Why you pick fights when things are going well

Why do we create conflict when life is actually going well?

In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I unpack the “upper limit problem” — the unconscious pattern of sabotaging joy, abundance, and peace when they start to feel unfamiliar.

I share a real story of catching myself mid-spiral after an expansive workshop and the simple question that stopped me from creating unnecessary conflict.

In this episode, we explore:

- Why arguments aren’t really about the dishes

- How worry turns into criticism

- The 4 core fears that drive self-sabotage

- Why peace can feel unsafe to a dysregulated nervous system

- How to self-soothe instead of outsourcing reassurance

Your invitation…

The next time you feel the urge to criticize, argue, or spiral, ask yourself:

What happened right before this?

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