What happens when you realize you were never the destination, only the bridge?

In this episode, I walk through 30 hard questions designed for anyone coming out of rejection, emotional withdrawal, or spiritual misalignment in modern dating. This is not surface level heartbreak advice. This is a deep psychological and spiritual examination of attachment, overgiving, ego wounds, and what it means to play by secular dating rules while claiming biblical convictions.

We explore:

• Why rejection without conflict feels disorienting
• The difference between intimacy and unity
• Overfunctioning in relationships and emotional imbalance
• Being chosen versus being available
• The psychology of giving too much to earn belonging
• Ego injury after romantic rejection
• Power dynamics and the desire to “flip the script”
• Spiritual alignment in Christian dating
• What happens when belief systems do not match

If you are a single Christian navigating modern dating culture, this episode confronts a difficult truth: two people cannot walk together unless they agree. Chemistry is not covenant. Vulnerability is not permanence. And spiritual misalignment eventually exposes itself.

This conversation blends relationship psychology, Christian worldview analysis, emotional intelligence, attachment awareness, and honest self examination.

If you are:

• Recovering from rejection
• Questioning whether you were loved or used
• Struggling with silence after intimacy
• Wrestling with faith versus dating culture
• Trying to rebuild self respect after giving too much

These 30 questions will challenge you to examine your alignment, your standards, and your identity.

This episode is reflective, direct, and unapologetically honest.

Listen all the way through. Sit with the questions. Then decide what you are building next.

Episode 312 – Old School Values in a Swipe World
Dating Apps, Situationships, and the Fear of Being Replaced

Modern dating feels different when you still believe in old school values.

In Episode 312 of You’re Probably Right, I unpack what it means to navigate dating apps, swipe culture, and situationships while still wanting depth, loyalty, and permanence.

What happens when intimacy feels real but commitment never anchors?
What does it do to your confidence when someone moves on without disruption?
Is it attachment style, emotional availability, or simply misalignment?

This episode explores:

• Modern dating psychology
• Dating apps and swipe culture
• Situationship dynamics
• The fear of being replaceable
• Emotional asymmetry in relationships
• Why effort does not guarantee attachment
• The difference between chemistry and gravity

This is not dating advice.
This is an honest analysis of what it feels like to care deeply in a world that moves quickly.

If you’ve ever felt optional, easily replaced, or out of sync with modern dating culture, this conversation will resonate.

Old school values are not outdated.
But they do feel different in a swipe world.

Episode 311 – Why You Change When You Like Someone (And Start Losing Yourself)

Why do confident, capable adults suddenly shrink in romantic relationships?

Why do you stay steady everywhere else in life, but start overthinking, overgiving, and altering yourself the moment you really like someone?

In this episode, we break down the psychology behind losing yourself in relationships, fear of abandonment, anxious attachment patterns, childhood bullying trauma, sexual deprivation, and the need to be chosen.

This is not about blaming partners. It is about understanding why high functioning professionals, divorced parents, thirty year old women dating, and fifty year old men afraid of becoming undesirable can all experience the same emotional collapse when romance is involved.

We explore:

• Why you change when you like someone
• How early rejection or bullying affects adult attachment
• The connection between sexual rejection and emotional insecurity
• Why you overfunction and overgive in relationships
• The psychology of shrinking yourself to avoid abandonment
• Why being “chosen” feels like survival
• How to stop betraying yourself to keep access to someone

If you have ever felt confident in life but insecure in love, this episode will resonate deeply.

This is a structured, honest examination of attachment fear, emotional deprivation, relationship insecurity, and the hidden cost of trying to be enough for someone who is not fully meeting you.

You are probably right.

But you may be shrinking.

And that is what we are fixing.