Series 7: Unlocked Letters: A Journey Through Hurt and Hope

Episode 126: Dear Red Queen: I Learned Rage from You

In this raw and powerful episode, I pen a letter to the "Red Queen" within—my inner embodiment of anger, fear, and frustration.

Through the lens of Alice in Wonderland, I reflect on how this fierce, unpredictable force became ingrained in my emotional landscape.

From childhood tantrums to the destructive cycle of self-loathing, the Red Queen’s reign is both a symbol and a symptom of deeper trauma, neurodivergence, and Borderline Personality Disorder.

As I explore the roots of my rage, I also confront its influence on my self-worth and relationships. But it’s not just about fury—it’s about understanding, taming, and learning to live with this powerful force. In this episode, I share the journey from feeling consumed by anger to reclaiming my power and compassion.

It's a story of discovering that rage doesn't have to define us; we can learn from it, grow through it, and ultimately find a way to channel it into something constructive.

Join me for an intimate, emotional exploration of healing through the chaos, as I write to the Red Queen, finally telling her that the reign is over—it's time to build a kingdom from the ashes.

Series 6: Not Quite Alice — The Wonderland of Being Given Away

E125: The Hatter’s Diagnosis

“Mad, aren’t you?” In this episode of Wonderland Unlocked, we sit down with the Hatter — or rather, the long line of therapists, teachers, doctors, and well-meaning adults who tried to explain what was “wrong” with us.

Being adopted often means being pathologized. Big emotions? Must be a disorder. Questions about identity? Probably defiance. In The Hatter’s Diagnosis, we untangle the confusion of growing up under clinical scrutiny — where behaviors shaped by loss, trauma, or survival were labeled instead of understood.

This episode explores how adoptees are often handed diagnoses before they’re handed compassion — and what it means to reclaim your story when the labels don’t quite fit.

Series 6: Not Quite Alice — The Wonderland of Being Given Away

E124: The Queen’s Checklist — Good Adoptee Behavior

In this episode, we step into the throne room of expectations — where adoptees are handed invisible scrolls of how to behave, how to feel, and who to be. “Be grateful,” “Don’t ask questions,” “Smile and stay small.” Sound familiar?

Today on Wonderland Unlocked, we open up the Queen’s gilded checklist and take a closer look at the impossible standards many adoptees are expected to meet just to feel safe, loved, or enough. From people-pleasing to performance, this chapter in our Not Quite Alice series explores how being adopted can turn identity into a balancing act — all under the Queen’s watchful eye.

What happens when you start scribbling on the list… or throw it away altogether?