In this talk on the paramita of patience (kshanti), impatience is explored as the tension between our desires and reality. Rather than something to resist, it becomes a doorway to awareness when we learn to let experiences arise and pass without reacting. This practice reveals a deeper sense of spaciousness and reduces our dependence on external conditions for fulfillment. Patience, in this way, becomes a flexible and grounded way of relating to both life and the spiritual path.

Jomon introduces the paramitas, core qualities in Buddhist practice that guide the path toward awakening, focusing on generosity and ethical conduct. She explores the meaning of paramita as both “perfection” and “the other shore,” emphasizing that these virtues are not goals to achieve but ways of being to continually embody. Through teachings, stories, and real-life examples, she highlights generosity as a natural expression of compassion and wisdom, extending beyond material giving to include presence, protection, and sharing the teachings. Ethical practice is presented as a stabilizing and “cooling” force in an inflamed world, grounded in non-harming and mindful action. The talk weaves together the bodhisattva vows, the practice of not knowing, and the importance of reflecting on one’s actions, encouraging a life of ongoing care, awareness, and service to others.

Hogen explores the central role of direct experience in practice, emphasizing that true understanding arises from living and sensing life, not just intellectual knowledge. He reflects on how retreats and meditation provide opportunities to experience clarity, presence, and insight, and why these experiences can fade when we return to habitual patterns. Hogen discusses the balance between respecting the miracle of life and the evolutionary growth of our practice, stressing that faith, practice, and engagement with others turn insight into living wisdom. He reminds us that every listener is extraordinary and that the foundation of practice is both appreciation for life and the continual cultivation of mindfulness, generosity, and awareness. This talk was given on Feb 22 2026 at Heart of Wisdom Zen Temple.