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  • Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say

  • By: Dr. Warren Farrell
  • Narrated by: Dr. Warren Farrell
  • Length: 3 hrs and 9 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 35
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 32
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 32

In Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say, Dr. Warren Farrell teaches us how to handle personal criticism without becoming defensive. He explains how being defensive evolved biologically when criticism was the sign of an enemy--and “putting up our defenses” was necessary for physical survival. However, Farrell says, “Defensiveness is the Achilles’ Heel of love.”

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Warren's a great narrator. Powerful & fact based.

  • By Joachim Møller on 01-21-15

Starts Great!

Overall
3 out of 5 stars
Performance
4 out of 5 stars
Story
3 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 10-13-16

Would you say that listening to this book was time well-spent? Why or why not?

This book's first few chapters are really wonderful and get into some pretty clear gender differences and how men can suffer from having limited access to their own vulnerability and to friends and loved ones who create space for true authentic sharing. I love this because I do think men deserve to have our society rally behind them becoming more emotionally available, skilled and able to be better friends, lovers and communicators. I do think we can overlook this shortcoming or rigid role expectation with men. I removed some stars mostly because mid-way through the book it took a deviation from a social psychology bent to more of the authors memoirs and into some stronger gender politics that were clearly painful for the author. I didn't mind per se, but it took this book from a book I could refer to couples to a book I can't use other than for my own interest. Perhaps if I was teaching a class on Gender and Psychology it would be an interesting counterpart, but I'm not at the moment. So I just wish the author had a more distinct focus for this book... write either a memoir or a social psychology book.

  • The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up

  • The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing
  • By: Marie Kondo
  • Narrated by: Emily Woo Zeller
  • Length: 4 hrs and 50 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 24,171
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 20,903
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 20,672

Despite constant efforts to declutter your home, do papers still accumulate like snowdrifts and clothes pile up like a tangled mess of noodles?Japanese cleaning consultant Marie Kondo takes tidying to a whole new level, promising that if you properly simplify and organize your home once, you'll never have to do it again. Most methods advocate a room-by-room or little-by-little approach, which doom you to pick away at your piles of stuff forever.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • I both love and hate this life changing book

  • By Rebecca on 02-22-15

Wow, I am actually doing it!

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 10-13-16

Would you listen to The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up again? Why?

I like listening to this book every time I clean. Marie Kondo's manner of clear direct helpfulness in making my way through my hoards of papers, random items, etc is like a bell helping me gain clarity. I have had feng shui books and getting organized books, but this has really lit a fire for me. Maybe its her sense of urgency, do it and do it quickly. I actually see results and work to keep accomplishing more... I don't procrastinate.

  • Bringing Up Bebe

  • One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting
  • By: Pamela Druckerman
  • Narrated by: Abby Craden
  • Length: 9 hrs and 8 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 3,704
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 3,227
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 3,205

The secret behind France's astonishingly well-behaved children is here. When American journalist Pamela Druckerman has a baby in Paris, she doesn't aspire to become a "French parent". French parenting isn't a known thing, like French fashion or French cheese. Even French parents themselves insist they aren't doing anything special. But French children are far better behaved and more in command of themselves than American kids....

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Inspiring

  • By Em on 04-15-12

Critical thoughts now as a parent

Overall
4 out of 5 stars
Performance
4 out of 5 stars
Story
4 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 10-13-16

Any additional comments?

Bringing up bebe was wonderful book as a pregnant mom-to-be, but has been a more challenging book as an actual parent. Still, I thoroughly enjoyed it and can now contextualize the information and story-telling I enjoyed.

The Pros:

-First of all having a perspective from a different culture is invaluable. It is difficult in any culture to really gain perspective and have a different take when all you get is the same info from everyone around you.

-Also there is a lot of support and what I call counter-shaming for American women who work, whose pregnancies require support, for having a life in addition to your child. This book talks about women in France returning to work at 3 months and switching to formula, even "hippy" women getting epidurals, and staying out late while your child plays with other children. This is really nice to hear even if you don't choose to do these things.

-"Le Pause" is just a great concept... pausing to observe your baby first, and then take action.

-Great public policy of childcare.... wow! I would reread this book just to fantasize about this kind of childcare... a childcare that is supportive of real families and real women who have to work to pay bills. I love it!

