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  • Leader Effectiveness Training (L.E.T.)

  • Skills for Leading Today's Business into Tomorrow
  • By: Thomas Gordon
  • Narrated by: Laurie Andrews
  • Length: 6 hrs and 58 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4 out of 5 stars 33
  • Performance
    4 out of 5 stars 27
  • Story
    4 out of 5 stars 26

L.E.T. has changed countless corporations and private businesses with its down-to-earth communication and conflict resolution skills. Dr. Gordon's L.E.T. program is a core program in more than 1,000 corporations around the world, including many Fortune 500 companies. The methods and skills that have proven to be essential for so many leaders can work for you, too.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Literally a Leadership Training Course

  • By T.Om on 03-02-19

Literally a Leadership Training Course

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
3 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 03-02-19

This is A REALLY concise book about leadership with multiple angles on also team management, task setting and goal achievement.

I listened to this as an audio book and was able to get a nice overview of the needs of people and how you can be a leader who empowers the growth of all those around you and at the same time rally a strong team to get a job well done.

Would definitely re-read the physical book and write up action plans to apply to my organisations.

  • Mala

  • By: Melinda Lopez
  • Narrated by: Melinda Lopez
  • Length: 1 hr and 17 mins
  • Original Recording
  • Overall
    4 out of 5 stars 3,185
  • Performance
    4 out of 5 stars 2,886
  • Story
    4 out of 5 stars 2,873

An utterly unsentimental journey toward the end of life, Mala is an irreverent exploration of how we live, cope, and survive in the moment. Grounded in Lopez’s distinctive emotional language and sharp humor, this powerful one-woman show dances between doctors and urgent 911 calls, a mother’s growing frailty, and a daughter’s quest for grace - all set during an epic Boston winter. Rather than depict a “right way”, the play opens the door for our universal struggle to support those we love in dying, especially when all we’ve ever focused on is surviving.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Hardest thing to do

  • By Christy on 02-03-19

Raw and real

Overall
4 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
4 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 02-11-19

Such an interesting short listen. The thoughts are all over the place the narrative is all mumbo jumbo! But I liked it, the performance was amazing

Didn’t google to see whether this is a true story or not! Regardless it felt real at many parts.

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  • Finite and Infinite Games

  • By: James Carse
  • Narrated by: Jonathan Todd Ross
  • Length: 4 hrs and 11 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4 out of 5 stars 139
  • Performance
    4 out of 5 stars 118
  • Story
    4 out of 5 stars 118

“There are at least two kinds of games,” states James P. Carse as he begins this extraordinary book. “One could be called finite, the other infinite.” Finite games are the familiar contests of everyday life; they are played in order to be won, which is when they end. But infinite games are more mysterious. Their object is not winning but ensuring the continuation of play. The rules may change, the boundaries may change, even the participants may change - as long as the game is never allowed to come to an end.

  • 3 out of 5 stars
  • Interesting, but not well explained

  • By Amazon Customer on 12-07-18

Deep perspective of life!

Overall
4 out of 5 stars
Performance
4 out of 5 stars
Story
4 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 02-10-19

The format of the book follows a narrative of rules, laws and observations. Surely an Interesting read as it views the world from a different perspective.

There are so many things we tend to do that are very short sighted or as the book says finite games. Switching up to the infinite game mindset, such as the ones played by ancient Egyptians created legacies that outlived the players. They definitely played an infinite game and death was only a part of it and not the end of it.

It touches upon society, relationships, religion, politics, war and even sexuality. With many examples to demonstrate finite/infinite games in those chapters.

Deep book and will definitely read it again. Probably after reading Simon Sinek simplified version.

Quotes I pondered:

“I must study politics and war, that my sons may study mathematics and philosophy…in order to give their children the right to study painting, poetry, music and architecture.”
~ John Q. Adams

A short excerpt on Explanations:

“Explanations succeed only by convincing resistant hearers of their error.
If you will not hear my explanations until you are suspicious of your own truths you will not accept my explanations until you are convinced of your error. Explanations is an antagonistic encounter that succeeds by defeating an opponent.
It posses the same dynamic of resentment found in other finite plays.
I will press my explanations on you because I need to show, that I do not live in the error that I think others think I do.

