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  • The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist

  • Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse
  • By: Debbie Mirza
  • Narrated by: Debbie Mirza
  • Length: 6 hrs and 42 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars 243
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars 211
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars 210

 The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse is the most comprehensive and helpful audiobook on the topic of covert narcissism. This type of narcissism is one of the most damaging forms because the abuse is so hidden and so insidious. You can be in a relationship that can last for decades and not realize you are being psychologically and emotionally controlled, manipulated, and abused.  

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • This book CHANGED MY LIFE!

  • By Mojo on 12-19-18

A life changing & saving book.

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 12-24-18

I bought the kindle and audible version of this book, it is one of the most important books I have ever read. I was married for 26 years to a man who had the angelic mask of sweet, quiet, shy and gentle artist. Yet, I never felt safe with him in public, I just couldn't ever explain why. When we were in private he was very loving and attentive but in public he was indifferent, other-focused and everyone around us reacted to him in such a way that marginalized and invalidated me. I slowly disappeared into his shadow, but everything was so subtle it couldn't possibly be his fault. My confidence drained away, as I was no longer competent to do the simplest things and he was always having to show me how to do everything right, the things I had created or excelled at were no longer valued until I was too inept to even feed my dog properly, even though it was a recipe I had come up with to save him from the agony of his chronic pancreatitis — it was a very slow drip-drip-drip as the life force drained from me. After 26 years of doting on him, running our lives and business, I got very ill and his mask came off. My confusion and horror was profound as he turned into a raging, aggressive and violent stranger. I had no idea what was happening and the therapists I turned to had no idea what was happening and traumatized me more. I thought the stress of my illness had caused a depression in him but then he told me all about his true past, his double-life the entire time we were together, about his sex addiction and how much he wanted me gone to the point of trying to talk me into suicide so my life insurance could keep him and our dogs in their home. The person I'd believed in and adored for over half my life was a monster who I had never known, everything I was told and believed in was a lie. My usefulness was over, my life no longer had value and he did everything possible to offload his toxic shame and all the blame on to me. It's been an unreal experience. It's woken me up to so much about myself and others in my life. It will be a long journey to recover but I am free now to live life in a safe space, choosing only people who are good for me and being able to finally recognize who those people are.

There is so much written about narcissism, with only some written about covert narcissism, but nothing I've read (and I've read hundreds of books, blogs, articles, etc.) comes close to explaining the complexity, duality, and profound confusion of a true pathological covert narcissist experience, like Debbie does with her book. Being able to plug into the audible version while going about my day allows me to keep Debbie's validating message in my ear when I wobble, and I wobble a lot. Debbie's voice as a reader is perfect, very often authors can make the worst readers but she is pitch perfect.

I strongly recommend this book highly to anyone who has suffered through a confusing relationship which suddenly turns, who cannot find answers that make sense and who have been altered by an experience that is so difficult to explain. This book is validating and can help the healing process like no other. There are answers here, there is compassion and there is hope. The isolation from this experience can be devastating, but we are not alone and we can recover and feel solid ground beneath our feet again.

37 of 39 people found this review helpful

  • The Midnight Rose

  • By: Lucinda Riley
  • Narrated by: Anjana Srinivasan
  • Length: 16 hrs and 42 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 783
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 720
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 720

In the heyday of the British Raj, Anahita becomes Princess Indira’s official companion, and accompanies her to England just before the outbreak of the Great War. There, she meets the young Donald Astbury – reluctant heir to a magnificent, estate – and his scheming mother. Eighty years later, Rebecca Bradley, a young American film star, has the world at her feet. Her latest role, playing a 1920s debutante, takes her to the now-crumbling Astbury Hall…

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • A Great Story with a Superb Performance!

  • By Catherine on 02-26-14

Delicious!

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5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 04-28-18

I used to devour books, but my eyesight is poor now and now I’m always plugged in 😊 listening to a new book every day or two leaves me starved for. Good writing. This book... it’s a slow long simmer of deliciousness. It gently hooks you in but by half time i found i was smiling with delight at how simply Devine it is (and I’ve never called anything Devine before!)

  • Valentina

  • By: S.E. Lynes
  • Narrated by: Ruth Urquhart
  • Length: 10 hrs and 7 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 37
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 34
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 34

When Glasgow journalist Shona McGilvery moves with her partner Mikey and their baby to an idyllic cottage in rural Scotland, they believe that all that lies ahead of them is happiness. But with Mikey working offshore, the frightening isolation of the Aberdeenshire countryside begins to drive her insane.... That is, until she is rescued by a new friendship with the enchanting Valentina. She has the perfect home, the perfect man, and a charismatic new best friend - or does she? As her fairytale life begins to unravel, the deep dark wood becomes the least of her fears....

  • 4 out of 5 stars
  • Well written and entertaining.

  • By Getshotzi on 09-03-18

A tale of trust and betrayal

Overall
4 out of 5 stars
Performance
4 out of 5 stars
Story
4 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 04-17-18

Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

Anyone who has had a brush with a covert narcissist or been exploited romantically to see how a trusting nature can blind you entirely.

Who was your favorite character and why?

Shona, because she had a true heart and an honest reaction.

What about Ruth Urquhart’s performance did you like?

I found the voice of Shona difficult at first, she talked quite fast, but I got used to it and the story went well. The voice of Valentina in her real voice would sometimes drift into her fake one with the occasional phrase or words.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

The mental processes of Shona because I've just come through a 3 decade charade with a covert narcissist who unmasked with a double life.

Any additional comments?

It felt like it ended abruptly.

2 of 2 people found this review helpful

  • The Betrayal Bond

  • Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships
  • By: Patrick Carnes Ph.D.
  • Narrated by: Paul Costanzo
  • Length: 6 hrs and 56 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 66
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 56
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 56

In The Betrayal Bond, Patrick Carnes presents an in-depth study of these relationships, why they form, who is most susceptible, and how they become so powerful. He shows how to recognize when traumatic bonding has occurred and gives a checklist for examining relationships. He then provides steps to safely extricate from these relationships. This is a book you will turn to again and again for inspiration and insight, while professionals will find it an invaluable reference work.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Resonates to my core

  • By Corinna on 04-08-18

Resonates to my core

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 04-08-18

I have been relistening to capture more. The content has facilitated a paradigm shift within me after a life of abuse, betrayal and trauma.

8 of 9 people found this review helpful

  • The Lake House

  • By: Kate Morton
  • Narrated by: Caroline Lee
  • Length: 21 hrs and 24 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 15,587
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 14,348
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 14,326

Living on her family’s gorgeous lakeside estate in Cornwall, England, Alice Edevane is a bright, clever, inquisitive, innocent, and precociously talented fourteen-year-old who loves to write stories. But the mysteries she pens are no match for the one her family is about to endure ...One midsummer’s eve, after a beautiful party drawing hundreds of guests to the estate has ended, the Edevanes discover that their youngest son, Theo, has vanished without a trace.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Better than Forgotten Garden and Secret Keeper

  • By Mark on 03-04-19

Easy to get lost in

Overall
4 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
4 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 08-21-16

The reader was expressive and captured the tone perfectly. I loved 98% of the story and, not wanting to spoil anything, I won't say more. I will read the writer again, she's very good at putting you right in the scene, mood and mind. Her characters are richly drawn and her prose beautiful. I enjoyed the readers sensitivity to the material and her voice was easy to spend time with.

0 of 1 people found this review helpful