The Cons:

Sleeping and "doing your nights" or when does your infant start sleeping through the night. Druckerman suggests French babies "do their nights" by 2-3 months old. This gets me into a really big discussion that is difficult to even outline. For example, is doing your nights simply a 5 hour stretch? Or are we talking all night? Does France believe in a back to back initiative? Do french women/families have their babies sleeping in cribs in their rooms? Bassinets? Swings? In the next room over? Do the French ever co-sleep or have different sleeping arrangements? Are they afraid of SIDS? A lot of American parents slept on their tummy's as infants, and now a lot of our children are sleeping on their backs. I don't know, sometimes this probably doesn't matter, but sometimes babies don't sleep as well, or don't sleep through sleep regressions as well. And certainly temperament should be accounted for, as well as colicky babies and so forth. But this is not particularly touched on in Bebe.

One funny upshot was that pre-baby I was listening to this book and was judging a story about an American woman waking up regularly to feed her baby (probably too often) . I was thinking, "Oh, I'd never do that... that's so obvious!" Yeah, well, the 4 month sleep regression hit hard and I was that woman... but I had that awareness and was able to change things over time. To be clear, my baby was "doing his nights" then the sleep regression changed that. This book, as far as I recall, didn't really account for sleep setbacks or changes that can and do happen for a lot of babies. But maybe the French babies just are great sleepers across the board? I don't know what accounts for this and I'm not clear Druckerman knows either, but clearly some info is missing.

It may be that the French are more traditionalists and if they have all, always used cribs and always had their babes in the next room, it might make sleep training all happen the same way. In America there's a mainstream opinion, and then a lot of side opinions. And, in some metropolitan areas, with so much cultural diversity, education, etc... there's a lot of alternative methods of parenting being introduced. Cry it out? Don't cry it out? I'm just saying... it makes parenting in America, at least potentially confusing for some.

I don't hear Druckerman suggesting the French are sorting out "cry it out" or "not cry it out" or attachment parenting versus traditional parenting. And the lack of her saying anything leads me to come to a likely faulty conclusion(or correct one) that the French might just all do things about the same way, with about the same positive outcome, and if that is the case, it is just not a big deal???

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  • In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts

  • Close Encounters with Addiction
  • By: Gabor Maté
  • Narrated by: Daniel Maté
  • Length: 15 hrs and 45 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 1,048
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 913
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 906

Best-selling writer and physician Gabor Maté looks at the epidemic of addictions in our society, tells us why we are so prone to them, and details what is needed to liberate ourselves. Starting with a close view of his drug-addicted patients, Dr. Maté looks at his own history of compulsive behavior, weaving a story of real people who struggle with addiction with the latest research on addiction and the brain. In a bold synthesis of clinical experience, insight and cutting edge scientific findings, Dr. Maté sheds light on this most puzzling of human frailties.

  • 4 out of 5 stars
  • Great Information

  • By York View on 08-15-11

A Humanizing Look at Addiction

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 05-13-16

What about Daniel Maté’s performance did you like?

Daniel was a fantastic reader... loved his voice and engagement

Any additional comments?

Despite getting bogged down in the first 10 chapters; which were good, but did go on quite a long time, I found the book both picked up and became more relevant at about Chapter 10 when Gabor Mate includes himself. His inclusion of himself brings in a courageous vulnerability to the already vulnerable lives he shares . At this marker, he begins weaving together the initial stories, his own story, successes, failures, policies and ways to consider addiction. In the end, I feel like his breadth, depth and scope of addressing addiction and considering humanizing policies and treatment makes this book a must read. I would like to think in the future we could create more liberal, comprehensive, less stigmatizing and healing treatment options for addiction in the US.

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  • Outrageous Openness

  • Letting the Divine Take the Lead
  • By: Tosha Silver
  • Narrated by: Tosha Silver
  • Length: 4 hrs and 27 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 1,073
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 929
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 926

A compilation of funny, irreverently reverent stories on aligning with the Divine in daily life. For the passionately spiritual and bemusedly skeptical alike. Adapted from a popular column originally published as "San Francisco's Spiritual Examiner" at examiner.com. "What if God IS the story? What if the Divine is constantly igniting roadside flares to get our attention? What if there actually IS a Supreme Organizing Principle with a ribald and unbridled sense of humor? And what if we each have this ardent inner suitor who's writing us love letters every day that often go unopened?"