Whoever wins this struggle is privileged with the claim to true knowledge.
Knowledge has been arrived at, it is the outcome of this engagement.
Its winners have the uncontested power to make certain statements of fact.
They are to be listened to.

In those areas appropriate to the contests now concluded, winners possess a knowledge that can no longer be challenged.
Knowledge therefore is like property. It must be published, declared, or in some other ways so displayed, that others cannot but take account of it. It must stand in their way!
It must be emblematic, pointing backward at its possessors competitive skill, so close are knowledge and property, that they are often thought to be continuous. Those who are entitled to knowledge. Feel they should be granted property as well and those are entitled to property, believe a certain knowledge goes with it. Scholars demand higher salaries for their publishable successes, industrials sit on university boards.

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  • Not Nice

  • Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, and Unapologetically Being Yourself
  • By: Dr. Aziz Gazipura PsyD
  • Narrated by: Dr. Aziz Gazipura PsyD
  • Length: 18 hrs and 2 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 445
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 401
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 401

Are you too nice? If you find it hard to be assertive, directly ask for what you want, or say "no" to others, then you just might be suffering from too much niceness. In this controversial book, world-renowned confidence expert, Dr. Aziz Gazipura, takes an incisive look at the concept of nice. Through his typical style, Dr. Aziz uses engaging stories, humor, and disarming vulnerability to cut through the nice conditioning and liberate the most bold, expressive, authentic version of you.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Life Changing

  • By Amazon Customer on 08-15-18

Do a factory reset & get rid of the nice shackles!

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
4 out of 5 stars
Story
4 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 02-07-19

I loved the content of this book! A lot of details on our conditioning to become nice and how the environmental pressures start taking us to not be ourselves under the notion of you are not nice! Soon enough we start becoming timid because we don’t want to be perceived as not nice or a-holes.

It’s also very actionable. I listened to the audio book (read by author) and he was so persistent about pausing the audio and writing some things down. Which I personally liked because I often say later and later never comes. Writing down stuff helps with witnessing some serious transformations. Thanks Aziz Gazipura

All in all we are definitely being manipulated on daily basis under the magical spell of BE NICE and NOT NICE book is a legitimate way to break the spell

My key take aways:

1- You are not responsible for other people’s feelings.
This was like WOW! I am personally a very empathic person and would usually care that other people are feeling great in my presence. However this resonated with me because people’s choices to feel good or bad is like I said A CHOICE, that I have nothing to do with.

2- Being nice is definitely not being authentic
All those hangouts we did not want to attend and the amount of things we say yes to but secretly feel resentful about are mere signs that we are NOT GENUINE with our true needs and wants.
We just want to be nice so agree to things against our personal interests.

3- Voice your concerns openly and clearly.
It is not as bad as you think. As long as you are being objective and not personally attacking people, you will be fine. Voice disappointment, don’t let people INTERRUPT you -all those golden rules about conversational etiquette are rarely followed and people will interrupt you at work, school and personal life.
So if you feel you need to say something then firmly and objectively say it. e.g.:
I am not done yet with my point. Let me finish and then you can speak.


4- What people think of you does not concern you.

People will always have something to say about you. Even if you are the nicest person on earth (nice people already know this!)
A good example is how kids just say what’s on their minds. They simply blurb stories mid way and start talking with enthusiasm about absolutely none-sense with no censorship nor concern about what you MIGHT think of them or their story! They just assume you will like it because they genuinely like it themselves.

P.S. At the end of the book there is a 30 day boot camp that give you a small daily task to BREAK FREE of your NICE PROGRAMMING.

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  • The Art of the Argument

  • Western Civilization's Last Stand
  • By: Stefan Molyneux
  • Narrated by: Stefan Molyneux
  • Length: 5 hrs and 16 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 850
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 797
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 786

The Art of the Argument shocks the dying art of rational debate back to life, giving you the essential tools you need to fight the escalating sophistry, falsehoods, and vicious personal attacks that have displaced intelligent conversations throughout the world. At a time when we need reasonable and empirical discussions more desperately than ever, The Art of the Argument smashes through the brain-eating fogs of sophistry and mental manipulation, illuminating a path to benevolent power for all who wish to take it.

