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At some point all men reach a point where something in their life stops working.

A career that once made sense now feels constraining.
A relationship feels tense or distant.
Patterns repeat, despite effort and good intentions.

In this episode, Andy Nathan explains why this happens - and why it’s not a failure or flaw.

You’ll be introduced to the 9 Masks of Adam: the survival identities men adapt into early in life, often without realising it.

These strategies once helped you get ahead.
Over time, they become rigid.
And eventually, they stop working.

This episode explores what happens when a man outgrows who he had to become - and why that reckoning is a necessary part of growth.

Men don’t consciously choose the patterns that ultimately shape their lives.

They adapt.

They become who they need to become to handle pressure, expectations, responsibility, or instability.

And for a long time, that works.

Until it doesn’t.

In this episode, Andy explores why men reach a point where something in their life stops working - even though nothing obvious is “wrong.”

You’ll hear:

– Why men adapt into survival identities early in life
– How those adaptations quietly become identity
– The 9 Masks Men Wear - the core survival patterns men live from without realising it
– Why these strategies eventually reach their limit
– What it means to outgrow who you had to become

This episode isn’t about fixing yourself.

It’s about understanding which mask is currently running you - and why life is now demanding something different.

If you’re noticing that effort isn’t creating change,
that old ways of coping don’t land the same way,
or that something in you knows this phase is ending -

This episode will help you understand what’s happening.

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Episode Description:
The calmest man in the room often carries the most pressure.

In this 15-minute episode, Andy explores The I’m Fine Mask — the man who appears chill, easy-going, and low-maintenance, but is quietly carrying resentment, suppressed anger, and a growing sense of being stuck.

This isn’t about anger management or emotional outbursts.
It’s about what happens when a man survives by staying on the surface — and what it costs him at work, at home, and inside himself.

If you’ve ever thought, “Nothing’s wrong… but this can’t be it,” this episode is for you.

In This Episode:

• Why “I’m fine” isn’t a feeling — it’s a survival strategy
• How suppressed anger turns into quiet hostility and resentment
• Why so many dependable men feel unappreciated and stuck
• The hidden cost of being the “easy one”
• What actually needs to shift before pressure takes over

Who This Is For:
Men who:

• Appear calm but feel tense underneath
• Take on too much at work and resent it
• Feel emotionally flat or quietly irritated at home
• Avoid conflict and don’t “do anger”
• Sense something is building but don’t know what to do with it

Key Line:
“You don’t have a strategy for emotion. You only have endurance.”

Series:
This episode is part of The Masks of Adam — short reflections on the survival identities men adopt, and what it takes to move beyond them.

👉 Join the waitlist for The 9 Masks of Adam
A 9-week journey to identify the mask running your life — and remove it so you can finally lead as the man you were meant to be.
Email: andy@andynathan.co.uk

Want to Drop the Masks?
The 9 Masks of Adam begins in February 2026.
If you want to stop letting old survival strategies run your life and start leading from who you truly are, this is for you.

Connect with Andy
Instagram: @andyjnathan / @themanprogram
Website: andynathan.co.uk

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Most men haven’t lost their strength - they’ve just forgotten the fire inside them.
The fire that made them handle hard things without resentment.
The fire that made them feel alive, grounded, and capable.

This episode is about remembering that fire…
And becoming the man who can do what he needs to do without resenting responsibility.

You’ll also hear about The 9 Masks of Adam, a 9-week journey to identify the mask running your life and remove it so you can finally lead as the man you were meant to be.

In this episode, Andy explores why so many high-functioning men feel resentful, tired, or emotionally disconnected - even when their lives “look fine” from the outside.

It isn’t about chores.
It isn’t about motivation.
It’s about the boy inside you still running parts of your adult life…

And the Unfathered Man Mask that shows up when that boy is never replaced by a deeper, internal father.

You’ll learn:

• Why the inner boy resists responsibility and seeks fairness
• Why men feel unseen or unappreciated for “doing the right things”
• What it means to live a life of meaning (and why meaning depends on the why, not the task)
• How Marcus Aurelius used inner discipline to rise above comfort
• The difference between aggression and true inner fire
• Why multiple truths inside you can be valid at the same time
• The warrior: the part of you that acts regardless of feeling
• The internal father: the calm, grounded, unshakeable inner guide
• The unfathered man mask: how men avoid responsibility, purpose, commitment, and themselves
• How to break the mask and grow into the man beneath it
• The Father’s Ledger: a simple nightly practice to stay accountable to the man you’re becoming

If you’ve been feeling stuck, resentful, overwhelmed, or like you’re capable of far more than you’re currently showing… you haven’t lost anything.
You’ve simply forgotten the fire you had - and it’s time to remember it.

👉 Join the waitlist for The 9 Masks of Adam
A 9-week journey to identify the mask running your life - and remove it so you can finally lead as the man you were meant to be.
Email: andy@andynathan.co.uk with the subject line: Masks Waitlist

Want to Drop the Masks?
The 9 Masks of Adam begins in January inside The Man Program.
If you want to stop letting old survival strategies run your life and start leading from who you truly are, this is for you.

Connect with Andy
Instagram: @andyjnathan / @themanprogram
Website: andynathan.co.uk