Why You're Lonely: The Psychology of "Situationships" & The Sex Recession

Why is everyone so lonely? Why has the number of men with zero romantic partners tripled in the last decade?

In this episode of Sober Psychology, I'll dissect the "Sex Recession" and the death of modern intimacy. We aren't just talking about bad dates; we are talking about how technology, pornography, and the "Cult of Self-Love" are chemically castrating your ability to bond.

From the neuroscience of the Coolidge Effect to the Scotch Tape Theory of heartbreak, we break down exactly why you feel empty even when you have endless options. We also dive deep into the Peter Pan Syndrome (Puer Aeternus), why "Situationships" are for cowards, and the Biblical theology of becoming "One Flesh."

If you are tired of ghosting, scrolling, and feeling numb, this 60-minute deep dive is the hard truth you need to hear.

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- The Coolidge Effect: The biological phenomenon where dopamine surges in response to novelty (new partners), leading to the desensitization of attraction to long-term partners.

- The Scotch Tape Theory: A metaphor for how repeated casual sexual encounters damage the neurochemical receptors (Vasopressin/Oxytocin) required for deep, long-term bonding.

- Peter Pan Syndrome (Puer Aeternus): The Jungian archetype of the adult man who refuses to grow up, opting for the fantasy of potential over the reality of commitment.

- Avoidant Attachment: The psychological style of craving intimacy but pushing it away the moment it becomes real or vulnerable._____________________________________________________________📚 REFERENCES & RESOURCES

- The Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz

- The Peter Pan Syndrome by Dr. Dan Kiley

- The Four Loves by C.S. Lewis

- General Social Survey (GSS) Data on the "Sex Recession"

- Carl Jung on the Puer Aeternus

- Scripture: Genesis 2:24, John 15:13

_____________________________________________________________Chapters:

0:00 - The Hook: You Are Eating Plastic Food

2:00 - The Paradox of Choice: Why You Can't Pick a Spouse

3:44 - The Coolidge Effect: How Porn Destroys Intimacy

5:49 - The Scotch Tape Theory: The Neuroscience of Bonding & Heartbreak

8:15 - The "Situationship" Epidemic & Avoidant Attachment

9:58 - The Cult of "Self-Love": Why Narcissism is Disguised as Wellness

12:11 - The Theology of "Into-Me-See" (Naked & Ashamed)

14:02 - Peter Pan Syndrome: Why Men Won't Grow Up (Jungian Psychology)

16:03 - The Death of Polarity (Masculine vs. Feminine)

17:39 - The Solution: Radical Monogamy

_____________________________________________________________Disclaimer: I am a psychologist in training. This content is for educational and entertainment purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional therapy. If you are struggling with sex addiction or depression, please seek a licensed professional.