  • 1 out of 5 stars
  • Too bad

  • By Jason on 09-11-18

A good overview about arguments, philosophers and sophists

Overall
4 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
4 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 02-06-19

This book sheds the light on how arguments must be objective, rational and civilised. The author states that they are indeed the pinnacle of civilisation. Personally I am not sure of how accurately the author defines the scientific terms he introduced.
Which is somewhat ironic because he spends a lot of time elaborating on how terms should always be defined accurately in any argument. To avoid the insincere and manipulative sophists (bad people) to toy with and control people.

All in all such a book is quite controversial for the intellectuals and esteemed philosophers. Therefore, I suggest as always for it to be taken with a grain of salt.

My key take aways:
1- Deductive reasoning vs inductive

This was somewhat interesting, how the author framed deductive reasoning as the method of reasoning to certainties. An example of good deductive reasoning would be:
a. All men are immortal
b. Socrates is a man
c. Therefore Socrates is immortal
While bad deductive reasoning would be:
a. Kind people are socialists.
b. Bob is a kind person.
c. Therefore Bob is a socialist.

We see this all the time in societies were people generalise their argument based on specific occurrences.

Moreover, he states that inductive reasoning is more about probabilities and tries to make a point that deductive reasoning and the reliance on empirical arguments is the basis of a good argument as it is about certainties.

2- Synonym logic - describes how in political debates, a party would try to paint their agendas with virtuous articles and hence strengthen their power against those who oppose it. e.g.

If a political party tries to allocate a bigger budget to build more governmentally funded day care centres based on the reasoning that future generations have a right for education.

Then they are establishing that education exclusively means governmentally funded day care centres. Meaning that if you are against the budget allocation then you are simply against education.

3- Egalitarianism - We cannot have both equality of opportunities and equality of results.
e.g.
We cannot expected everybody in a race to finish first if they all have an equal starting point.
The only way to make everyone in a race finish first is by placing them at different starting positions according to their speeds. Hence, black and white egalitarian ideas can not work.



A short excerpt on alpha being deductive reasoning and beta being inductive reasoning:
A predator must be absolute in its reasoning. The lion must correctly identify and stalk the zebra, must calculate speed and interception without error, must attack and bite accurately, and must persist until the prey is down. All this must serve the conclusion: the meal. However, prey has a different set of calculations because a predator can see the prey, but the prey usually cannot see the predator – at least until it is too late… Dominant life forms revel in absolutes and fight hard against any encroaching fumes of rank relativism. A tiger cannot hunt if it doubts the evidence of its senses. The life of a zebra is a life of doubt, of fear.


The lion stalking the zebra is engaged in proactive behavior, and thus, by initiating the encounter, is in far greater control of the variables… Initiating action requires the certainty of deductive reasoning, and control over variables increases that certainty… The pursuit of the lion is the initiating action, the flight of the zebra is the reaction.

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  • 12 Rules for Life

  • An Antidote to Chaos
  • By: Jordan B. Peterson, Norman Doidge MD - foreword
  • Narrated by: Jordan B. Peterson
  • Length: 15 hrs and 40 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 42,139
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 37,998
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 37,669

What does everyone in the modern world need to know? Renowned psychologist Jordan B. Peterson's answer to this most difficult of questions uniquely combines the hard-won truths of ancient tradition with the stunning revelations of cutting-edge scientific research. Humorous, surprising, and informative, Dr. Peterson tells us why skateboarding boys and girls must be left alone, what terrible fate awaits those who criticize too easily, and why you should always pet a cat when you meet one on the street.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Not Your Average 'Self Help' Book

  • By TheBookie on 06-04-18

Broaden your horizons and read this book.

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 01-23-19

I own both the hard copy and the audio version of this book and I have to say that they BOTH need you to pay attention, if you want to actually learn something.

I liked the outlook to life from a psychologist’s perspective and Jordan is definitely very well read in many other streams like history, mythology, philosophy and arts which make this book really interesting. It is almost a chaos of ideas beautifully intertwined together. Reminds me of my thoughts inside my own head.

