecdotal evidence that engages emotionally, that paints a vivid picture, that makes us identify with the challenges. It's imaginary role-play; dealing with situations in your mind before being confronted with difficult dilemmas in real life.

Our 5-year-old loves these. She listens intently. Days, weeks or months afterwards she will bring up an example from one of these stories as a comment to something that happens.

With fewer and fewer of us having multi-generational villages with elders having the time and patience to tell important stories to all of our children, these are a beautiful and crucial addition to priming our kids to ethically reflective beings.

  • Mr. Mercedes

  • A Novel
  • By: Stephen King
  • Narrated by: Will Patton
  • Length: 14 hrs and 22 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 27,462
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 25,139
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 25,111

In the frigid pre-dawn hours, in a distressed Midwestern city, hundreds of desperate unemployed folks are lined up for a spot at a job fair. Without warning, a lone driver plows through the crowd in a stolen Mercedes, running over the innocent, backing up, and charging again. Eight people are killed; fifteen are wounded. The killer escapes. Mr. Mercedes is a war between good and evil, from the master of suspense whose insight into the mind of this obsessed, insane killer is chilling and unforgettable.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Love this style of King!!!

  • By Joyce on 07-07-14

Sorry Mr King, but I was a little disappointed

Overall
3 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
2 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 07-10-16

Any additional comments?

This is a review for those of you who like me, read a lot, but not that much fiction (due to lack of time), and thus want the ones you read to be unique, intriguing, thought provoking - something Stephen King is great at delivering - like King's 11/22/63.

I purchased this book based on the ravishing reviews here. And I ended up disappointed. So even though I seldom write reviews I am now taking the time in case there's someone like me out there.

What's the problem here?
Great characters, and the peformance is GREAT. Yet, it fails to deliver anything novel, intriguing. I found it predictable, a bit of a 'cookie-cutter' novel.

I know I'm going against the stream here, but hey, there are many other great Stephen King novels out there (even his book on writing is superb) so if you are a little bit picky due to time restraint and don't want to be disappointed: pick another one.

4 of 4 people found this review helpful

  • Science Wars: What Scientists Know and How They Know It

  • By: Steven L. Goldman, The Great Courses
  • Narrated by: Steven L. Goldman
  • Length: 12 hrs and 23 mins
  • Original Recording
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 257
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 227
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 225

Choose one: (A) Science gives us objective knowledge of an independently existing reality.... or (B) Scientific knowledge is always provisional and tells us nothing that is universal, necessary, or certain about the world.Made your choice? Welcome to the science wars. This long-running battle over the status of scientific knowledge began in ancient Greece, raged furiously among scientists, social scientists, and humanists during the 1990s, and has reemerged in today's conflict between science and religion over issues like evolution.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Emancipation from what you think you don't know

  • By Larry on 08-08-13

A course that could save the world

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 01-26-14

Any additional comments?

Steven L. Goldman takes you along on a journey through the seemingly obvious: the success of science to improve the world. Even though that is non-arguable the case, science almost lost it's trust among the general public, with incomprehensible possible consequences due not to the failings of science to generate results, but due to what philosophers of science was arguing about scientific knowledge.

This is a profound question. Is there objective, universal truth? And is that what science gives us? As Derrida and Foucalt came into fashion during the mid 20th century, more and more started questioning the earlier privileged position of scientific knowledge. Social construction theory was slowly undermining the trust in science. This was an important wake up call for the scientific community who had been too busy doing science not to bother engaging themselves in the "philosophical debate". In the 1980s it had become obvious that science was about to lose the war.

Goldman gives an intelligent analysis with key events and individuals explaining the reasons why the science wars came into existence, and how it can be resolved.

Science is not objective truth, but that does not diminish science. Science is still the greatest tool there is for dealing with ordinary experience, giving us control over our environments. Why that is the case, and how that can be argued is brilliantly explained in this course.

Understanding that, is the best way in which most of us can support science, the greatest invention there ever was.

10 of 10 people found this review helpful