Words of Life: Do not commit adultery

Being unfaithful in marriage is not an option for Jesus followers. God tells us, "You must not commit adultery" in the 7th Commandment. When couples are married, they promise to be loyal to one another. In others words, no affairs, no infidelity, and no sexual intercourse with another person.

Adultery was a problem in the ancient world and, despite declining for decades, it continues to be a problem. Adultery is not limited to sexual relationships outside of marriage. Non-physical affairs, pornagraphy addiction, and virtual relationsnips are all unfaithful. Adultery isn't limited to marriage. It occurs in committed relationships as well.

When Moses brought the Ten Commandments down from Mt. Sinai, the Hewbrews had a much different understanding of adultery. Then it was all about the behavior of women, who were considered property. Because wives were paid for with a bride price, the mindset was that a woman was being stolen from her husband if she committed adultery. Exposed adultery resulted in severe punishment — public execution for both the married woman and the man who stole her.

The theme of adultery is woven throughout the Bible. The book 2 Samuel describes King David's affair, three chapters of Proverbs are devoted to adultery, it's discussed in the Sermon on the Mount, and Jesus refuses to condemn an adulterous woman in John 8. Instead, he points out our hypocrisy and quickness to judge others without addressing our own sinfulness. If you've committed adultery, Jesus is ready to forgive you.

Although the 7th Commandment specifically tells us to avoid adultery, Pastor Mia reminds us that faithfulness in marriage also requires sustained care. Do you pay attention to your spouse? Are you compassionate? Do you listen? Are you a good partner in managing household and family responsiblities? Do you express your love and does your spouse hear you? Faithfulness and this kind of love is a daily decision that requires our whole heart.