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Perfect blend of depth and humor

  • By Elizabeth on 02-27-14

Many Paths, One Destination

Overall
4 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
4 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 05-13-16

Any additional comments?

This book gave me the great idea that we don't have to pick one road on the spiritual path. We can acknowledge the many messages in many different traditions and deeply resonate and study all of them. I think part of what she tried to share is that there is a grace or flow to life when you invite in something greater than yourself. So stay open and be prepared for good things, or at least synchronicity.

  • Rising Strong

  • How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
  • By: Brené Brown
  • Narrated by: Brené Brown
  • Length: 8 hrs and 51 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars 11,979
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars 10,523
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars 10,428

Social scientist Brené Brown has ignited a global conversation on courage, vulnerability, shame, and worthiness. Her pioneering work uncovered a profound truth: Vulnerability - the willingness to show up and be seen with no guarantee of outcome - is the only path to more love, belonging, creativity, and joy. But living a brave life is not always easy: We are, inevitably, going to stumble and fall. It is the rise from falling that Brown takes as her subject in Rising Strong.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Learn to live your life with compassion, integrity and authenticity.

  • By Nishna-botna on 08-27-15

I Get Knocked Down, But I Get Up Again

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 05-13-16

Any additional comments?

This book is about what to do after you've failed, fallen down, messed up, missed the mark. What happens in between the event that causes shame and the reaction when we defend against feeling vulnerable? What is that sometimes fast, sometimes slow time when we slip into our own existential fears, our deepest wounds (without anyone else or even ourselves knowing it), and then either own it, or lash, avoid, or dissociate? And how to we get a grip on ourselves to respond to our loved ones, coworkers, bosses in a real, authentic, vulnerable, and empowered place. Wow! This book packs in a lot. Some of her stories overlap with other talks/books, but I think she takes a stand in this book to help readers figure out "what to do next"... or what to do when you blow it.

  • Controlling People

  • How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try to Control You
  • By: Patricia Evans
  • Narrated by: Xe Sands
  • Length: 6 hrs and 34 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 209
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 177
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 173

In Controlling People, best-selling author Patricia Evans tackles the "controlling personality" and reveals how and why these people try to run other people's lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior - even as they alienate others and often lose those they love. Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Wow, Wow, Wow!! Powerful Healing Insights!

  • By Thomasine on 10-08-12

Why Controlling People Control

Overall
4 out of 5 stars
Performance
4 out of 5 stars
Story
4 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 05-13-16

Any additional comments?

The author uses the concept of the controller implanting a "false partner... or idealized partner" into a real partner. She calls this "idealized partner" "Teddy" as in Teddy Bear, as it is an early attachment need/wound. After a while I would say using the word "Teddy" gets redundant, but she does make a hard concept easy to grasp. Generally speaking I am delighted to have her framework to really understand why controlling people do what they do. That said, there are some chapters where she drifts from psychology and immediate relationships to sociology and comments on gangs and group control mentality. I think that should be another book. Either way, it was a helpful read.

  • Not 'Just Friends'

  • Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity
  • By: Shirley P. Glass Ph.D., Jean Coppock Staeheli
  • Narrated by: Laural Merlington
  • Length: 15 hrs and 10 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 287
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 244
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 245

Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • This book has changed my life. Amazing!

  • By Arleen on 11-05-12

Affair Recovery Manual and More

Overall
4 out of 5 stars
Performance
4 out of 5 stars
Story
4 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 10-02-15

Any additional comments?

This book is really comprehensive on this topic. It gives examples as well as suggestions regarding how to understand how certain kinds of affairs happen. It also talks about recovery from affairs and what helps and hinders. If you are looking for support on this journey, this book will do the trick. The only drawback, has probably to do with the difficulty of the subject matter, not the skill of the author or reader. It's a big book and a long audiobook, it's easy to get worn out listening without taking breaks. Potentially, the author could have condensed some material, but again, maybe not.