I did switch to the hard copy at rule 3 because I admired the choice of words Jordan used. I wanted to take more of the words in, let them sink and reflect.

However, I switched back to the audio version at rule 10 and It was still an okay transition.

It is definitely a book that makes you think. A lot.

It is a book that is not for children but you will wish you have read it when you were much younger.

My key take aways:
1- ADDRESS ISSUES AS THEY ARISE.
Don’t sweep problems under the rug, because that’s how they will silently keep growing, until the problem is at its strongest and YOU are at your weakest. AND that is when it blows up in your face.

2- KNOW WHAT YOU WANT.
We can’t get anywhere if we don’t have a destination in mind. We have to be responsible enough to choose a goal and then be patient enough to pursue it.

3- BABY STEPS IN SELF IMPROVEMENT
Nurturing a better version of ourselves is a process not a one day activity. Little steps done everyday over a long and I do mean LONG period of time will get us where we want. It should be done actively, through positive encouragement and rewards. Loathing in self criticism will simply destroy us if we are not mindful of the negative self talk.

  • The Power of Ambition

  • Unleashing the Conquering Drive Within You!
  • By: Jim Rohn
  • Narrated by: Jim Rohn
  • Length: 6 hrs and 31 mins
  • Original Recording
  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars 3,671
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars 3,214
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars 3,184

Ambition can be a powerful force for good in our lives. But only if it is legitimate. Sometimes misinterpreted and often misunderstood, ambition - true ambition - is not a selfish quality. It is not another word for ruthless; it is not something to be shunned or subdued. Legitimate ambition is an honorable trait. At its very best, our ambition serves us and other people. In fact, pursuing your ambition is one of the most selfless things you can do.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Amazing

  • By Larry Carnahan on 08-20-15

Ambition is not at the expense of others! *GOLD*

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 01-16-19

Pragmatic actionable & to the point.

I was skeptical about this book for the somewhat cliche title and specially that I thought I am quite driven and don’t need any ambition at the moment.

I WAS WRONG!…I realised that there is a lot more that I was able to take and use. This book is NOT your average motivational “YOU CAN DO IT!” kinda book.


My key take aways:
-First things first, create a GAME PLAN. Create a long, medium, and short term plan. (Tip use pen and paper before digitalising)

-DISCIPLINE goes a long way when it comes to challenging tasks. Take a task and go at it consistently, day in and day out until it’s finished.

-Being ENTERPRISING “is to keep your eyes open and your mind active. It's to be skilled enough, confident enough, creative enough and disciplined enough to seize opportunities that present themselves…regardless of the economy.” I believe this is a golden ticket for people who are tired of complaining. This is your way to success.


Quotes that resonated:
- How long should you try? Until.
- Don’t say, ‘If I could, I would.’ Say, ‘If I can, I will.
- Discipline has within it the potential for creating future miracles.

  • Good Leaders Ask Great Questions

  • Your Foundation for Successful Leadership
  • By: John C. Maxwell
  • Narrated by: John C. Maxwell
  • Length: 8 hrs and 17 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 2,413
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 2,059
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 2,047

John C. Maxwell delves into the process of becoming a successful leader by examining how questions can be used to advantage. What are the questions leaders should ask themselves? What questions should they ask members of their team? He then responds to the toughest problems leaders have presented to him. Using social media, Maxwell offered the floor to followers with unanswered questions about what it takes to achieve their professional best, and selected seventy questions on the most popular topics.

  • 3 out of 5 stars
  • Not what I expected

  • By Allison on 05-24-16

Only a leader gets to learn from this book!

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
4 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 01-07-19

I really enjoyed listening to this book because it is an aggregate of so many questions that many leaders would be asking in their lifetime - at one point or another. So Maxwell offers the answers based on his extensive experience in the various leadership positions he held in his life.

*My key take aways:
1- You won’t be able to carry people forward if they don’t want to go there themselves.
2- When working under bad leadership, DO NOT COMPLAIN, we need to CONFRONT and BEHIND CLOSED DOORS
3- FIND YOUR STRENGTHS and DON’T MAJOR IN YOUR WEAKNESSES.

