I will continue to listen to this many times in my life.
When I was listening to this book, I had so many
I have recommended this book to many people...friends, family, and even clients.
If you actually know anything about psychology this may seem insulting at times. However the research is well presented and interesting. The authors have clearly done a lot of thinking on the subject.
The narration is extremely dry even for a non-fiction. You have to keep your mind on topic and sometimes that's hard.
Yes, there's logic in pointing out the different styles of attachment. I'm not so sure that this isn't something that required such extensive study to define.
Additionally,, they've boiled this down to something as simple and harmless and benign as the the eye color eye person was born with. This book missed an opportunity to define normal, abnormal and compulsive attachment disorders (think Fatal Attraction). And the opportunity to discuss normal and fixable attachment styles, vs. dysfunctional ones and attachment styles steeped in borderline personality disorder, and other serious mental illnesses and personality disorders..
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - And Keep - Love
Worth the Time and the Money...
This book has some very insightful information that has really helped me understand myself, and also my relationships with people. Easy to understand and it is most definitely worth the listen.
This book and its contents makes so much sence. After reading it im definately going to look on relationships ang girls I date in a whole other way. Very intuitive and well written. I can greatly recommend this book.
In terms of romantic relationships, I have always assumed that there are two kinds of people, which turned out to be known as the anxious and the avoidant people according to this life-saving book, and I thought that I belonged to the first category. Because I blamed myself for being anxious, I did not want to have relationships with other anxious people (one was enough, I thought); and though I did was not a fan of the avoidant type of people, I thought, for lack of a better choice, I preferred to mate with an avoidant person.
After This book entered my life, however, I realize now that I have another choice, another possibility, a new hope! There is a whole new category of people of whose existence I was not aware, but secretly wanted to believe: the secure people. This was hu-u-u-ge comfort to me.
Also, the book helped me to accept myself and see that my sensitivity was not disfunction (as the avoidant people I realized I was surrounded with used to force me to believe).
Thank you all (writers, directors, publishers, featured people, narrator [Walter Dixon’s voice was a delight to hear]) for this book. I love myself more now, and I have hope.
This is a fairly well-written fluffy self-help book. If that's all you're looking for, then by all means, give it a listen.
If, however, you're interested in the actual "science of attachment" and any of the research conducted thereon, this is not the book for you. While it makes reference to some research, there is no attempt made to show that their claims are falsifiable, there are no alternate explanations made, and the entire book is filled with inaccurate sweeping statements. As a student of psychology looking for some interesting extracurricular reading, I was deeply disappointed. The only thing I can truly say I learned from this book is that you can make a lot of money by overgeneralizing a few experiments. If there is any heavy-duty evidence to back up any of their relationship cures, it certainly wasn't included in this book.
Even as self-help, it leaves a lot to be desired. Having someone tell you to "communicate more effectively" is about as helpful as a golf instructor telling you to "swing your club better," and the extent of their dating advice it that everyone should find one of those saintly, all-knowing, all-embracing miracles, the securely attached adult, who automatically does everything right in every relationship. I suppose they're great, if you can find one.
The reader was fine, but there were several jarringly mispronounced words scattered throughout the book.
I've always wondered why I have attracted people who are unable to commit or maintain intimacy. I feel like this is a handbook for a balanced relationship. I am looking forward to dating again, and have great hope that I will now be able to spot potential issues on the first date rather than six weeks or months in. Loved the book. Thanks.