meeting your mother as she is, not as you wished: the mother wound with mindy fetzer

Today’s episode is a heart-wide-open conversation about mothering, memory, and what it means to forgive. Together, Alexa and Mindy explore the complexities of mother wounds, what it means to truly see your mother as a human, and how the deepest healing often begins when we stop waiting for someone else to change—and start changing our relationship to the story.
From estrangement to reconnection, plant medicine to soul conversations, this episode invites you into a tender and transformative reflection on re-mothering, self-worth, and generational healing.

This one isn’t just for those navigating mother relationships. It’s for anyone who’s ever craved to feel safe, seen, and whole—on their own terms.

In This Episode, We Explore:

• The nuanced layers of mother wounds and generational inheritance

• Mindy’s story of estrangement and unexpected reunion with her mom

• The power of plant medicine and soul-to-soul forgiveness

• What it means to re-mother yourself and embody feminine wisdom

• How aging, joy, play, and acceptance shape our relationships

• Letting go of needing others to change—and softening into your own becoming

Reflection Questions:

→ What stories about your mother—or how you were mothered—are you still carrying?
→ Where in your life are you waiting for someone else to change, when what you truly desire is peace within yourself?
→ What does mother energy feel like to you, and how can you begin to embody it now?
→ If forgiveness wasn’t about forgetting—but about freeing yourself—what might you finally release?