*Quotes that resonated:
- I don’t Believe you can do today’s job with yesterday’s methods and be in business tomorrow.
- The book you don’t read can’t help you; the seminar you won’t attend can’t change your life. The business gets better when you get better. Never wish it were easier, wish you were better.

*
A short excerpt on Creating an Environment of Encourage & Support:
One of the ways Coach Wooden used to do that was to ask his players to acknowledge the skills and contributions of others. He told each player that if a teammate made a great pass or set a pick that allowed him to score, he should acknowledge the teammate on the way back down the court. One time a player asked, “Coach, if we do that, what if the teammate that made the assist isn’t looking?” Coach Wooden replied, “He will always be looking.” Coach knew that people look for and thrive on acknowledgment and appreciation.

  • Creativity, Inc.

  • Overcoming the Unseen Forces That Stand in the Way of True Inspiration
  • By: Ed Catmull, Amy Wallace
  • Narrated by: Peter Altschuler
  • Length: 12 hrs and 52 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 9,177
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 8,227
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 8,192

Creativity, Inc. is a book for managers who want to lead their employees to new heights, a manual for anyone who strives for originality, and the first-ever, all-access trip into the nerve center of Pixar Animation - into the meetings, postmortems, and "Braintrust" sessions where some of the most successful films in history are made. It is, at heart, a book about how to build a creative culture - but it is also, as Pixar co-founder and president Ed Catmull writes, "an expression of the ideas that I believe make the best in us possible."

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • A good listen... If you speed up the player

  • By andrea gini on 10-06-15

So much to learn from Pixar, Disney and Steve Jobs

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 12-22-18

This book was such a smooth read!

I was able to understand the very positive style of leadership Ed has and how he is constantly modifying it to be more people centric rather than management centric!

One interesting point was how he aspired to create a culture of openness and a culture that is not afraid to make mistakes. His strong reliance on the people of his company makes it rather intriguing to see how much he values the people to the point that he doesn’t bind them with contracts! People work at Pixar because they want to work at Pixar. (Let it sink and really sink about it. ;) )

This books narrates fun sorties about:
1- many of the Pixar and Disney movies like toy story, bugs life, finding Nemo, frozen, tangled, etc!
2- Steve Jobs and his style of leadership in his youth and how it changed dramatically as he aged and became wiser. How Steve Jobs helped Pixar grow, etc.
3- the inside story of Pixar and the merger with Disney. How tricky it was to simultaneously run both companies before they ran each other to the ground.

Highly recommended if you want to know about LEADERSHIP of huge amount of people who need to be given autonomy and empowerment to be able to PRODUCE CREATIVE WORK!

  • Pitch Anything

  • An Innovative Method for Presenting, Persuading, and Winning the Deal
  • By: Oren Klaff
  • Narrated by: Oren Klaff
  • Length: 6 hrs and 14 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 8,819
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 7,692
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 7,640

When it comes to delivering a pitch, Oren Klaff has unparalleled credentials. Over the past 13 years, he has used his one-of-a-kind method to raise more than $400 million - and now, for the first time, he describes his formula to help you deliver a winning pitch in any business situation. Whether you’re selling ideas to investors, pitching a client for new business, or even negotiating for a higher salary, Pitch Anything will transform the way you position your ideas. According to Klaff, creating and presenting a great pitch isn’t an art - it’s a simple science.

  • 2 out of 5 stars
  • Just a Teaser - No Real Content

  • By Rick on 11-03-15

SUPER WELL WRITTEN!

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 12-02-18

Amazing stories and lots of suspense. What do you expect when a professional story teller decides to write a book.

It is really interesting to understand how most of my sales pitch were actually working. My key takeaway was about raising your value:
-Eliminate your desires. It’s not necessary to want things. Sometimes you have to let them come to you.
- Be excellent in the presence of others. Show people the things that you are very good at.
- Withdraw. At a crucial moment, when people are expecting you to come after them, pull away.

I congratulate the author on putting together the anatomy of the perfect pitch.