4 of 5 people found this review helpful

  • Into Thin Air

  • A Personal Account of the Mt. Everest Disaster
  • By: Jon Krakauer
  • Narrated by: Philip Franklin
  • Length: 9 hrs and 8 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 7,798
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 5,999
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 6,017

The definitive, personal account of the deadliest season in the history of Everest by the acclaimed journalist and author of Into the Wild. Read by the author. Also, hear a Fresh Air interview with Krakauer conducted shortly after his ordeal.

  • 5 out of 5 stars
  • Incredible. Horrifying. Amazing.

  • By karen on 06-06-16

Mezmerizing

Overall
5 out of 5 stars
Performance
5 out of 5 stars
Story
5 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 10-02-15

Have you listened to any of Philip Franklin’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

A brief comment on Philip's reading of this book. I'm not clear the South African accent was spot on, but he is one of the most talented readers I've heard. He had to attempt a number of accents and switch back and forth between them. His reading was not a distraction but a definite enhancement to this story.

Any additional comments?

Into Thin Air is easily one of the most compelling audiobooks I've listened to thus far. Krakauer's writing is both detailed, nuanced and full of humanizing details... His inclusion of his multiple interviews with climbers after this tragic event deeply colors and fills out the story line. Descriptions of the scenery on the way to the summit are exquisite and are probably the closest I'll ever get to being there myself. In addition to the story line Krakauer discusses motivations and even archetypes of high altitude mountaineers; their courage, strength, warmth, sometimes lack of warmth, lack of care, single-mindedness, goal-seeking, and ultimately humanity of this group of athletes. Finally, Krakauer shares best he can the history of extreme mountaineers as well as the lives of Nepalese/Sherpa community that co-exist with this avid group of adventurers.In all this story was thrilling, horrifying and deeply touching.

I appreciate the sensitivity and attempt to present a well-rounded account of events as they occurred on May 10th, 1996. I rarely see an author lay out his own challenges, successes, and deep regrets so clearly.

Amazing account, amazing writing. I finished this in 3 days.

  • Love Sense

  • The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships
  • By: Sue Johnson
  • Narrated by: Sue Johnson
  • Length: 12 hrs and 22 mins
  • Unabridged
  • Overall
    4.5 out of 5 stars 444
  • Performance
    4.5 out of 5 stars 374
  • Story
    4.5 out of 5 stars 365

Every day, we hear of relationships failing and questions of whether humans are meant to be monogamous. Love Sense presents new scientific evidence that tells us that humans are meant to mate for life. Dr. Johnson explains that romantic love is an attachment bond, just like that between mother and child, and shows us how to develop our "love sense" - our ability to develop long-lasting relationships. Love is not the least bit illogical or random, but actually an ordered and wise recipe for survival.

  • 2 out of 5 stars
  • No real tips on HOW to become more securely attach

  • By Sophia in SF on 11-10-15

Reviewing Love Sense

Overall
3 out of 5 stars
Performance
4 out of 5 stars
Story
3 out of 5 stars

Reviewed: 09-18-15

Would you try another book from Sue Johnson and/or Sue Johnson?

I highly recommend Hold Me Tightly

Any additional comments?

This book did not speak to me the way Dr. Johnson's book "Hold Me TIght" did. Frankly, I have been told this was her attempt to write a book for the general public. I think there were a couple points she attempted to making, including

1. There is evidence in support of long-term monogamous relationships; this is cited by sharing studies on the importance of oxytocin (hormone) secreted in love relationships as a protective measure in long-term relationships. Lot's of evidence based on "vols" (ground squirrel-like creatures) is cited.

2. A commentary on the present state of social media driven relationships and pornography use as being problematic in general and specifically a challenge for the upcoming generations who are steeped in this culture. There is a separation of sexuality and emotional life, which is concerning.

3. A current trend towards sexual curiosity and exploration while in monogamous relationships. Dr. Johnson is concerned that people are not clear how this exploration may negatively impact relationships.

There's probably a bit more in there too, but I've been a bit dissapointed. I think it just wasn't the kind of book I expected. I think I'll just go back to reading her more clinical/self help books. I wasn't truly in the frame of mind to grapple with the present socio-cultural concerns of sexuality. Even though I could reflect on how they impact my life, I think her concepts of negative patterns and "demon dialogues" and building a secure attachment (from her previous work), is most important to me and what I'll return to.

9 of 10 people found this review helpful